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Married...Open Relationship with Major Kinks

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  • MsSouthernMsSouthern Oh la laaaa Posts: 21,026 Regulator
    edited December 2011
    Huruma wrote: »
    Your opinion is wrong.



    If you don't want to have an open relationship, you're free to not have one.


    really cause what the threadstarter is saying is that he is not following their rules soooooo I don't see how I'm wrong in this situation

    and my opinion is my opinion ... if you wanna have a realationship like that go for it but don't complain when it goes sour
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  • MsSouthernMsSouthern Oh la laaaa Posts: 21,026 Regulator
    edited December 2011
    Your post came off as being about open relationships in general being glorified cheating and not just talking about this case.

    Most relationships go sour, wonder if open relationships success rate is higher or lower?

    well I do think that... this thread is proof my opinion is not wrong
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  • HurumaHuruma Posts: 2,284 ✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    Your post came off as being about open relationships in general being glorified cheating and not just talking about this case.

    Exactly.
    Most relationships go sour, wonder if open relationships success rate is higher or lower?

    An internet survey claimed that 60% of swingers believe swinging improved their marriage and less than 2% felt that it made it worse. I vaguely remember hearing from another source that swingers were actually less likely to divorce and more likely to self-report being happier in their relationships but I might not be remembering right.
    well I do think that... this thread is proof my opinion is not wrong

    To 'cheat' is to break agreed upon rules. You can't break rules that don't exist.
  • MsSouthernMsSouthern Oh la laaaa Posts: 21,026 Regulator
    edited December 2011
    why get married if you just wanna fuck around ?
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  • MsSouthernMsSouthern Oh la laaaa Posts: 21,026 Regulator
    edited December 2011
    For all the reasons that anyone else would get married. What makes sex so sacred, when it's just a physical act?

    Which includes being commited to the person you married

    sorry.... fucking someone else even with permission doesn't sit right with me
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  • HurumaHuruma Posts: 2,284 ✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    why get married if you just wanna fuck around ?

    Why befriend someone if you're just going to have other friends?

    Why do you think that romantic love is only 'valid' when it's exclusive? Does it make sense that the basis of your marriage to John is your relationship (or lack theoreof) with Bob, Peter, Joe or other men? How you feel about other men has nothing to do with how you feel about your husband.
    Which includes being commited to the person you married

    sorry.... fucking someone else even with permission doesn't sit right with me

    Why does 'commitment' have to exclusive (never mind the assumption that you should 'commit' to romantic partners to begin with)? If it doesn't sit right with you then don't do it.
    when it's just a physical act?

    I disagree, there's an inherent psychological aspect to sex.
  • BlackThor356BlackThor356 Posts: 850 ✭✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    leave it to the women of the IC to attack the open marriage, smh

    anyway ma, ur nigga is obviously still into this old bitch. aint no way in the world u gon tell a nigga like me, that i can smah all the bitches i wanna except this ONE and we stuck having this dumb ass problem 7 months later
  • NYCeeCeeNYCeeCee Posts: 1,691 ✭✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    leave it to the women of the IC to attack the open marriage, smh

    Is it JUST women of the IC "attacking" open marriage? Or society in general? No one "attacked" anything in this thread. The t/s obviously has low self esteem....not b/c she agreed to an open marriage (which I, personally, would never do), but b/c she's wondering what she should do with someone who has repeatedly walked over and disresepcted her in their short 7 months of marriage. Why is what she should do even a question? What would you do if someone trated you like sh*t?
  • NYCeeCeeNYCeeCee Posts: 1,691 ✭✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    oh, and BlackThor, what about the men who "attacked" open marriage?
  • MsSouthernMsSouthern Oh la laaaa Posts: 21,026 Regulator
    edited December 2011
    leave it to the women of the IC to attack the open marriage, smh

    anyway ma, ur nigga is obviously still into this old bitch. aint no way in the world u gon tell a nigga like me, that i can smah all the bitches i wanna except this ONE and we stuck having this dumb ass problem 7 months later

    good lawd

    not agreeing with open marriage does not = attacking open marriage

    we are simply discussing it .
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  • Yummy.LixYummy.Lix Posts: 1,398
    edited December 2011
    I don't think an open marriage is right for you...especially with him.
  • NiggersauceNiggersauce Posts: 3,040 ✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    Even an open marriage has to have boundaries...

    You not dealing with an open marriage though, you dealing with a dude you forced into marriage and he made the choice to do it on the whim...but he doesnt really want to be married to you. An open marriage can not persist if a person actually has "another s/o" outside of the main...if its just friends/flings where you might fuck once or twice and leave alone then yall should be good.

    When a person is fucking someone all the time, there are feelings involved....open marriages won't work for someone that has feelings for someone else other than the main.

