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Was this child Abuse?

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  • mryounggunmryounggun Loading up my Grey Matter Glock Posts: 13,358 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Yes
    Of course it's child abuse. Yelling at and chastising a child for having emotions and displaying those emotions in the form of tears is mental and emotional abuse of a child. Not sure that can be argued any other way.
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  • 2stepz_ahead2stepz_ahead Who I am is Complex, What i am, simply put. I'm a Threat walking out the lions denPosts: 29,508 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited July 17
    Meh, I grew up in the 70's. Back then it was common to see Granny, Grandma, Grandmother, Ma-Maw, and Abuelita verbally chastise and whoop a kids ass in public and no one batted an eyelash.

    nigga ...you got three grannies? i caught that abuelita

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  • CapitalBCapitalB all these dollars.. no sense. Posts: 23,888 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Not at all
    mryounggun wrote: »
    Of course it's child abuse. Yelling at and chastising a child for having emotions and displaying those emotions in the form of tears is mental and emotional abuse of a child. Not sure that can be argued any other way.

    if they cryin for a legitimate reason?? okay?!
    but a bad fucker whining!!? nah nigga.. STFU!!

    that aint abuse fam..
    thats a lil heathen needin to shut the fuck up! lmmfao
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  • konceptjoneskonceptjones Old School Playa Posts: 12,335 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Meh, I grew up in the 70's. Back then it was common to see Granny, Grandma, Grandmother, Ma-Maw, and Abuelita verbally chastise and whoop a kids ass in public and no one batted an eyelash.

    nigga ...you got three grannies? i caught that abuelita

    where your people from?

    Naw, I'm just saying Black White, and Mexican grandmothers were all doing the same shit back inna day.
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  • twenty2twenty2 My Ideals May Not Be Ideal But I Deal...Posts: 207 ✭✭
    Not at all
    7figz wrote: »
    Of course not, they were obviously playing a good old game of STFU.

    Seriously tho, we talmbout "grandma" here and if the mother was there and ain't say shit, then fuck it.

    Shiiit... Mama KNEW better! She been livin wit that old biddy her whole life and knew she'da got told to shut the fuck up too!

    As for the situation... Meh... I'm wit @gdatruth2.0 ... As much as I personally get disgusted by people cussin they kids...thems THEY kids... I've heard people call they kids "ugly bitches" and "faggot niggas"...but again...thems THEY kids...

    And hey... What the fuck do I know about whatever intricasies that may lie beneath? That kid just MIGHT be ugly...or that lil nigga just MIGHT be a lil too sassy...

    Couldn't/wouldn't be me...but thems THEY kids...
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  • MsSouthernMsSouthern Oh la laaaa Posts: 21,226 Regulator
    While I understand her frustration


    You don't talk to kids like that


    Is it abuse to the point CPS should be involved .....don't really know. Guess it depends how often she talks to them like that
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  • WestieWestie Whore Savant the vagina nebulaPosts: 12,247 ✭✭✭✭✭
    babelipsss wrote: »
    I never use profanity. Words to a child can feel like a fist. You get them used to public humiliation to the point they think it's normal. Brainwash them to the point where 10 to 20 years later they will turn around and thank you for the privilege and make sure pass it on to their kids.

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    it ain't that deep. a cuss word or two hasn't hindered anyone's development. consistent yelling, yes, but A shut the fuck up every now and then is something many many parents with very emotionally healthy children say.
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  • WestieWestie Whore Savant the vagina nebulaPosts: 12,247 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I don't think it's a great way to speak to kids and I don't think it's the right way to speak to your kids. But abuse? If she's calling them little worthless good-for-nothing pieces of shit, okay. But telling them to shut up or she'll smack em? and she didn't even do it?
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  • babelipsssbabelipsss Posts: 2,310 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Yes
    I agree with MsSouthern. I wouldn't call CPS. But I'd be a part of the crowd that gives her a look and pity her children. Shrugs. It is verbal abuse. To publicly demean and put down a child lowers their self esteem. They become desensitized to the humiliation. Just because it's done by many for generations doesn't make it right. I'm not raising my kids like that. But that's just me.
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  • obnoxiouslyfreshobnoxiouslyfresh ***Ms AllHipHop 2014*** Posts: 11,348 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I don't think it's a big deal but sure it's abuse. He'll live. Probably won't damage him much, but yes it's abuse. I try to think of children as no less worthy of the dignity and sense of self that any human would want. They're still human. They're just small humans so it's easy to forget.

