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  • onthaflyonthafly Posts: 1,143 ✭✭✭✭
    onthafly wrote: »
    When I knew I was gonna leave my wife I started documenting everything. Calling the police for the slightest shit. Nigga built a paper for real. Went to work on her mentally and financially. Put her in a position to submit to whatever I asked for.

    End result, my daughter is in her room watching curious George and eating apple sauce and my ex is doing whatever it is a dumb bitch does when they don't have kids to be responsible for.

    I'm a cutthroat type of nigga. I went to extremes to get my way. Idk what else to tell you bruh. Be a bitch about the situation or do what you gotta do to get your favor my nigga.

    Why did you decide to end it?

    My daughters well being was jeopardized as well as my sanity dealing with a raging alcoholic.

    My situation isn't as extreme. I was hoping we could have some kind of 21st century post-divorce co-parenting lifestyle where we get along when we see each other and do what's in the best interest of our kids without letting personal feelings or anger make things bitter.
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  • Rozetta5toneRozetta5tone Don't quote me bro Right herePosts: 4,491 ✭✭✭✭✭
    onthafly wrote: »
    onthafly wrote: »
    When I knew I was gonna leave my wife I started documenting everything. Calling the police for the slightest shit. Nigga built a paper for real. Went to work on her mentally and financially. Put her in a position to submit to whatever I asked for.

    End result, my daughter is in her room watching curious George and eating apple sauce and my ex is doing whatever it is a dumb bitch does when they don't have kids to be responsible for.

    I'm a cutthroat type of nigga. I went to extremes to get my way. Idk what else to tell you bruh. Be a bitch about the situation or do what you gotta do to get your favor my nigga.

    Why did you decide to end it?

    My daughters well being was jeopardized as well as my sanity dealing with a raging alcoholic.

    My situation isn't as extreme. I was hoping we could have some kind of 21st century post-divorce co-parenting lifestyle where we get along when we see each other and do what's in the best interest of our kids without letting personal feelings or anger make things bitter.
    Leave her first. May sound cold but just leave. Check on the kids but don't fight for them. Take the time to get your mind right and gradually work your way into being civil with her. Communication is key but not too much. Tell her just enough to give her a scope of your intentions. You have to be cool and collected. No emotions regarding her and restrained emotion regarding the kids.

    If you really wanna call it quits and coparent efficiently, all emotions besides platonic are going to have to be severed.

    Start working on whatever bitterness, resentment etc that you have between each other now and establish a new relationship dialogue based solely on the kids.

    Only way coparent situations work 100% are when both sides have moved on 100%. Get closure and establish a new relationship with her sans intimacy and love beyond friendship




    Beech Oss Neega
  • C da Night KingC da Night King Antisocial Extrovert Posts: 2,451 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited July 10
    onthafly wrote: »
    When I knew I was gonna leave my wife I started documenting everything. Calling the police for the slightest shit. Nigga built a paper for real. Went to work on her mentally and financially. Put her in a position to submit to whatever I asked for.

    End result, my daughter is in her room watching curious George and eating apple sauce and my ex is doing whatever it is a dumb bitch does when they don't have kids to be responsible for.

    I'm a cutthroat type of nigga. I went to extremes to get my way. Idk what else to tell you bruh. Be a bitch about the situation or do what you gotta do to get your favor my nigga.

    Why did you decide to end it?

    My daughters well being was jeopardized as well as my sanity dealing with a raging alcoholic.

    Did you call the police everytime she got drunk or something?

    Asking for a friend in a similar situation, lol.

    Edit: Matter of fact, drop your story if you don't mind @Rozetta5tone
    Stew
  • Rozetta5toneRozetta5tone Don't quote me bro Right herePosts: 4,491 ✭✭✭✭✭
    charles2 wrote: »
    onthafly wrote: »
    When I knew I was gonna leave my wife I started documenting everything. Calling the police for the slightest shit. Nigga built a paper for real. Went to work on her mentally and financially. Put her in a position to submit to whatever I asked for.

    End result, my daughter is in her room watching curious George and eating apple sauce and my ex is doing whatever it is a dumb bitch does when they don't have kids to be responsible for.

    I'm a cutthroat type of nigga. I went to extremes to get my way. Idk what else to tell you bruh. Be a bitch about the situation or do what you gotta do to get your favor my nigga.

    Why did you decide to end it?

