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The changing reasons why women cheat on their husbands (Article inside)

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  • 2stepz_ahead2stepz_ahead Who I am is Complex, What i am, simply put. I'm a Threat walking out the lions denPosts: 32,231 ✭✭✭✭✭
    i guess im not that greedy.

    i mean i might ..


    nevermind.

    imma stay outta this shit
    you have the dude who is naturally thorough -Alpha
    you have the dude that wants to be thorough so he pretend to be Alpha -Beta
    then you have the nigga who wants to hang with the first two to be seen and grab any dropped crumbs.- Omega

    I am still struggling between blocks to get from the have nots to the have yachts and I won't be stopped.



    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=HhTZZdVbjio


    deadeyeCincothagreat45
  • BroddieBroddie just me and my bitch NYCPosts: 11,630 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Broddie wrote: »
    AZTG wrote: »
    heres the thing, in this article that I skimmed, it says thay women want to he sexually satisfied.

    here is my issue, as a dude, I'm personally never sexually satisfied fucking the same girl after a while no matter how good she is.

    she could be a true dime, fuck a steak up, and ride dick like a porn star, but after fucking her multiple times a week for months, im bored and wont be satisfied regardless of how good she is.

    If these women from this article feel like I do, then there isnt anything anyone could do.

    Over 245 sex positions available and thousands of different scenarios that could be played out in or outside the bedroom (ie: bringing another girl, role play etc.) Only reason people get bored when they have a fruitful sexlife within a coupling is cause they're straight up nymphos. No disrespect.

    Porn wired people.

    You may be right.
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  • 2stepz_ahead2stepz_ahead Who I am is Complex, What i am, simply put. I'm a Threat walking out the lions denPosts: 32,231 ✭✭✭✭✭
    LordZuko wrote: »
    @LordZuko bout to come in here an kill it.

    an he will have very valid points.

    an i will agree with him.

    he once said a woman loves what you can do for her and a man loves the woman.

    that shit is ether for a niggas soul cuz its true in most cases.

    What else is there to say tho?

    I gathered information and formed my opinions for how best i should proceed in life. Niggas can read research and come to their own conclusions.

    If they decide after getting the facts about females basically being a bunch of opportunistic whores, that they should go on ahead and get contractually bound to one or procreate with one, who am i to tell them different?

    Why So Many Women Cheat


    From a black and white perspective

    An article on the shit


    https://www.thecut.com/2017/09/why-women-cheat-esther-perel-state-of-affairs.html?utm_source=eml&utm_medium=e1&utm_campaign=sharebutton-t

    yo this is some selfish sounding shit

    nigga said outsourced
    you have the dude who is naturally thorough -Alpha
    you have the dude that wants to be thorough so he pretend to be Alpha -Beta
    then you have the nigga who wants to hang with the first two to be seen and grab any dropped crumbs.- Omega

    I am still struggling between blocks to get from the have nots to the have yachts and I won't be stopped.



    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=HhTZZdVbjio


  • 2stepz_ahead2stepz_ahead Who I am is Complex, What i am, simply put. I'm a Threat walking out the lions denPosts: 32,231 ✭✭✭✭✭
    yo that video......smdh and wow
    you have the dude who is naturally thorough -Alpha
    you have the dude that wants to be thorough so he pretend to be Alpha -Beta
    then you have the nigga who wants to hang with the first two to be seen and grab any dropped crumbs.- Omega

    I am still struggling between blocks to get from the have nots to the have yachts and I won't be stopped.



    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=HhTZZdVbjio


    Baseball Geek
  • VulcanRavenVulcanRaven I don't knowPosts: 18,858 ✭✭✭✭✭


    Massa done tricked you good.



    SMH.

    Didnt read but the last sentence caught my eye.