    If my spouse told me to shut the fuck up and sit down in a crowded ass room in public, would that be abuse? Most people would think so. So it's not abuse when the person is a child? I don't get that, don't wanna subscribe to that, and try to push myself to keep that perspective that this is a human being who just happens to be small. My momma loves me to pieces and would cuss me out from asshole to appetite but there's nothing wrong with examining how we do things and evolving in some of those areas, rather than just saying my momma cussed me out and I turned out just fine =) We get hung up on the word "abuse" and refuse to acknowledge it for what it is.
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  • KingFreemanKingFreeman Way UpPosts: 13,336 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Not at all
    Putting a kid in their place ain't child abuse. I knew coming up with my parents, and grandmother there was a point where they weren't playing anymore. For my parents and me it was silent. Once theres no yelling or slapping its just a glare and that meant shit was about to get even more sinister and I knew to cut the shit. Plus I seen my bro and sis catch some epic beat downs. I knew the plays and my parents and grandma were washed. My bro and sis got the prime editions. Couldnt chase me up no stairs. Lol foh.

    It just manifests itself differently person to person tho. That outburst could be just as indicative of good parenting as bad. Those kids might be scared straight. Other kids parents are passive and or just ignore em until they explode and shoot up a school or breakdown and kill themselves.

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  • WestieWestie Whore Savant the vagina nebulaPosts: 12,247 ✭✭✭✭✭
    @Shuffington exactly what did I say that's incorrect? How do you treat your child/ren?
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  • ShuffingtonShuffington Posts: 3,691 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Westie wrote: »
    babelipsss wrote: »
    I never use profanity. Words to a child can feel like a fist. You get them used to public humiliation to the point they think it's normal. Brainwash them to the point where 10 to 20 years later they will turn around and thank you for the privilege and make sure pass it on to their kids.

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    it ain't that deep. a cuss word or two hasn't hindered anyone's development. consistent yelling, yes, but A shut the fuck up every now and then is something many many parents with very emotionally healthy children say.

    I don't think parents should be so casual about their usage of "Shut the F*ck up !!". I personally think that statement is way to aggressive to direct toward any adolescent. Thats just my 2 cents.

    But I'm just a kidless old head with an opinion who grew up in an environment where adults would apologize for cursing around children. Movies and Music would bleep out all the curse words. Their was a general level of decorum when directing your speech to an adult or even a child.... even if the child did something bad. Now my cousins got it bad... Parents would talk to them like they aint sh*t! but my mom only ever told me to "Be Quiet!" but she never told me to STFU! or flung any curse words my way.

    If you want to curse at your children from time to time... thats for you to decide. Some people just have different parameters that they choose to adhere to and a different value scale.
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  • WestieWestie Whore Savant the vagina nebulaPosts: 12,247 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Westie wrote: »
    babelipsss wrote: »
    I never use profanity. Words to a child can feel like a fist. You get them used to public humiliation to the point they think it's normal. Brainwash them to the point where 10 to 20 years later they will turn around and thank you for the privilege e sure pass it on to their kids.

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    it ain't that deep. a cuss word or two hasn't hindered anyone's development. consistent yelling, yes, but A shut the fuck up every now and then is something many many parents with very emotionally healthy children say.

    I don't think parents should be so casual about their usage of "Shut the F*ck up !!". I personally think that statement is way to aggressive to direct toward any adolescent. Thats just my 2 cents.

    But I'm just a kidless old head with an opinion who grew up in an environment where adults would apologize for cursing around children. Movies and Music would bleep out all the curse words. Their was a general level of decorum when directing your speech to an adult or even a child.... even if the child did something bad. Now my cousins got it bad... Parents would talk to them like they aint sh*t! but my mom only ever told me to "Be Quiet!" but she never told me to STFU! or flung any curse words my way.

    If you want to curse at your children from time to time... thats for you to decide. Some people just have different parameters that they choose to adhere to and a different value scale.

    I'm all for people raising their kids how they want to and doing what you think is best. In a perfect world you shouldn't take anger out on children or raise your voice or curse at them. But it happens. I just don't happen to think that children are too fragile to hear a curse word every now and then. But that's my experience. I I do think yelling can be harsh for children and definitely don't demean them. I do think what the lady did wasn't right, but generally speaking I don't think curse words are as bad as a punch like @babelipsss said.

    I don't even really know what affects swearing have. Public humiliation is different but swearing in general? I'm just curious as to what serious harm people think that does.
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  • rickmogulrickmogul black_samson Posts: 1,324 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Grandma gets a pass. After all they produced yo mom's or ya pops. Got some respectable folks then Grams did a good job. Let her rule. Kids will cherish those memories when she gone and believe it or not do the same to theirs. Y? Look how straight U came out.
  • soul rattlersoul rattler Chief Petty Officer of the Ill Community Naval Command HOOYAHPosts: 18,357 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Not at all
    It's embarrassing as fuck but it ain't abuse until she physically or psychologically abuses them.

    Kids need to stfu like 90% of the time anyway
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    You're doing it wrong. You take one and really fuck them up; make an example to the other kids. Like grab the small bitch and gouge her eyes out with your thumbs. Then curb stomp her.
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