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When a woman is outta control in the relationship. whos at fault?
pralims
Posts: 7,145
a while ago one of my freinds got divorced because of his lady was just treating him like shit.
well we saw the nigga last night and chopped it up.
he was saying how much he still hated her and that she was always outta pocket and outta control.
now my homie said to the nigga it was his fault for not having her in control and letting her be like that and that he should have did something to straighten her out.
but short of kickin her ass i dont see what he could have did
i look at it like he shouldnt have been with her from the get go
but another homie asked why should he have to do anything....she is an adult and should act accordingly. and why should she act like a bitch just because she can. when you do something just because you can it should your lack of control as a person
so whos more at fault
him for not controlling her
or her for being outta control just because she can
well we saw the nigga last night and chopped it up.
he was saying how much he still hated her and that she was always outta pocket and outta control.
now my homie said to the nigga it was his fault for not having her in control and letting her be like that and that he should have did something to straighten her out.
but short of kickin her ass i dont see what he could have did
i look at it like he shouldnt have been with her from the get go
but another homie asked why should he have to do anything....she is an adult and should act accordingly. and why should she act like a bitch just because she can. when you do something just because you can it should your lack of control as a person
so whos more at fault
him for not controlling her
or her for being outta control just because she can
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10 • Wack Feelings Nosign 10Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •nigga im stealing this
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •If by own fault u mean, its their fault becoz they chose put up with that shit then I cosign... But if u mean they r the root cause for their s/o spazzing out then I disagree. Sum ppl r just emotionally and/or r mildly mentally unstable.
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3 • Wack Feelings Nosign 3Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •Yeah...Their fault because they put up with the bullshit...
Case in point...My brother's ex went through his phone a few years ago...Found nothin'...I said, "fam...tell her to never do that again, or she'll keep doin' it and will eventually find something to be mad at"...he said, "nah its cool...No point in arguin', since she didn't find anything"
Last year she went though his phone, found a txt (from out cousin) sayin' how she enjoyed lunch with him the day before...
She loses her rag, takes the baby, tries kickin' him outta his own crib...Now is violatin' him with child support...
If he'd just Deebo'd her the first time, they'd still be together and he wouldn't be away from his kid
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •Dayum..ur bro got did dirty! Shit...my ex also tried 2 hit me with them child support papers afta she tried kickin me outta my own place...smdh...I gave her the Shaq face nd she knew wat time it was. I told her to put my ass on child support bt ain't no way I'm getting punked outta my own place...the audacity of sum of these women is boderline insanity. Its bn 8 months and em papers still aint cum thru...
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1 • Wack Feelings Nosign 1Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •hear this though...
They both work full time...Earn about the same...So as far as I'm concerned, brother shouldn't have to pay child support at all...Mum should have the kid from Mon-Thurs, dad got the kid from Fri-Sun...All fair and equal...But nah...CSA told him he has to pay her £100 MORE than what he was already payin' her a month because he sees the kids once a fortnight...only sees the kid so irregularly because she won't let him see her more...
Weak...
That was me, I wouldn't even talk to her...I'd just straight get the law involved...He's got rights...especially since their break-up wasn't his fault
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •Simple as that. These hoes do what you let them do to you.
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •But I see it all the time. Bitches need drama just to feel like the relationahip is alive.
Lets no think that I am downing females cause it some dudes out here that want a chick to follow him and he cant even take care of his own shit!
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •basically.
and i take some offense to the idea that women need to be controlled. we're not dogs that you train to behave properly.
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1 • Wack Feelings Nosign 1Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •No diss, but the "stereotype" of your religion is that it teaches men to control women.
Is there any truth to this?
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3 • Wack Feelings Nosign 1Cosign 2Ether GOAT LOL •It's his fault for not checking her. He was scared to tell her to shut the fuck up early on because he didn't wanna lose
out on pussy.
She saw that shit and was like "I got the pussy so I make the rules" so he took all her bullshit and it just kept getting worse.
It's his fault for not training his girl up to leave that bullshit where she got it from.
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •Basically just be a real man.
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •Kickin' a bitch out ain't so much controlling her, it's controlling the situation.
I'm not the type of nigga to rely on trying to control someone - fuck that.
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •common misconception, but not true (for the most part)
i say that because just like you have fringe groups in christianity (ie mormons), islam has them as well.
the biggest part of our religion is the intention. you are supposed to follow allah and the quran because you intend to by your own choice. if you are doing it (praying, fasting etc) cuz someone is controlling you, it has no merit.
anyway, i think in some way this thread is about communication. i like that word more than control. communicating properly with someone to resolve problems is different from controlling them so they stop behaviour you dislike. communication gets to the root of the problem, hopefully resolving it so it doesn't come up again. controlling is masking the problem by saying "stop it because i said so." i know how much i hated when my parents said that, and since i'm not my man's child, i'd prefer not to be spoken to like i was.
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •lol, come on now, those two statements have nothing to do with each other.
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •a lotta women like to act up just cuz.....
they like that drama, and they like having something going on...
as soon as a man detects that shit in a woman, he should treat her accordingly...
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-1 • 2Wack Feelings Nosign 1Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •Someone lied. Once the newness wears off. She going back to being the drama queen.
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0 • Wack Feelings Nosign Cosign Ether GOAT LOL •"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on ME."
The same thing applies to relationships. If she's wild and out of control, of course she's wrong but if YOU continue to let her do it without saying something or leaving, then its your fault. Women are responsible for their own actions. They are adults but if you continue to let them be a problem towards YOU, that's your fault.
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