    The irony of a religious zealot telling somebody else massa tricked them

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    Rofl...im dying
  • LUClENLUClEN Absence makes the heart grow fonder of someone else Posts: 20,556 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Zimbardos the decline of guys come true.
    The rapper from linkin park would body the dudes in the xxxtentacion cypher
  • deadeyedeadeye Walmart Warrior Kat's buttPosts: 22,837 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Max. wrote: »
    Will Munny wrote: »
    I think people do anal too early in relationships and after that theres just nothing to look forward to. anal should not be allowed until atleast year 5 of marriage.

    Well if ur girl on period u can get head

    But sometimes u just wana bust her butthole wide open


    Somebody @ Westie for me.



    I'd like to hear her thoughts on the bolded.
    deadeye
    So, you're mad because I quoted a post.....that included a scantily clad pic of you......that you sent to another man.....while both of you are supposed to be in committed relationships with other people?

    Hilarious.
    June 12 Delete


    MsSouthern
    just messy ...smh
    June 12



    deadeye
    You can call me messy, but you can't say I was lying about anything I said.
    June 12 Delete


    MzGrahamBitches
    gtfoff my page and mind your fucking business old man.


    Oh wait, you have no business which is why you stalk various females on the internet tryibg to interject yourself into their business.

    Fuck off.
    June 12


    deadeye
    Most of your business is public knowledge Kathryn.

    You should learn to exercise more discretion.

    You're too old to continuously find yourself in compromising situations.

    I'm extremely disappointed in your behavior and expect much better of you in the future.

    With compassion, concern, sincerity, and due diligence.
    June 12 Delete

    MzGrahamBitches
    I hope you die of old age tonight.
    June 12

    deadeye
    That's a horrible thing to say.

    I'm sorry you feel that way Kathryn.

    However, I've never heard of anyone dying of old age at 43.

    My words must've really hit home for you to want me to die tonight.

    I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings.

    Instead of wishing me death, your time would be better served reflecting on your past transgressions and thinking about what steps you can take to improve yourself.
    June 12 Delete


    Dirty Sanchez
    kat caught feelings
    June 12

    deadeye
    Indeed she did.

    Definitely not your usual white woman.
    June 12 Delete

    MzGrahamBitches
    Titanagraphs but I caught feelings..ok.

    Type me another one pops.
    June 12


    deadeye
    You wished death upon me Kathryn.

    Solely because I quoted a post which featured you in a bathrobe with your privates partially exposed.

    A pic that would have never been publicly accessible had it not been for your carelessness and bad judgement.

    Essentially, you want me to die for your mistakes.

    Smarten up Kathryn.

    If anyone caught feelings it's you.

    This is just entertainment for me.
    June 12 Delete




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    @deadeye nah mate, fuck off, I literally hate seeing your name in my notifications because I know it's your FUCKING LIST. I'm tired of being @'d to some thread because of your shitty list, makes me just want to punch you in your fat fucking face.

    You're a digrace to creepset and 'mature' black men the world over.

    Fuck your entire existence.


    You are a plain idiot. Since you cannot give birth nor have a proper sense of enduring and suffering you cannot understand my post.

    @Westie has put her life on the line several times to give life. I wish I had an ounce of that courage, endurance and resiliance.

    Peace
  • VulcanRavenVulcanRaven I don't knowPosts: 18,858 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited October 11
    People are saying everything but not acknowledging that marriage is not natural. You don't need to be married to have a a family structure. Marriage is archaic and people are closed minded. People still need their space and too much of a person can another you. There are no set guidelines to relationships or marriage. Too many outside forces interfere and that also contributes to break ups or people straying.
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  • aneed123aneed123 Posts: 23,715 ✭✭✭✭✭
    AZTG wrote: »
    aneed123 wrote: »
    family structure and values lost... its gonna get worse and worse 2

    New structures and values replace the old ones bruh.

    "Family values" is only a few hundred years old anyway

    I guess... so u cool with the way shit headed?
    deadeyeKoltrainAggieLean.
  • aneed123aneed123 Posts: 23,715 ✭✭✭✭✭
    AZTG wrote: »
    but here is what I could say, a lot of these issues can be solved if people wait until their 30s to get married and have kids.

