I need some help ladies

bignorm

Long story short.

I grew up with a girl who was like my sister, even tho i was always actually loved with her on some
Kevin Arnold/Winnie Cooper Dawson/Joey Rudy/Bud type shit.
We talkin adolescent, young nigga bullshit. I aint seen her since i was 15. I am turning 32 on sunday.

Anyway, I am going back to the old hood in a little over a week. I told her in an email.
(We have kept in touch, talk 5-6 times a year). No more, no less.
We have acknowledged that there were real feelings there, but that we were too young/naive to
act on it. REally the time we wouldve, i moved away.


Anywho...............
our emails always end "Love, or Love always, or just "talk to you later".


This one ended (from her)
"Love Even if it hurts"
_____________

I need help/interpretation from the ladies on this.
What exactly does that mean? i dont wanna read too much/too little into that.
I dont want it to be weird and I dont want it to be on some "Somethin about Mary" shit either.

bignorm

@Itskatbitches
@Iheart~Cali
@kai_valya
@Charlie_Danger
@MsSouthern
@PicoRivera
@KUBeezy
@Pico Roscoe

Yall help a nigga out.

bignorm

@atribecalledgabi too. I hate that you cant edit shit no more.

Bookworm

I think she's trying to convey something here. Not really sure on what. Maybe you need to make a move.

dallas' 4 eva

Bruh I don't even have to be a women to tell you that you need to make a move.

MrsWest

Aren't you married? Maybe i have the wrong poster, but If so her meaning = attempting to be a home wrecker.

DNB1

Damn I thought Mrs West retired......One of the finest women to bless us with her presence.

On topic....."Love Even if it hurts"

^this means she love yo ass, but it's a love that causes pain cause it isn't meant to be....prolly cause y'all both got s/o's now.

bignorm

Dat_Nigga_B1 wrote: »

Damn I thought Mrs West retired......One of the finest women to bless us with her presence.

On topic....."Love Even if it hurts"

^this means she love yo ass, but it's a love that causes pain cause it isn't meant to be....prolly cause y'all both got s/o's now.

This could be it man. Damn.
Anyway, still trying to find out, is this a saying?
A fucking song title or some shit, i aint know about?
Or is it clear?

MissK

Or maybe she has feelings for you but thinks that you don't feel the same..

Cain1

Be direct bruh just ask her what she wants. The best way to get something from a woman is be direct no hoops to jump thru after that. It's apparent a spark is there so speak on it, it can go one or two ways yes or no.

MsSouthern

but your married .....


you shouldn't be communicating with another woman like this

atribecalledgabi

you bout to have a

on your hands



ol double or nothin ass

bignorm

Lurk_Hinrich wrote: »

Stopped reading at "anywho"....da fuck?

Also prolly talkin bout a white girl.

Nah nigga, she black.

bignorm

Well, i hear ya. But this thread aint about marriage. i am asking specifically about that
salutation she ended with.

Cuz a nigga just booked that flight.
Anyway, this shit is blowing my mind.

kai_valya

if your feelings for each other are real, it maybe worth it to leave your s/o to be together. i don't condone cheating at all. so either be with her or don't entertain this, cuz trust, it's not gonna end well

didn't you say you got married only cuz of the kids? this is the price you pay when you do something like that.

bignorm

I aint say i was gonna cheat. But, i am gonna "hang out".
Whatever happens happens.

kai_valya

bignorm wrote: »

I aint say i was gonna cheat. But, i am gonna "hang out".
Whatever happens happens.

that's still wrong, what are you gonna do after you hang out? keep "hanging out" forever?

you have to really ask your self, is your marriage worth this? i get the impression that you're not really in love with your wife like that. now as commendable as it is that you are doing this for your kids, tbh, you're not doing any good for anyone

you are showing your kids the WRONG example of what a loving relationship is. and seriously, that's too much weight on children's shoulders to make them the reason that you stay in your marriage. that's not fair to them. you can love them and be a great father without being with their mother

either way it's your choice, if you choose to stay married, than you have to do it whole-heartedly, if you're not gonna do that then don't stay married

bignorm

ItsKatBitches wrote: »

smh..are you fucking kidding me right now though?

How would you feel if she went to go 'hang out' with a man that obviously had some type of feelings for her?

Turn her loose already.

The only thing that tells me she "obviously" has feelings is this thread.
Its why i created it. I cant read it right now.

bignorm

From the female's perspective..........

Do i just ask her straight up in response what that means?

Pico Roscoe

Oh shit I would attack your ass with hot ass frying grease if you were my man hanging out with bitches!!!!

bignorm

Pico Roscoe wrote: »

Oh shit I would attack your ass with hot ass frying grease if you were my man hanging out with bitches!!!!

lmao

bignorm

So i asked her what that meant, so i know before i get there.
No answer. I know she checked her email too.
smh. I fucking hate when people leave shit ambiguous.

bignorm

Ok, i got my answer. Here is part of the text of her email, in response to my question.

The saying Love even if it hurts has nothing to do with you. Sorry. It's just about my life in general. Why would you think that it was about you?

Ok, take at face value?
Truth?
Lie?
Embarrassed that i asked about it?

I'll find out in person in a few days, lol, but what yall think?

blakfyahking

t/s

I feel you tho bruh

it ain't easy to cut slingload on the wife when kids are in the picture

naive mofos think it's easy to just up and change your kids' lifestyle just cause wifey ain't cutting the mustard no more



but at some point you gon have to keep it real with the spouse

5 or 6 times a year fam? I'm surprised you haven't already cheated SMH

UPTOWN CONNEXX

MRDRO wrote: »

SHE BASICALLY TELLIN YOU THAT

1. SHE GOT SOMEBODY RIGHT NOW AND SHE WOULD LOVE TO "BE" WITH YOU, BUT....

2. SHE JUST BEING "EXTRA"

i hate the fuck outta this shit
ol "youre the one i let get away" ass women "but im happy with who im with" ass women "he's a great guy" ass women "but man i really have these feelings i want to act on" ass women

and its ALWAYS thru email .... just block her ol confused ass. she just using you on some feminine shit that you'll never understand anyway

UPTOWN CONNEXX

kai_valya wrote: »

bignorm wrote: »

I aint say i was gonna cheat. But, i am gonna "hang out".
Whatever happens happens.

that's still wrong, what are you gonna do after you hang out? keep "hanging out" forever?

you have to really ask your self, is your marriage worth this? i get the impression that you're not really in love with your wife like that. now as commendable as it is that you are doing this for your kids, tbh, you're not doing any good for anyone

you are showing your kids the WRONG example of what a loving relationship is. and seriously, that's too much weight on children's shoulders to make them the reason that you stay in your marriage. that's not fair to them. you can love them and be a great father without being with their mother

either way it's your choice, if you choose to stay married, than you have to do it whole-heartedly, if you're not gonna do that then don't stay married

dont listen to any of this lol

especially the bolded. this logic is from the same vein as the mind set of girly emailing you
basically she's saying
"get took for child support" "work double shifts to get out of the arrears" "let your kids mom fuck you over during visitation etc.... but dont ever cheat on her!!!"

i swear married women are the most selfish ppl i have ever met

btw kai i love you, youre a beautiful black queen


lol