    My daughters well being was jeopardized as well as my sanity dealing with a raging alcoholic.

    Did you call the police everytime she got drunk or something?

    Asking for a friend in a similar situation, lol.

    When she got belligerent enough to start threatening harm. Simple assault shows aggression and propensity for violence. Enough charges and by the time you're in front of the judge, the mental state, child welfare and safety are questionable regarding custody with the offending party.




    deadeyeStewPureYang
  • onthaflyonthafly Posts: 1,143 ✭✭✭✭
    edited July 10
    onthafly wrote: »
    onthafly wrote: »
    When I knew I was gonna leave my wife I started documenting everything. Calling the police for the slightest shit. Nigga built a paper for real. Went to work on her mentally and financially. Put her in a position to submit to whatever I asked for.

    End result, my daughter is in her room watching curious George and eating apple sauce and my ex is doing whatever it is a dumb bitch does when they don't have kids to be responsible for.

    I'm a cutthroat type of nigga. I went to extremes to get my way. Idk what else to tell you bruh. Be a bitch about the situation or do what you gotta do to get your favor my nigga.

    Why did you decide to end it?

    My daughters well being was jeopardized as well as my sanity dealing with a raging alcoholic.

    My situation isn't as extreme. I was hoping we could have some kind of 21st century post-divorce co-parenting lifestyle where we get along when we see each other and do what's in the best interest of our kids without letting personal feelings or anger make things bitter.
    Leave her first. May sound cold but just leave. Check on the kids but don't fight for them. Take the time to get your mind right and gradually work your way into being civil with her. Communication is key but not too much. Tell her just enough to give her a scope of your intentions. You have to be cool and collected. No emotions regarding her and restrained emotion regarding the kids.

    If you really wanna call it quits and coparent efficiently, all emotions besides platonic are going to have to be severed.

    Start working on whatever bitterness, resentment etc that you have between each other now and establish a new relationship dialogue based solely on the kids.

    Only way coparent situations work 100% are when both sides have moved on 100%. Get closure and establish a new relationship with her sans intimacy and love beyond friendship

    Do I file for divorce when I leave or do I just up and dissappear?
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    Support our troops - http://www.gofundme.com/nodk0o
    TrillfateStewlord nemesisgalaxy_1221
  • C da Night KingC da Night King Antisocial Extrovert Posts: 2,451 ✭✭✭✭✭
    charles2 wrote: »
    onthafly wrote: »
    When I knew I was gonna leave my wife I started documenting everything. Calling the police for the slightest shit. Nigga built a paper for real. Went to work on her mentally and financially. Put her in a position to submit to whatever I asked for.

    End result, my daughter is in her room watching curious George and eating apple sauce and my ex is doing whatever it is a dumb bitch does when they don't have kids to be responsible for.

    I'm a cutthroat type of nigga. I went to extremes to get my way. Idk what else to tell you bruh. Be a bitch about the situation or do what you gotta do to get your favor my nigga.

    Why did you decide to end it?

    My daughters well being was jeopardized as well as my sanity dealing with a raging alcoholic.

    Did you call the police everytime she got drunk or something?

    Asking for a friend in a similar situation, lol.

    When she got belligerent enough to start threatening harm. Simple assault shows aggression and propensity for violence. Enough charges and by the time you're in front of the judge, the mental state, child welfare and safety are questionable regarding custody with the offending party.

    Yeah, this situation doesn't involve threats or harm. She's just out of it when she drinks and can't be trusted alone with the kids. Not that she'd do anything intentionally, but she gets irresponsible enough to where the chance for something to happen goes up.
  • Rozetta5toneRozetta5tone Don't quote me bro Right herePosts: 4,491 ✭✭✭✭✭
    That's up to you man. Idk what type of chick you have.




  • trendsetta1030trendsetta1030 Where the money at...Posts: 2,727 ✭✭✭✭✭
    onthafly wrote: »
    I make decent money. I'm ok with paying child support and alimony. If I try to stick it out and it fails 10 years down the road, I'd be paying permanent alimony for the rest of my life because she probably still won't be working and I think that would just lead to resentment. I'd also rather have part of my income and be with a woman that's working in the long run if we're talking finances.

