Confessing:Would you Tell?

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  • atribecalledgabiatribecalledgabi Posts: 5,662
    edited November 2011
    why would i do some dumb shit like that?

    at the most i would distance myself from the friend depending on the severity/circumstances of the cheating and also depending on how close i was with the s/o.
  • Q45TQ45T Posts: 5,811
    edited November 2011
    Why the hell would I do that? Like I give 2 fucks about sum nigga's wife...
  • R.D.R.D. Posts: 10,643
    edited November 2011
    Q45T wrote: »
    Why the hell would I do that? Like I give 2 fucks about sum nigga's wife...

    pretty much ! depending on where we are in our life, i might encourage that shit


    S/N: mikko story makes an immediate blood test after birth non negotiable
  • mryounggunmryounggun Posts: 9,275
    edited November 2011
    What type of shit is this? If you have a FRIEND, then you're loyalty is to that friend, not their spouse. If you have a problem with him fucking different women every week, the OG way to handle that shit would be to tell his ass behind closed doors that he needs to slow the fuck down and that he's acting like an asshole. But to actually tell the spouse? WTF???
  • JusDre313JusDre313 Posts: 2,538
    edited November 2011
    to ts... naw i mean its not really my place to say... but im like this i cant associate myself with snake ass people period..even if i known u ten years bruh.. if u creeping on yo ol lady all the time.. imma tell u how i feel and leave it like that.. then id prolly stop fucking wit u cuz i cant see myself smiling in that persons face (the spouse) and pretending i dont know he fucking ey thing with a pussy

    to mikko... i really feel u i do..but ya friend aint shit.. no knock to u, becuase u havent done anything wrong. but she aint shit regarless of how much she has done for u etc etc.. for a woman to fool a man into raising another mans kid.. i dont give a fuck if that bitch volunteer 7 days a week at a shelter and serves as replacement Nun on Sundays she aint shit.
    i just dont undersatnd why people keep crab ass friends in they circle

    once again not trying to put u out there i have this same convo with a female coworker with snakes ass friends everyweek.. but then again maybe im different i can cut "friends" out of my life like a knife thru butter so **shrugs**
  • bdbdbdbdbdbd Posts: 2,354
    edited November 2011
    JadaRoss wrote: »
    if you knew your homeboy was cheating on his wife for years,would you tell it?

    man i bin known my homeboy, bin cheating on his girl, and to make things worse his chick is a proper down chick, like she looks after him, is kinda fine, and is cool as fuck.....
    but for two reasons i wouldnt say shit, 1) thats my nigga, 2) that aint my business.

    interstingly though, she just found out that he cheated on her with one chick (there were may more)...she let it slide....but my way of thinking is, she works in the navy so she is gone for long periods of time.....if she wernt fucking around before she definately is now.....but i couldnt bring myself to say that to my boy.....but i could see in his eyes he was thinking it.....

    my point being. no need to get involved, life has a way of sorting itself out
  • JadaRossJadaRoss Posts: 6,799
    edited November 2011
    Mikko you got a shady ass friend.how can you trust her around your bf/husband?

    if she will fuck around on her husband,get pregnant by some other nigga and he think the child is his what you think he's going to do to her once he finds out??

    he has every right to beat that shady ass.you dont do no shit like that
  • HurumaHuruma Posts: 2,284
    edited November 2011
    I may or may not tell, depending on circumstances (ie. if he's having unprotected sex with other women, how likely it is that she'll find out in a worse way, ). By default, I would probably mind my own business but not being able to predict all future possibilities is a problem. The possibility of his causing her extreme grief trumps my 'loyalty' to him. If his actions don't harm her then I see nothing wrong with them.

    Mikko_ wrote: »
    Who the hell would do that?

