Spinoff..........Can men and women just be "friends"

Cain1

Is it possible to be a friend to a female that you have direct contact with on a day to day basis? Especially if that female is attractive and fits your criteria for gf/wifey?

Ladies can you be friends with a guy that you find attractive? Can you just be friend zoned without any care at all?


For myself there has to be a valid reason why I haven't smashed or trying to smash a female before she be moved into my friend list.

shtoopid

BlackGerald

i say yes as long as you are not attracted to them

Cain1

Black Jerry Maguire wrote: »

i say yes as long as you are not attracted to them

Can cosign this

Makaveli Joker

I'm trying to bang my female friends. 3 down, 5 to go

KingJamal

Cain1 wrote: »

Is it possible to be a friend to a female that you have direct contact with on a day to day basis? Especially if that female is attractive and fits your criteria for gf/wifey?

Ladies can you be friends with a guy that you find attractive? Can you just be friend zoned without any care at all?


For myself there has to be a valid reason why I haven't smashed or trying to smash a female before she be moved into my friend list.

Man if she is attractive AND fits my criteria for a gf/wifey I don't know about that. I mean how could I have those feelings about her and just wanna be friends wit her, that makes no sense. That's just not happening

kai_valya

science says no

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends

and i've realized this thru experience, that once it goes beyond a colleague or acquaintance relationship, it's hard to maintain it, because somebody (usually the man) wants more

MissK

Mixed gender 'friendships' are not really encouraged in our society.

We are taught early on from many sources-family, friends, religious beliefs, media-that men and women can't really be friends without some sort of sexual aspect or sexual undercurrent.

I do think they can.

Cain1

kai_valya wrote: »

science says no

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends

and i've realized this thru experience, that once it goes beyond a colleague or acquaintance relationship, it's hard to maintain it, because somebody (usually the man) wants more

You're right kai cause I'd try to smash in real life lol

YoungGoldie

kai_valya wrote: »

science says no

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends

and i've realized this thru experience, that once it goes beyond a colleague or acquaintance relationship, it's hard to maintain it, because somebody (usually the man) wants more pussy

fixed

Lil Loca

Meh, I don't see why not.

If you're friends with people long enough, you start to think of them as family. The attraction tends to dissipate.

The older the friendship is, I've found, the more repulsed two opposite friends were at the thought of being together.

That's just my observation. Could be wrong, but I think it's possible as two people mature.

EvenitOut

I think most women will say yes because it keeps the nostalgia of innocence, but no, no they can't most time I am starting a conversation with a woman, it starts off of physical attraction, not me wanting to talk sports and shit.

Lil Loca

EvenitOut wrote: »

I think most women will say yes because it keeps the nostalgia of innocence, but no, no they can't most time I am starting a conversation with a woman, it starts off of physical attraction, not me wanting to talk sports and shit.

Do you socialize with women often? Do you see them as your social equals?

shtoopid

i have homegirls that i kick it with every now and then, invite to parties, etc. but my circle is mostly dudes. i'm not tryna listen to bitches talk about dudes they like, females they hate, clothes they bought, etc.
any nigga that's always hanging out with attractive females, and not getting any is either gay or stuck in the friendzone.

shtoopid

only good thing about being friendzoned is when she introduces you to her cute homegirls.

Cain1

Lil Loca wrote: »

Meh, I don't see why not.

If you're friends with people long enough, you start to think of them as family. The attraction tends to dissipate.

The older the friendship is, I've found, the more repulsed two opposite friends were at the thought of being together.

That's just my observation. Could be wrong, but I think it's possible as two people mature.

I have to disagree. If I have find you attractive mentally or physically in my mindset I'm gonna want to smash. Unless there is a some kind of history that says otherwise then I'm trying to smash off top. Especially if we around each other a lot its only natural.

Lil Loca

shtoopid wrote: »

i have homegirls that i kick it with every now and then, invite to parties, etc. but my circle is mostly dudes. i'm not tryna listen to bitches talk about dudes they like, females they hate, clothes they bought, etc.
any nigga that's always hanging out with attractive females, and not getting any is either gay or stuck in the friendzone.

Well, then this goes back to my point of guys thinking of women as their social equals.

If men don't socialize with women often, then when they do become friends with them, all they'll think about is attraction, because they'll associate girls with sex moreso than as companions.

EvenitOut

Do you socialize with women often? Do you see them as your social equals? [/quote]

Yes.

KingJamal

shtoopid wrote: »

only good thing about being friendzoned is when she introduces you to her cute homegirls.

bdbdbd

the only close friends that are female and fit my criteria of wifey are one of 3 things
1) a girlfriend/wife of a close homey
2) a girl i have tried to fuck with but turned me down and then we became friends (lil does she know im still trying, just playing the super long game)
3) a girl i have already fucked with and for one reason or another we decided to just be friends (those ones are cool cus you know shit could go down at anytime)

BigBallsNoWorries

fuck no lol

i got this whole milk bitch at wrk who is a flirt talking bout im this & that, sexy, yadda yada yada, and she got a bf

but she likes to chill wit a nigga at wrk right, now tell me how in the fuck are we going 2 b friends

it aint happenin

shtoopid

Lil Loca wrote: »

Well, then this goes back to my point of guys thinking of women as their social equals.

If men don't socialize with women often, then when they do become friends with them, all they'll think about is attraction, because they'll associate girls with sex moreso than as companions.

who said i didn't see females as equals? i have homegirls that i can chop it up with, but most of the time, we don't have enough in common to be hanging out on the daily.

Darxwell

Cain1 wrote: »

Is it possible to be a friend to a female that you have direct contact with on a day to day basis? Especially if that female is attractive and fits your criteria for gf/wifey?

NO, not in the past, not now, and not in the future. All or nothing for me if I like u and u dont like me then I have no need to see u or talk to u.

For myself there has to be a valid reason why I haven't smashed or trying to smash a female before she be moved into my friend list.

Exactly.

The only way I can be just friends with a female is if I have a bunch of females im talking to and one just so happens to become my girlfriend. Then the others are now just friends. But people are lying if they say that those people were ALWAYS just friends and will remain as such.

Complete bullshit and a red flag.

Rock Well

i think this been done before xD

but sure they can be friends. ppl just need to learn self-control

R.D.

Skyler White wrote: »

on a biological level, no. women and men are meant to be attracted to one another and if they're in close proximity sparks will fly

but being that we live in an advanced society and not the wild, different factors come into play. some people are off limits because of relationships, friendships, shared employment, kids, etc. as you get older those factors have more gravity in your decision making, which makes it easier to maintain a friendship and stave off sexual attraction.

for instance: one of the residents at my job is so damn sexy and we are good friends, but i'd never go there because we're both married, don't intend to cheat on our spouses & we work together, that's against company policy

but yall aint friends

genocidecutter

Duh