    Move tha new bitch in an put tha old 1 in tha guest room get em 2 get along an Yo wife can be tha sitter since she wan stay at home
    deadeyeMaywood
  • KoltrainKoltrain Mr. MOPosts: 4,230 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Bruh you sound like you have trouble being decisive overall. Nobody here is going to convince you either way. I know its tough when kids are involved...but you gotta start making some decisions and stop analyzing.. Don't leave nothing up for interpretation. And sounds like you should seek full custody.
  • deadeyedeadeye Walmart Warrior Kat's buttPosts: 22,814 ✭✭✭✭✭
    charles2 wrote: »
    charles2 wrote: »
    onthafly wrote: »
    When I knew I was gonna leave my wife I started documenting everything. Calling the police for the slightest shit. Nigga built a paper for real. Went to work on her mentally and financially. Put her in a position to submit to whatever I asked for.

    End result, my daughter is in her room watching curious George and eating apple sauce and my ex is doing whatever it is a dumb bitch does when they don't have kids to be responsible for.

    I'm a cutthroat type of nigga. I went to extremes to get my way. Idk what else to tell you bruh. Be a bitch about the situation or do what you gotta do to get your favor my nigga.

    Why did you decide to end it?

    My daughters well being was jeopardized as well as my sanity dealing with a raging alcoholic.

    Did you call the police everytime she got drunk or something?

    Asking for a friend in a similar situation, lol.

    When she got belligerent enough to start threatening harm. Simple assault shows aggression and propensity for violence. Enough charges and by the time you're in front of the judge, the mental state, child welfare and safety are questionable regarding custody with the offending party.

    Yeah, this situation doesn't involve threats or harm. She's just out of it when she drinks and can't be trusted alone with the kids. Not that she'd do anything intentionally, but she gets irresponsible enough to where the chance for something to happen goes up.



    @charles2


    @Rozetta5tone



    Just curious, but what do you two think was the root cause of your wives' drinking?



    Do you think they were just overwhelmed with the responsibility of being a mother/wife or was it something else?



    Were they drinking like this before you got married?
    deadeye
    So, you're mad because I quoted a post.....that included a scantily clad pic of you......that you sent to another man.....while both of you are supposed to be in committed relationships with other people?

    Hilarious.
    June 12 Delete


    MsSouthern
    just messy ...smh
    June 12



    deadeye
    You can call me messy, but you can't say I was lying about anything I said.
    June 12 Delete


    MzGrahamBitches
    gtfoff my page and mind your fucking business old man.


    Oh wait, you have no business which is why you stalk various females on the internet tryibg to interject yourself into their business.

    Fuck off.
    June 12


    deadeye
    Most of your business is public knowledge Kathryn.

    You should learn to exercise more discretion.

    You're too old to continuously find yourself in compromising situations.

    I'm extremely disappointed in your behavior and expect much better of you in the future.

    With compassion, concern, sincerity, and due diligence.
    June 12 Delete

    MzGrahamBitches
    I hope you die of old age tonight.
    June 12

    deadeye
    That's a horrible thing to say.

    I'm sorry you feel that way Kathryn.

    However, I've never heard of anyone dying of old age at 43.

    My words must've really hit home for you to want me to die tonight.

    I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings.

    Instead of wishing me death, your time would be better served reflecting on your past transgressions and thinking about what steps you can take to improve yourself.
    June 12 Delete


    Dirty Sanchez
    kat caught feelings
    June 12

    deadeye
    Indeed she did.

    Definitely not your usual white woman.
    June 12 Delete

    MzGrahamBitches
    Titanagraphs but I caught feelings..ok.

    Type me another one pops.
    June 12


    deadeye
    You wished death upon me Kathryn.

    Solely because I quoted a post which featured you in a bathrobe with your privates partially exposed.

    A pic that would have never been publicly accessible had it not been for your carelessness and bad judgement.

    Essentially, you want me to die for your mistakes.

    Smarten up Kathryn.

    If anyone caught feelings it's you.

    This is just entertainment for me.
    June 12 Delete




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    @deadeye nah mate, fuck off, I literally hate seeing your name in my notifications because I know it's your FUCKING LIST. I'm tired of being @'d to some thread because of your shitty list, makes me just want to punch you in your fat fucking face.

    You're a digrace to creepset and 'mature' black men the world over.

    Fuck your entire existence.


    You are a plain idiot. Since you cannot give birth nor have a proper sense of enduring and suffering you cannot understand my post.

    @Westie has put her life on the line several times to give life. I wish I had an ounce of that courage, endurance and resiliance.