    My loyalty is always to my friend. I have a close friend who is married to a really great guy but their son isn't his, and he has no clue:(

    At the risk of contradicting myself, I think, as a general rule, that it is usually better for all parties involved to know the truth about paternity sooner rather than later since there are so many ways it might come up later (never mind the fact that it's beneficial for doctors to know about a patient's biological parents/family members so they can determine the likeliness of certain diseases and disorders, if breast cancer runs in someone's biological family, they should know about it so they can take preventive measures) and the longer the deception, the worse the truth might be if it does ever come out. Again, if neither the son or father is harmed by not knowing, I don't see the problem.
  • atribecalledgabiatribecalledgabi Posts: 5,662
    edited November 2011
    bdbdbd wrote: »
    man i bin known my homeboy, bin cheating on his girl, and to make things worse his chick is a proper down chick, like she looks after him, is kinda fine, and is cool as fuck.....
    but for two reasons i wouldnt say shit, 1) thats my nigga, 2) that aint my business.

    interstingly though, she just found out that he cheated on her with one chick (there were may more)...she let it slide....but my way of thinking is, she works in the navy so she is gone for long periods of time.....if she wernt fucking around before she definately is now.....but i couldnt bring myself to say that to my boy.....but i could see in his eyes he was thinking it.....

    my point being. no need to get involved, life has a way of sorting itself out

    cs. life is a better teacher than any of us could ever be.
  • sniff-n-wesumsniff-n-wesum Posts: 45
    edited November 2011
    mikko's story just makes me scared of these women even more. how you gon lie to a man like that? and he a good man too. that's so wrong on so many levels
  • JusDre313JusDre313 Posts: 2,538
    edited November 2011
    rap doctor wrote: »
    pretty much ! depending on where we are in our life, i might encourage that shit


    S/N: mikko story makes an immediate blood test after birth non negotiable

    ^^this my nigga i was married. DIDNT HAVE A DOUBT my kid was mine.. AND STILL got a blood test.. smh.. oh the wife was mad.. but she got over it
  • mryounggunmryounggun Posts: 9,275
    edited November 2011
    JusDre313 wrote: »
    ^^this my nigga i was married. DIDNT HAVE A DOUBT my kid was mine.. AND STILL got a blood test.. smh.. oh the wife was mad.. but she got over it

    Damn, my son might not be mine??? That's that bullshit. SMH.
  • HurumaHuruma Posts: 2,284
    edited November 2011
    JusDre313 wrote: »
    ^^this my nigga i was married. DIDNT HAVE A DOUBT my kid was mine.. AND STILL got a blood test.. smh.. oh the wife was mad.. but she got over it

    They should systematically test for paternity at birth, if not to prevent these kinds of scenarios (finding out your father/son isn't biologically related or insulting women by asking for one) then for medical reasons.
  • JadaRossJadaRoss Posts: 6,799
    edited November 2011
    bdbdbd wrote: »
    man i bin known my homeboy, bin cheating on his girl, and to make things worse his chick is a proper down chick, like she looks after him, is kinda fine, and is cool as fuck.....
    but for two reasons i wouldnt say shit, 1) thats my nigga, 2) that aint my business.


    interstingly though, she just found out that he cheated on her with one chick (there were may more)...she let it slide....but my way of thinking is, she works in the navy so she is gone for long periods of time.....if she wernt fucking around before she definately is now.....but i couldnt bring myself to say that to my boy.....but i could see in his eyes he was thinking it.....

    my point being. no need to get involved, life has a way of sorting itself out

    this i understand.she is cool as fuck and look out for me.he been smashing chicks left and right behind her back.she think she has the best husband in the world
  • JadaRossJadaRoss Posts: 6,799
    edited November 2011
    chicks are shady as hell

    yep they are but hey theres some shady ass niggaz too
  • JusDre313JusDre313 Posts: 2,538
    edited November 2011
    Huruma wrote: »
    They should systematically test for paternity at birth, if not to prevent these kinds of scenarios (finding out your father/son isn't biologically related or insulting women by asking for one) then for medical reasons.

    c/s............
  • 7figz7figz Posts: 10,682
    edited November 2011
    Mikko_ wrote: »
    Who the hell would do that?

    My loyalty is always to my friend. I have a close friend who is married to a really great guy but their son isn't his, and he has no clue:(

    Would be hard to respect myself for hanging with somebody pulling some shit like that. The least I could do if I wasn't going to tell would be to cut them off.

