Skyler White wrote: »
Keep everybody out of your business unless he's beating your ass
Know that your spouse is human & they fuck up. Charge it to their mind & not their heart
Marry your best friend because there's gonna be a lot of time you're gonna have to spend together not fucking. If you can't chill with ur spouse for long pds of time don't marry them.
Make sure you're equally yoked spiritually
Treat your in laws with a long handled spoon. Be familiar, but not friends
Makaveli Joker wrote: »
If your going to cheat, be smart about it
VIBE wrote: »
Don't get married, it's overrated and changes nothing.
aone415 wrote: »
Understand that it's not a movie, fairy tale.
I treat my marriage like a job. I work at it everyday. People act like the wedding is the culmination of a marriage, when , in fact, it's the beginning of the hard stuff.
I've learned that patience and understanding is key to making it work. No one is always right and you cannot dismiss someone's feelings. 15 years in a marriage will teach you how to be humble and how to swallow pride.
AP12 wrote: »
LET SHIT GO...if you say you forgive, then forgive...DONT HOLD ON TO THE PROBLEM like its the Big Joker at the end of the spades game then BAM "remember when....."
Like sky said, your spouse is human and being around someone all the time, no matter how much you care/love for them, you are just bound to have disagreements...
Separate alone time. Doing things together is GOAT, but sometimes, just do something by yourself or respect that they might want to do something without you...goes back to my previous point...with two people around each other all the time, you will eventually need a break from one another...that doesnt mean that they are trying to do wrong/dirty...just respect they may need some space to chill
Dont marry nobody who spend their check before its in the account...
Dro touched on another good point...if he/she is nasty dirty now...dont expect them to magically flip a switch and become a clean freak. My apt stayed looking nice to say I lived alone...always nice smelling, bathroom cleaned, bed made etc... (no shots fired...lol)
Dont do things to them that you dont want done to you...e.g. if yo fiance or s/o aint out all hours of the night, you shouldnt be either...there are times you may do something with the girls/guys and thats ok, but still be mindful and respectful of the person you have at home. If yo boys/girls clown you...eff them...thats why they are still single...im not saying you gotta be at home at 8:30 but just be mindful of letting that person know what the deal is...speaking of
Be courteous...Just b/c you call your woman/man and tell them where you are doesnt make you weak. Its a sign of respect. I live in a small city and you are bound to run into somebody that knows somebody that knows your spouse/S/O...so just CYA and send a text or something to say "babe, went to xyz..." Also, if you have nothing to hide, then it shouldnt be a problem. What if something were to happen to you and you went somewhere while your S/O thought you were somewhere else...it aint checking in, its just the courteous thing to do. e.g. Fellas, you watching a game at the homies house and the game goes into OT, if it seems like you wanna just hang out a while, whats wrong with saying "babe, I'm just hang out over here for about another hour or so...call you when im on the way home"...
enough from me...
AP12 wrote: »
Separate alone time. Doing things together is GOAT, but sometimes, just do something by yourself or respect that they might want to do something without you...goes back to my previous point...with two people around each other all the time, you will eventually need a break from one another...that doesnt mean that they are trying to do wrong/dirty...just respect they may need some space to chill.