    Optimally it'll be better to find your partner after 30, that means the two parties getting married have lived, seen good and bad, and if they decided to settle, its a decision that comes from living and experience.

    Not saying every marriage would work, but a lot of the problems will be solved.

    For men yes but women biological clocks are ticking... many don't want kids after 34 or 35. Some famalies will be smaller and men are still ginna cheat with younger women for kids.. which will equate to the same single parent homes
  • 2stepz_ahead2stepz_ahead Who I am is Complex, What i am, simply put. I'm a Threat walking out the lions denPosts: 32,231 ✭✭✭✭✭
    jono wrote: »
    VIBE wrote: »
    Men don't give the women what they want or need. I've seen many marriages end up being blamed on the man for various reasons. Two of those reasons that are high on the list - sex and communication.

    There's no human connections. Everything today is expressed through social media; birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, baby announcements etc. Shit seems to have lost its value in the journey for likes, shares and the hope your video or message goes viral. I tell my wife happy birthday w a kiss, hug and some shit I'll do for her. I don't say shit on FB.

    Men don't even need women to get pleasure, either. These married men are popping open web browsers and searching up porn fantasies to get off bc wifey ain't doing shit. She's out cheating bc he can't fuck or just ain't fucking at all.

    It's all a lack of deep connection to each other. People don't realize that it doesn't just happen, you have to consistently work on that everyday. Compromise is also something many people don't understand. They're too immature and anal about shit.

    I've been w my wife since I was 15. I'm going to be 31 this year. 17 yrs together. 9 yrs married. 6 kids. She works. I stay at home. We have been through open heart surgeries w my 2nd son, which was hell for the first 3 yrs. Then, our 5th son was born and he has allergies, eczema & asthma, and that's a shit load of work, too.

    Even through that and typical bullshit, our sex lives are top notch. Sex every day, every week, every month. We can talk for hours. Humor is on point. We just click. Always have. We are both mature and just don't care to devote our time or energy to bullshit. Instead of arguing we get angry, don't talk, then talk it out when tempers are cooled. Even then, we hardly ever have any kind of issues with each other. Average argument, fight or being mad at each other is like once a month - if that.

    People just don't care to devote time to someone else. Everything is about them. Social media has created this selfish "me, me, me" idea. You have ppl marrying themselves now. Why marry someone when you don't want to work on shit, not even yourself?

    I don't get what's hard about being mature and being able to rationally understand and work things out that are necessary in a relationship.

    Real talk.

    Take a holistic approach to finding out why relationships fail and you'll see it.

    Every generation is becoming more selfish than the previous one, they also have more access via technology.

    In my grandmother's day, it would be obvious something was up. Your spouse would be gone for hours. Few people had cars or telephones so you had to put real effort into cheating.

    My parent's day, you had to watch the phones and keep track of how long someone is outside of the of the house.

    The generation of my older cousins had beepers, sex chat lines and rudimentary internet. Nobody knew what you were doing. It made cheating and hiding easier.

    Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.

    Technology is isolating people from everyone else and that includes spouses. The divide has been created. People are becoming more and more selfish, and given more opportunities to cheat or to "browse."

    With the advent of FB and Instagram people get to gloat about the happy side of relationships while hiding the underbelly. It gives people that are watching or following you the perception that shits all good.

    "The grass is always greener..." and now with FB and shit that saying has never been more true. You see family pics like things are all good.

    Anecdotes:
    My homeboy posted a pic of his two daughters and one of his BMs. They grinning and shit, you think things going lovely.

    Meanwhile, they not even together. In fact, she been cheating and he moved on to someone else.

    Another story.

    A frat brother's wife is posting pics of them and their kid online. She grinning and happy asf. The pic is brand new.

