Ladies, Would You Marry A Man Without Getting A Ring?

NeighborhoodNomad.

Would you marry a man without ever having a "wedding" ring?

What is the significance in a ring?

Im very non traditional and somewhat unorthodox, that being said, I cant imagine ever wearing a "wedding" ring, nor do I ever plan on getting one for my wife.

So would you marry that man?
Why/Why not?

SixSickSins

Yes. I'm non-traditional as well and plan on exchanging a fiscally worthless, sentimentally priceless memento. Plus, I rarely wear rings anyway. Perhaps hand crafted his&her necklaces. Something with a more significant meaning than a price tag for sure.

kai_valya

yes, the wedding ring is a pretty new phenomenon in my culture anyway. i do have/wear one, my husband doesn't, he doesn't wear any jelwery tho

CopperKing

I'd give these hoes a wedding t-shirt

NeighborhoodNomad.

SixSickSins wrote: »

Yes. I'm non-traditional as well and plan on exchanging a fiscally worthless, sentimentally priceless memento. Plus, I rarely wear rings anyway. Perhaps hand crafted his&her necklaces. Something with a more significant meaning than a price tag for sure.

I like that.

NeighborhoodNomad.

kai_valya wrote: »

yes, the wedding ring is a pretty new phenomenon in my culture anyway. i do have/wear one, my husband doesn't, he doesn't wear any jelwery tho

That's whats up. They don't do that in Africa/In your culture?
Is there anything tangible that signifies marriage?

kai_valya

yes, in my culture the man or his family usually pay a dowry to the girl's family. it can be anything, money, jewelry, livestock, property

usually it is jewelry put the concept of a wedding ring is fairly new. something we've adopted from being here

NeighborhoodNomad.

kai_valya wrote: »

yes, in my culture the man or his family usually pay a dowry to the girl's family. it can be anything, money, jewelry, livestock, property

usually it is jewelry put the concept of a wedding ring is fairly new. something we've adopted from being here

I just learned something new...

icecoldstew

I need to find one of these women. Fuck paying all that money for some material shit when we could use it to make our lives better instead.

king hassan

Skyler White wrote: »

icecoldstew wrote: »

I need to find one of these women. Fuck paying all that money for some material shit when we could use it to make our lives better instead.

A lot of chicks get married for the wedding and not for the marriage.

You just spoke some real shit

MzGrahamBitches

I hear of dudes actually financing a two to three year loan over a ring..that's just silly to me.

It would depend on the reason. Lack of money is understandable.

MissK

Couples out here having a wedding that cost thousands but come back from the honeymoon to an apartment.
I'd rather make a down payment on a house

JDSTAYWITIT.

I'll take my baby boo right here and she can pick out as many rings as she wants .... *cos i luvvvs her

MissK

Skyler White wrote: »

i dislike weddings. the planning is a headache.

my wedding photo consists of me and hubby kissing in our work uniforms. Me in scrubs and him in dirty coveralls. I took my lunch early and he met me at the courthouse. We got married and went back to work, lol. At the time he was making $10/hr blowing insulation for a roofing company. I was a CNA. That photo means more to me than any pic i could have taken in a white dress surrounded by bridesmaids because it reminds me how far we've come.

That's love girl!!
You have a beautiful baby (keep jamel from giving advice to the little man, lol)

KingJamal

My Parent's got married at my Aunt's house and they are still married. That extravagant wedding shit is a big waste of money. If u really love someone the cost of a wedding or getting a ring should not matter imo. I'm her's and she's mines that's all that matters

JDSTAYWITIT.

KingJamal wrote: »

My Parent's got married at my Aunt's house and they are still married. That extravagant wedding shit is a big waste of money. If u really love someone the cost of a wedding or getting a ring should not matter imo. I'm her's and she's mines that's all that matters

big weddings are for females bruh .... if she aint trippin about it dudes always prefer to keep that shit low-key...

but ...you know what i never understood .... how come the dude only get a wack ass wedding "band" while the female is out here stuntin' with some multi carat rock tho? ....shit.... i want to shine too dammit!

