Op Ed: Fcuk You if You Don’t Tip Your Server (W/Pic)

Young_ChitlinYoung_Chitlin YCN Chief, FCC Member, IC Task Force GeneralASUville, PhoenixPosts: 13,983 ✭✭✭✭✭
By: Laura Beck

I spent most of my college life waiting tables. The heftiest chunk of that time was at the Chevy's in Times Square, where I spent weekends and evenings singing their bastardized version of "Happy Birthday" to the legions of yahoos who lied about it being their birthdays so they could get a free cartoon sombrero. I worked double shifts for measly ducats and endured name-calling, inappropriate touching, and serving entire off-off-Broadway casts who enjoyed dining on only free chips and salsa and paying in terrible renditions of Les Mis songs. I Dreamed a Dream, and that shit did not involve bringing you 50 baskets of chips in return for $5.

Honestly, waitressing wasn't all bad. I'm outgoing, enjoy making new friends, and love stealing fresh tortillas from el machino. In general, pouring giant pitchers of muy autentico bright orange mango margaritas to wannabe boy bands and tourists could be a good time. Sure, I suffered physically; if you're running around for twelve hours straight, your back and legs will pay the price. I could easily laugh off the losers who beckoned me to their table with, "Hey, red!" — they were the sad idiots eating at the Chevy's in Times Square, and I was laughing all the way to the bank.

However, let me be clear: the laughing to the bank part is key.

As Chelsea Welch, the waitress who was fired from Applebee's last week after posting a picture of a receipt, on which an idiot customer wrote "I give God 10%. Why do you get 18?" as her "tip," has spoken out in a new post for the Guardian:
I've been waiting tables to save up some money so I could finally go to college, so I could get an education that would qualify me for a job that doesn't force me to sell my personality for pocket change.

When a customer withholds a tip for whatever reason — be it because they didn't like the service, they're strapped for cash, they're cheap, they're disrespectful, or they're religious (??) — they are withholding livelihood for another human being. Nobody is waitressing for their love of the game; everyone's just trying to earn a living. Unfortunately, waitressing is a profession where your ability to live is dependent on the whims of an entirely unpredictable party. Or parties. Of 18. Who don't tip.

Welch explains how important tips are:
In this economy, $3.50 an hour doesn't cut it. I can't pay half my bills. Like many, I would love to see a reasonable, non-tip-dependent wage system for service workers like they have in other countries. But the system being flawed is not an excuse for not paying for services rendered.

I need tips to pay my bills. All waiters do. We spend an hour or more of our time befriending you, making you laugh, getting to know you, and making your dining experience the best it can be. We work hard. We care. We deserve to be paid for that.

There are 10,000,000 restaurant workers in America, and 2/3 of those earning sub-minimum wage are women. Even with tips, the average amount a restaurant worker brings home is $9/hour. If you're withholding those tips, how much do you think they're actually earning? The $2.13 minimum wage for servers hasn't changed since 1991.

So, no, there's absolutely no excuse for not tipping. If you think you have one, let's try to address the most common "reasons."

If you can't afford to tip at least 18 percent, then you cannot afford to eat out, period. No questions, no free "birthday" flan. Before going to a restaurant, look at the menu and do the calculations. If it's not in your budget, stay home and cook or choose a different restaurant. I'm not trying to beat you up for being poor, but servers are often living hand-to-mouth, too. If you clog up one of their tables and then don't tip, you have impeded their ability to make rent, buy groceries, and are potentially endangering them. It's not right.

If you've looked at your budget and decided you can afford to eat out, that's great. When you finish your meal and the check comes, you know what to do. In case you don't: You tip. No matter what. I don't care if you didn't like your waitress and the food was cold. You tip her. If you didn't like the waitress, that's tough titties; we don't live in a shiny happy world where everyone gets along. If the food was cold, you should've said something when it came out. Also, that's not your waitress's fault. Speak to the management, but don't punish her.
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  • Young_ChitlinYoung_Chitlin YCN Chief, FCC Member, IC Task Force General ASUville, PhoenixPosts: 13,983 ✭✭✭✭✭
    You know what? Sometimes waitresses have bad days, too. And you know how you have personal days you can take when you're sick or sad or your mom died? As hourly employees, waitresses don't have that. They miss a shift, they miss a paycheck. Because they're so reliant on their personalities to earn tips — aka almost their entire damn salary — they have to show up, rain or shine or swollen ankle. Just because she didn't tap dance for you enough — or, heaven forbid, didn't laugh at your jokes — you have no right to withhold her salary. Well, you technically have a right, but you're a terrible fucking person if you do.