    Peace
  • 2stepz_ahead2stepz_ahead Who I am is Complex, What i am, simply put. I'm a Threat walking out the lions denPosts: 32,005 ✭✭✭✭✭
    i had ratchet babymamas that i was young and dumb enough to nut in....but had to take my kids with me.

    at
    t the end of the day......i dont understand the question
    you have the dude who is naturally thorough -Alpha
    you have the dude that wants to be thorough so he pretend to be Alpha -Beta
    then you have the nigga who wants to hang with the first two to be seen and grab any dropped crumbs.- Omega

    I am still struggling between blocks to get from the have nots to the have yachts and I won't be stopped.



    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=HhTZZdVbjio


  • Mister B.Mister B. Still the Devil's #1 Advocate. Come on out that box! Posts: 16,099 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited September 16
    onthafly wrote: »
    yadda yadda

    Hate to tell you this, but that's where you fucked up. Marriage just cause you have kids is NEVER the right thing to do.
    mirthewriter.wordpress.com
    Read that jawn....
    trendsetta1030Stewlord nemesisChi Snow
  • 2stepz_ahead2stepz_ahead Who I am is Complex, What i am, simply put. I'm a Threat walking out the lions denPosts: 32,005 ✭✭✭✭✭
    my wife an i got together in the weirdest way..

    but once we grew and matured we now compliment each other in ways i would have never imagined.

    we have our ups and down and marriage is hard fukkin work....but it can be very rewarding and its not for everybody.

    i would suggest you see the world before you settle tho.

    my wife will never know how much she has saved me from myself.
    you have the dude who is naturally thorough -Alpha
    you have the dude that wants to be thorough so he pretend to be Alpha -Beta
    then you have the nigga who wants to hang with the first two to be seen and grab any dropped crumbs.- Omega

    I am still struggling between blocks to get from the have nots to the have yachts and I won't be stopped.



    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=HhTZZdVbjio


    twenty2
  • Mister B.Mister B. Still the Devil's #1 Advocate. Come on out that box! Posts: 16,099 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Dog, STOP STAYING WITH PEOPLE FOR KIDS.

    Eventually, they'll grow up and move out. You're still gonna be stuck with her. And if your kids find out that fact, they may resent you for thinking they was a "chore."

    If you're truly unhappy, and therapy/counseling hasn't worked, you gotta do what you gotta do. Who knows: this may force her to get off her ass (your thoughts), and do something.
    mirthewriter.wordpress.com
    Read that jawn....
    onthafly
  • nex ginnex gin Keep It Simple Stupid Posts: 10,697 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited September 16
    onthafly wrote: »
    yadda yadda

    Bruh....take it from me. Get the fuck out of that shit asap. It may seem tough now, but it doesn't get any easier. You have to do what's right for you and your children. Don't waste the best years of your life stuck in an unhappy, unfulfilling relationship. I made that mistake once. Never again.
    The person who controls your anger controls you.

    The conventional mind is passive. It consumes information and
    regurgitates it in familiar forms. The dimensional mind is active
    transforming everything it digests into something new & original,
    creating instead of consuming.

    Excuses don't solve problems.

    Life is a series of serious choices
    Theories are formed from experience, never mysterious forces
    onthaflyCincoonetoughmiracle
  • C da Night KingC da Night King Antisocial Extrovert Posts: 2,451 ✭✭✭✭✭
    deadeye wrote: »
    charles2 wrote: »
    charles2 wrote: »
    onthafly wrote: »
    When I knew I was gonna leave my wife I started documenting everything. Calling the police for the slightest shit. Nigga built a paper for real. Went to work on her mentally and financially. Put her in a position to submit to whatever I asked for.

    End result, my daughter is in her room watching curious George and eating apple sauce and my ex is doing whatever it is a dumb bitch does when they don't have kids to be responsible for.

    I'm a cutthroat type of nigga. I went to extremes to get my way. Idk what else to tell you bruh. Be a bitch about the situation or do what you gotta do to get your favor my nigga.

    Why did you decide to end it?

    My daughters well being was jeopardized as well as my sanity dealing with a raging alcoholic.

    Did you call the police everytime she got drunk or something?

    Asking for a friend in a similar situation, lol.