BabyBugatti

I want my ring nigga.

deadeye

Moreno.Kitamura wrote: »

I want my ring nigga.

@Moreno.Kitamura

Baby G...what's poppin?

Any pics from last night?

Iheart~Cali

I'm not non-traditional or unorthodox and I wouldn't want my marriage/husband to be that way either; just my personal preference. So yes I got a ring. Nothing extravagant that required financing, but it's decent. He wears a simple Tungsten band (he hates flashy).

Agreed about the large weddings though. They're a hassle and I could think of 10 ways to better spend that money. We had a very small simple wedding and I was perfectly fine with that....actually it was my idea. Imagine all the money I saved that I can now spend on Jack Daniels. WIN.

Empress_

I am marrying the man, not the ring. I feel strongly about it and I especially don't wish for any diamond, that is not even a question. However, if he wishes to present me with a simple band that is okay. Bottom line is that I do not need nor care for anything of material value to act as a symbol of our union. The last thing I want is anything extravagant like a wedding for example. Im good with city hall, if he wishes for something more I would absolutely work with him and have something small. Just us and a couple loved ones on the beach in the islands as the sun descends and the sky turns different hues of orange and pink.

The most important thing to me would be the foundation we were built upon and us sharing in this union for always so spending money on a wedding isn't even a thought when I think marriage. Id rather save that money for anything but a wedding...the mortgage, our children, our foreign getaway etc. We could do a reception where mama and aunties cooked food is on the menu and even with that I am all about intimate settings and celebrations. This would be where the family can come together and celebrate, nothing too fancy.

Often times folks, these days especially, allow the wedding to become bigger than relationship and the two people in it. They are prepared for the wedding but not to the commitment of togetherness in marriage. They can commit to the party but not to working together, compromising, existing in a state of always being really present and in tune. Early on after the celebration is over, some check out. The novelty wears off, premature decisions and other factors can lead to easily getting caught up in the hype.

Nothing justifies our love except the fabric of our relationship in which we share. Nice to profess your love in different ways but that should be done everyday in the simplest of gestures, nothing material can ever take the place of those moments.

Top Cat

ima take a arts and crafts class

sweetheart93

No. Because I want a ring. No other reason.

CopperKing

lotta logic in this thread sprinkled with the usual byrd seasoning

NeighborhoodNomad.

Skyler White wrote: »

I was married for two years before we bought rings.

When we got married, we were really young & broke. But we didn't want something as superficial as jewelry and a ceremony to make us hold off getting married. Tomorrow ain't promised.

So we did the courthouse thing. Hubby bought me a ring on our second anniversary and tbh I barely wear it. I wear latex gloves for work so it cuts thru every pair. It stays in my jewelry box 90% of the time.

Rings don't matter, tbh. My uncle married my aunt pat & tied a string around her finger 20 years ago. He said 'if she loves me she'll stay regardless." 20 years later & she has enough rings for her hands, toes & mine too.

Skyler White wrote: »

i dislike weddings. the planning is a headache.

my wedding photo consists of me and hubby kissing in our work uniforms. Me in scrubs and him in dirty coveralls. I took my lunch early and he met me at the courthouse. We got married and went back to work, lol. At the time he was making $10/hr blowing insulation for a roofing company. I was a CNA. That photo means more to me than any pic i could have taken in a white dress surrounded by bridesmaids because it reminds me how far we've come.

NeighborhoodNomad.

Moreno.Kitamura wrote: »

I want my ring nigga.

What does a ring signify to you?

Would it matter if it was a cubic zirconia or something hand-crafted like @sixsicksins said?

NeighborhoodNomad.

sweetheart93 wrote: »

No. Because I want a ring. No other reason.

why?