    Let me repeat: Even if the service was slow, your order was messed up, or all your dishes didn't arrive together, you still tip. Oftentimes shitty or slow service has to do with inept management, overworked employees, poor coverage (due to no shows by fellow employees), or an overwhelmed kitchen. None of that is your server's fault, so don't take it out on her.

    And if you're the person who always gets terrible service, who always finds something to complain about at dinner, you need to look in a mirror. As the saying goes: If you meet five assholes in a day, you're probably the asshole. And still you rise. To dine out and make everyone else's lives hell. Then there's the people who don't think it's their responsibility to pay for service, and that the restaurants should cover it. My best advice to you is to boycott restaurants then. Because it's not your waitress's fault the system is jacked.

    I'm not sure what the answer is to ensuring that servers are paid the wages they deserve. Abolishing tipping seems to be the obvious answer, but these jobs would surely just become regular minimum wage jobs then. The hard work of a largely female force would continue being undervalued. The only possible solution I can think of is to make people understand that not tipping is not an option; it is a requirement.

    Being a waitress is yet another job where skills and talents supposedly associated with women are underappreciated and exploited. As Welch points out, serving people is very hard work; you're emotionally taxed from the constant smiling, and physically taxed from the constant movement. And through it all, you're expected to meet the needs of a constantly changing array of customers and their various quirks.

    As Sarah Jaffe says in her essay in In These Times, perhaps what Welch "was fired for was daring to publicly express dissatisfaction with her job." She continues, "even outside the workplace, emotional labor doesn't stop. (Just ask any woman if she's ever been told to 'smile' by a strange man on the street.)"

    Perhaps withholding tips for perceived bad service is the equivalent of being told, "Fuck you, you're ugly anyway!" when you don't smile back on the street? Maybe it's another way to keep women in positions of physically and emotionally draining service in return for earning 70 percent of their male counterparts.

    Whatever the case, the moral of this story is: Tip! Tip as if your life depended on it, because even if it doesn't, some woman's probably does.




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  • Young_ChitlinYoung_Chitlin YCN Chief, FCC Member, IC Task Force General ASUville, PhoenixPosts: 13,983 ✭✭✭✭✭
    INB4 TL:DR gifs
  • Go figureGo figure Posts: 1,504 ✭✭✭✭✭
    if u dont like how you're getting paid get a job elsewhere.
    when i go out to have a good time at a bar/restaurant am i really supposed to be giving a fuck about what u pay on rent or student loans?

    on the other hand i dont like going out with people who dont tip for shit cuz that fucks up my service
    JokerKing700HarlemThumzUpCashmoneyDux
  • BoldChildBoldChild Born alone, die alone. Posts: 11,415 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Didn't read, but

    Nah bitch, fuck you.
    s_a_m_r_i_oblacktux
  • Dr.ChemixDr.Chemix Posts: 11,806 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Still no fucks given. Person chose that job just as much as I choose to tip them or not.

    If its really that much of hassle...why are you depending on other people to help you get paid??

    You don't put the blame on somebody else when the rent is due...so how come for the wages?
    deadeyeHarlemThumzUpCashmoneyDux
  • Black_SamsonBlack_Samson I drive a fast car... Posts: 49,097 Regulator
    bitch... your tip is based off your fucking performance.
    if your performance is poor then your tip shall reflect it.
    if you take too damn long for me to get my ticket, then our meal is on you. you know how long it takes a family of 4 to get ready to leave? and you aint made it back to the table? yeah you bought that big ass meal.
    Will Munny
  • JokerKingJokerKing Вони виявили, Ваш номер STATION в рамках цієї спільноти! Watching Jimmy Fallon With Barbara GordonPosts: 27,443 Regulator
  • dallas' 4 evadallas' 4 eva Dicking down your old lady. Posts: 6,574 ✭✭✭✭✭
    INB4 Fiat says "Bitch is fat she doesn't deserve a tip."
  • Iceberg SlickIceberg Slick Posts: 727 ✭✭✭✭
    Didnt read but tipping: that the shit I dont like.
    jay83
  • Gold_CertificateGold_Certificate Posts: 13,332 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Stopped reading at "I spent most of my college life waiting tables.".

    I assume it was followed by some entitled-ass "first world" rant.
    Young_Chitlin
  • Mdizzle9000Mdizzle9000 Posts: 8,243 ✭✭✭✭✭
    this bitch sayin shit like"you wont pay my salary" like the people who eat at the restaurant employ her. I'm not even gonna get into why I think tipping is bullshit but imma just say that every1 i ever knew who worked as a server made good money from tips and she was probably doing something wrong if she wasn't making a killing working in Manhattan. Fuck this bitch. Nothing stopped her or any other whiny shithead waitress from finding a better job with hourly wages and not the kindness of strangers
  • Trollio Trollio Trollololololololololol Posts: 21,798 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Learn to cook bitch
  • 700700 Praying 5 times a day to catch a plug Plap City, FLAPosts: 11,551 ✭✭✭✭✭
    this shit is funny cause she takin up her wages with the wrong people