    <~~has an open marriage
  • BwoahmizzeeBwoahmizzee Posts: 6,962 ✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    yall might as well do a threesome for real

    ya shit is already open if you aint beefin w/ shorty get cool w/ her and get it poppin

    unless you scared she gonna take ya man or some shit

    I mean but ya know.............whatever
  • vicvallinvicvallin Posts: 28 ✭✭
    edited December 2011
    an open relationship is only as successful as the people executing it. if their certain boundaries that are set, but aren't being adhered to, that's not a flaw in open relationships, that's a character flaw within the people involved. in T/S case, your shit was flawed from jump.
  • allisoncommallisoncomm Posts: 24
    edited December 2011
    Oh, well... Anything is possible. And since life is one heck of an adventure, i can say that keeping an open relationship can be an interesting phase, if you're not going to complicate much to it. You just have to keep an open mind with your partner/s...
  • BelovedAfeniBelovedAfeni The Pimp Slap App 5150 NationPosts: 8,647 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    prepare for the worst case scenarioes...
    cause it looks like yall heading downhill....imho.
    The Wombshifter
  • damnkpdamnkp Posts: 1,743 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    you fucked up at "I Do"
  • yeah i rap so don't yeah i rap so don't Posts: 3,874 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    Darxwell wrote: »
    bitch u dumb as hell.

    u dont even deserve advice. Just stay married to that nigga cuz obviously you and he know he's the best u can do.

    Stop making decisions with ya pussy u dumb ass rat.

    This was the only answer needed for this dumb ass bitch
    How many dudes have you really shot
    you rely on muscle memory no wonder you forgot
    how stupid can you be,I'm world class,who you teaching ass
    you got broad shoulders prom queen, carry that
    your top five lists can not be taken seriously (naw)
    when the reaper takes them all seriously (yeah)
    you should have died as one of your moms cramps
    fuck around get your skull turned into boot camp (ha)
    I am not the one who you want to have bothered
    your mom water shouldn't have broke if Moses was your father (hungh)
    I just stepped out the nexus to answer who next is
    what perplexes me is you all know I'm sicker,you disagree
    you iller?, make your move Nomad (damn)
    I got better reflexes than Body Builders
    demolition man, is he stallone,snipes,or the reem
    all you self-centered clowns can't stop the dream (stupid)

    The essence of my pubescence was stick to the lessons
    Keep the substance in the artwork solid,no need for stressin
    Shit, rap smoke and mirrors
    I aint dyin' off the second hand from the reflection of another man
    Not tryin' to hear who you think more clever, it whatever
    Dead at the same time, they toe-to-toe, neck-and-neck forever
    Dexterity is dexter, my pressure is impressing
    Buffalo Bill, but the victims doing the cross-dressing
    You nobodies get piled in the bathtub
    why you think it's called the rest room
    The brand is new, just call it a flesh-wound
    Word is born, who needs a flesh womb
    If I diss you, better just take that
    I coin phrases,Harvey Dent aint got the balls to flip that
    Sergeons need image awards if they save face
    Cave your chest in until Osama and Bruce Wayne could be roommates
    You gassed already, that's what happens when your hate unconditional
    Your favorite rappers is weak, but you virgins use to putting pussy on a pedestal
  • fullfledgedfullfledged Posts: 238
    edited December 2011
    Most people can't handle an open relationship but in reality its probably for the better.
  • BeesKneesQBeesKneesQ Posts: 11
    edited December 2011
    So you agreed to an open relationship under one condition which was that he could not see this one chick, and he still sees her? Sounds to me like he got you to agree to an open relationship as an excuse to still see her. You might share that man.....

    good luck with that though...
  • Just2CJust2C Posts: 931 ✭✭
    edited December 2011
    wow shawty you must have no self esteem or self respect
  • iKingGodGivBiziKingGodGivBiz What title? Posts: 29,011 Regulator
    edited December 2011
    This is a mess. And having an open marriage s not something you just that shouldn't be a "wasn't my first choice but...." If you're not 100% into it, it will cause major problems, even if history girl wasn't in the picture. Since this situation is not working for you, you gotta let him know. If he loved you enough to marry you, maybe he will let that lifestyle go. If he doesn't want to, well then you two just don't need to be together.

    Fuck all that I heart cali in this thread.. I wanna have an open relationship between her legs.. anyways.. ya he won. Must be doing something right..

    New AHH Battle Rap Forum
    http://community.allhiphop.com/categories/the-battle-rap-zone
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  • kingblaze84kingblaze84 Bronx, NY birthplace of hip-hopPosts: 14,130 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited December 2011
    MrsWest wrote: »
    So...he can fuck any girl he wants except one, and he's still fucking that one? Let me ask you, are YOU allowed to have sex with other men in this "open relationship"?

    I may be biased but I have little faith in marriage as it is, so an open marriage nowadays isn't far-fetched although IMO it defeats the purpose of marriage. Bottom line, you didn't ask to be respected as a wife should be, and he doesn't have the smallest ounce of respect for you if he won't listen to ONE rule you put in place. You're doing yourself a disservice. Pick up and leave now before the last shred of self esteem you have for yourself is gone.

    .....................
  • C da Night KingC da Night King Antisocial Extrovert Posts: 2,260 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I agree with the sentiment "why get married if you're going to sleep with other people?". Just stay single or have a boyfriend/girlfriend open relationship. Marriage has always been about monogamy, at least in the Christian sense (forsaking all others??). If you're getting married for the legal benefits, it's really just a business contract and where's the meaning and love behind that. To me open relationships are selfish, but to each his own. I don't have any ill feelings towards those that decide to go that route.
  • JJ 1975JJ 1975 Posts: 336
    I don't see how an open marriage can work. Just don't get married.
    BelovedAfeni
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