    As far as loyalty to friends goes, if your friend was a serial killer - would you still be loyal ?
  • mryounggunmryounggun Posts: 9,275
    edited November 2011
    7fIG wrote: »
    Would be hard to respect myself for hanging with somebody pulling some shit like that. The least I could do if I wasn't going to tell would be to cut them off.

    As far as loyalty to friends goes, if your friend was a serial killer - would you still be loyal ?

    Are you comparing killing people to cheating ?
  • Well Got DamWell Got Dam Posts: 5,030
    edited November 2011
    FlightKing wrote: »
    I feel you. I just don't know how I could be cool with somebody who would do something like that. Different people got different limits I guess.
    DaSan!floe wrote: »
    I wouldn't even spit on a bitch like you, disgusting. Fuck judging, that chick is deceitful

    these hoes these days are tasteless and classless
    hoes aint shit
    Mikko you wrong for not letting dude know it aint his
    but i guess bitches snakes like that
    thats the most foul thing you can do though
    lie to a man about if a child is his
    Mikko_ wrote: »
    I totally understand where ya'll are coming from, I don't condone her actions. I just love her as a friend, in spite of it.


    I trust her completely, she has been around me and my Man for 7 years. We double date all the time. Besides that, I trust my Husband, I'm not worried about that.


    No, I wouldn't be friends with a Serial Killer wtf? Is that Bill O'Reily logic?

    She was insanely in love with her Son's real father but he treated her like shit. She married her Husband on the rebound, she wound up having a fling with her ex and it resulted in her Son.
    Their little boy is 9 years old, if he found out the truth it would destroy him. His real Dad is in his life too...she fucked up, and when you start lying you have to keep lying. She wasn't sure which one was the Father until he was born.

    Lying about a kid that isn't your husbands is 10x's worse than cheating though............that some shit u don't keep from someone, your friend might as well tell, shit either way she is fucked keeping that shit with her burning her soul for eternity or telling the truth and losing her husband is all i'm saying........its up to her to tell that ether of a secret not anyone else
  • 7figz7figz Posts: 10,682
    edited November 2011
    mryounggun wrote: »
    Are you comparing killing people to cheating ?

    Just as far as having moral standards. It's not the same but if the way she said her loyalty is always to her friend, I had to ask. A better example is in order though... can't find it right now.

    Cheating is one thing but I draw the line at lying about whose kid it is.
  • 7figz7figz Posts: 10,682
    edited November 2011
    Mikko_ wrote: »
    No, I wouldn't be friends with a Serial Killer wtf? Is that Bill O'Reily logic?

    She was insanely in love with her Son's real father but he treated her like shit. She married her Husband on the rebound, she wound up having a fling with her ex and it resulted in her Son.
    Their little boy is 9 years old, if he found out the truth it would destroy him. His real Dad is in his life too...she fucked up, and when you start lying you have to keep lying. She wasn't sure which one was the Father until he was born.

    Fuck Bill O'Reilly. Na, just wondering since you said your loyalty was to your friend. To each his (or her) own but I couldn't support that shit.

    Yea she fucked up, but she need to "woman up". She doin' that nigga dirty and the kid's feelings are no excuse. It might not be easy to say it, but the truth is the truth.
  • mryounggunmryounggun Posts: 9,275
    edited November 2011
    7fIG wrote: »
    Just as far as having moral standards. It's not the same but if the way she said her loyalty is always to her friend, I had to ask. A better example is in order though... can't find it right now.

    Cheating is one thing but I draw the line at lying about whose kid it is.


    Meh, I feel you. But like she said, if I had a friend that was down for a nigga for years and was like REALLY my nigga - I can't just cut him off because I don't agree with his decisions in terms of women.
  • JadaRossJadaRoss Posts: 6,799
    edited November 2011
    mikko's story just makes me scared of these women even more. how you gon lie to a man like that? and he a good man too. that's so wrong on so many levels

    women like that make good men turn bad.they make it harder for women to find good men
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