    she should be writing a boss or somethin, not writin notes beggin for change

    you gotta be a lil slow to be a waiter anyway, i kno how much they make, why would i even apply for that shit

    i might as well try mcdonalds, at least they pay minimum wage
    atribecalledgabiblacktux
  • atribecalledgabiatribecalledgabi Posts: 7,175 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited February 2013
    i always tip unless the service is absolutely terrible, but this pity party servers throw for themselves is annoying as fuck. everybody knows how food service works. you getting paid a couple dollars an hour is not my problem. if you don't like the shit, quit.

    don't be mad, UPS is hiring.
    Dr.Chemix
  • BoldChildBoldChild Born alone, die alone. Posts: 11,415 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Apparently waiters work as waitresses because they end up making more than min wade due to people tipping.

    I also got a problem with tipping for pizza. I never order, I always prefer to get it myself. Even when I didn't have a car in college, the pizza spots were pretty close to campus so I would just walk and get it...in the winter, about a 30min walk there and back, and I'm a pretty fast walker.

    Anyway, back to the pizza issue. You niggas charge for delivery, so why the fuck do I have to tip the delivery man so he can pay for gas.
  • atribecalledgabiatribecalledgabi Posts: 7,175 ✭✭✭✭✭
    BoldChild wrote: »
    Anyway, back to the pizza issue. You niggas charge for delivery, so why the fuck do I have to tip the delivery man so he can pay for gas.

    delivery charge stays with the store/chain. it doesn't go to the individual delivery person. they used to cover gas & shit before they added the fee tho.
  • Dr.ChemixDr.Chemix Posts: 11,806 ✭✭✭✭✭
    i always tip unless the service is absolutely terrible, but this pity party servers throw for themselves is annoying as fuck. everybody knows how food service works. you getting paid a couple dollars an hour is not my problem. if you don't like the shit, quit.

    don't be mad, UPS is hiring.

    lol this post reads two different ways...nice gabi and mean gabi...two fishy in two different directions
    atribecalledgabi
  • SneakDZASneakDZA Just a guy Posts: 8,219 ✭✭✭✭✭
    i was with her until she said you should tip even if you don't like the service because the waitress might be having a bad day.

    are you serious, red?
    Dr.Chemixlord_infamous
  • Karl.Karl. Posts: 5,041 ✭✭✭✭✭
    "waitressing is a profession"


    Word?
  • Elzo69RenaissanceElzo69Renaissance currently working on a Kansas City Shuffle NYCPosts: 30,783 ✭✭✭✭✭
    If the server treat me great I type WELL if not fuck them
    Dr.Chemix
  • atribecalledgabiatribecalledgabi Posts: 7,175 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Dr.Chemix wrote: »
    i always tip unless the service is absolutely terrible, but this pity party servers throw for themselves is annoying as fuck. everybody knows how food service works. you getting paid a couple dollars an hour is not my problem. if you don't like the shit, quit.

    don't be mad, UPS is hiring.

    lol this post reads two different ways...nice gabi and mean gabi...two fishy in two different directions

    lol i'm sayin tho....it's not like they told you minimum wage or more when you started then you open the check up to a complete surprise
  • Elzo69RenaissanceElzo69Renaissance currently working on a Kansas City Shuffle NYCPosts: 30,783 ✭✭✭✭✭
  • ragerage Posts: 5,858 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Ya'll should read some other "articles" this fat entitled cave bitch has written. Its nothing but excuses and plea copping for fattys and lazy bitches. Its no wonder she'd put forth this tripe.
    Will MunnyYoung_Chitlin
  • Dr.ChemixDr.Chemix Posts: 11,806 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Dr.Chemix wrote: »
    i always tip unless the service is absolutely terrible, but this pity party servers throw for themselves is annoying as fuck. everybody knows how food service works. you getting paid a couple dollars an hour is not my problem. if you don't like the shit, quit.

    don't be mad, UPS is hiring.

    lol this post reads two different ways...nice gabi and mean gabi...two fishy in two different directions

    lol i'm sayin tho....it's not like they told you minimum wage or more when you started then you open the check up to a complete surprise

    I'm sayin tho...it started off nice and warm as if you were in their corner, understanding their plight

    and then bam!

    it flipped to "yo fuck that shit son! word up, deez servers acting like bitches b! Like life is all belgian waffles, strawberries and butter n shit! Fuck that son!"

    But seriously tho, yea, this new wave of "us poor servers" is just fucking ridiculous. The economy is fucked up and money is not circulating like it used to and your first idea is to get a server position?? In my NY accent I say, GTFOH
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