    When she got belligerent enough to start threatening harm. Simple assault shows aggression and propensity for violence. Enough charges and by the time you're in front of the judge, the mental state, child welfare and safety are questionable regarding custody with the offending party.

    Yeah, this situation doesn't involve threats or harm. She's just out of it when she drinks and can't be trusted alone with the kids. Not that she'd do anything intentionally, but she gets irresponsible enough to where the chance for something to happen goes up.



    @charles2


    @Rozetta5tone



    Just curious, but what do you two think was the root cause of your wives' drinking?



    Do you think they were just overwhelmed with the responsibility of being a mother/wife or was it something else?



    Were they drinking like this before you got married?

    I think that's been my mistake for so long, trying to tie a reason to the drinking. Some people just addicts bro and ain't nothing you can do to change that but push them to get help.

    My wife is amazing and a perfect mother... when she's not drinking. She turns into another person, almost literally. I've held up hope only because of who she is when she's not drinking. Plus she's always tried to do better, just hadn't crossed that hurdle completely. And she doesn't trip or wild out anymore when she drinks, she just becomes a zombie for the entire weekend.
    deadeye
  • mryounggunmryounggun Loading up my Grey Matter Glock Posts: 13,433 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited September 16
    onthafly wrote: »
    .....

    Why did your pops automatically feel like you should file for full custody? Did you agree with that? Is there something that makes her unfit to care for your children?

    Inquiring minds.
  • mryounggunmryounggun Loading up my Grey Matter Glock Posts: 13,433 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Trillfate wrote: »
    onthafly wrote: »
    Fuck. Here goes

    Recap. Got my girlfriend pregnant at 21. We got married because I thought it was the right thing to do. We had issues which are discussed in detail in the below threads. Had another kid. I filed for divorce while she was pregnant and my parents supported me through it. My dad wanted me to go for full custody of my son but once it became more clear that it wasn't going to happen I decided not to go through with the divorce. Here I am almost two years later ready to file again. Just want to know if it somehow makes me irresponsible or less of a man to only be in my children's lives part time and if that's something you'd ever be able to make up for. I have a 5 year old and a 1 year old.





    http://community.allhiphop.com/discussion/527906/ladies-youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-how-much-should-your-husband-do-around-the-house

    http://community.allhiphop.com/discussion/536230/lazy-housewife-part-2/p1
    Society's trap...

    They tell you're "supposed" to do this and that by X years old. You fell for it bruh..

    Co-signature.
  • Rozetta5toneRozetta5tone Don't quote me bro Right herePosts: 4,491 ✭✭✭✭✭
    She had issues before me. We got together on some bobby and Whitney type shit. I still struggle with my chemical/narcotic dependency but I fight.

    She doesn't fight nor want help. She's violent and disrespectful when she's on a binge. She's had a lot of shit go on in her life but so did I.

    I would be more tolerant and supportive if she wanted help but she doesn't. She refuses to acknowledge her problem because she is surrounded by so many enablers.




    deadeyeAggieLean.blackgod813Mister B.
  • onthaflyonthafly Posts: 1,143 ✭✭✭✭
    mryounggun wrote: »
    onthafly wrote: »
    Fuck. Here goes

    Recap. Got my girlfriend pregnant at 21. We got married because I thought it was the right thing to do. We had issues which are discussed in detail in the below threads. Had another kid. I filed for divorce while she was pregnant and my parents supported me through it. My dad wanted me to go for full custody of my son but once it became more clear that it wasn't going to happen I decided not to go through with the divorce. Here I am almost two years later ready to file again. Just want to know if it somehow makes me irresponsible or less of a man to only be in my children's lives part time and if that's something you'd ever be able to make up for. I have a 5 year old and a 1 year old.





    http://community.allhiphop.com/discussion/527906/ladies-youre-a-stay-at-home-mom-how-much-should-your-husband-do-around-the-house

    http://community.allhiphop.com/discussion/536230/lazy-housewife-part-2/p1

    Why did your pops automatically feel like you should file for full custody? Did you agree with that? Is there something that makes her unfit to care for your children?

    Inquiring minds.

    He was just thinking about him and his. She wasn't taking care of the house or working and our son got into a bottle of benadryl when I was at work. I think my folk also just didn't like her and felt like she was taking advantage of me.
    Help out a struggling white family - http://www.gofundme.com/no11vs

    or

    Support our troops - http://www.gofundme.com/nodk0o
    Trollio
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