    Meanwhile he tell me that she got post-pardum depression and that's the only time his wife really smiled that week. She been sleeping and crying all the time. He stressed out having to take care of a newborn baby by himself.

    Relationships are not easy, shits hard asf. But if you want it to work it can.

    yes, the shit can be alot of work.....

    but i think people look at the return for that work.

    they be on some..."thats all, thats it?" type shit.

    man i am so glad i worked things out with my wife in our early years....that shit turned into me supporting her dreams and her supporting my dreams. an us creating new dreams together.

    its still work.

    but what aint
    you have the dude who is naturally thorough -Alpha
    you have the dude that wants to be thorough so he pretend to be Alpha -Beta
    then you have the nigga who wants to hang with the first two to be seen and grab any dropped crumbs.- Omega

    I am still struggling between blocks to get from the have nots to the have yachts and I won't be stopped.



    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=HhTZZdVbjio


  • deadeyedeadeye Walmart Warrior Kat's buttPosts: 22,837 ✭✭✭✭✭
    deadeye wrote: »
    count remy wrote: »
    who the fuck cares why she cheats. Tell her to come over, do what you gotta do with her then, send her back to her dirty dishes. It's a win win win situation.


    True.



    For most men, the relationship would be over as soon as they found out about it.



    However, some men want explanations.



    Case in point, the gentleman in this video:







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    Sad shit.

    imma be that nigga.

    i would want an explanation too.

    i might just be the one that allowed a nigga in. unlike most of yall....i might have needed to be checked an ignored her previous check attempts.

    now if it wasnt cause i was fukkin up or some bullshit.....then...after she done talking....imma pour alcohol on all the computers and walk out with nothing but my sanity.








    cuz imma bout to kill her ass so i need to get away





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    deadeye
    So, you're mad because I quoted a post.....that included a scantily clad pic of you......that you sent to another man.....while both of you are supposed to be in committed relationships with other people?

    Hilarious.
    June 12 Delete


    MsSouthern
    just messy ...smh
    June 12



    deadeye
    You can call me messy, but you can't say I was lying about anything I said.
    June 12 Delete


    MzGrahamBitches
    gtfoff my page and mind your fucking business old man.


    Oh wait, you have no business which is why you stalk various females on the internet tryibg to interject yourself into their business.

    Fuck off.
    June 12


    deadeye
    Most of your business is public knowledge Kathryn.

    You should learn to exercise more discretion.

    You're too old to continuously find yourself in compromising situations.

    I'm extremely disappointed in your behavior and expect much better of you in the future.

    With compassion, concern, sincerity, and due diligence.
    June 12 Delete

    MzGrahamBitches
    I hope you die of old age tonight.
    June 12

    deadeye
    That's a horrible thing to say.

    I'm sorry you feel that way Kathryn.

    However, I've never heard of anyone dying of old age at 43.

    My words must've really hit home for you to want me to die tonight.

    I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings.

    Instead of wishing me death, your time would be better served reflecting on your past transgressions and thinking about what steps you can take to improve yourself.
    June 12 Delete


    Dirty Sanchez
    kat caught feelings
    June 12

    deadeye
    Indeed she did.

    Definitely not your usual white woman.
    June 12 Delete

    MzGrahamBitches
    Titanagraphs but I caught feelings..ok.

    Type me another one pops.
    June 12


    deadeye
    You wished death upon me Kathryn.

    Solely because I quoted a post which featured you in a bathrobe with your privates partially exposed.

    A pic that would have never been publicly accessible had it not been for your carelessness and bad judgement.

    Essentially, you want me to die for your mistakes.

    Smarten up Kathryn.

    If anyone caught feelings it's you.

    This is just entertainment for me.
    June 12 Delete




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    @deadeye nah mate, fuck off, I literally hate seeing your name in my notifications because I know it's your FUCKING LIST. I'm tired of being @'d to some thread because of your shitty list, makes me just want to punch you in your fat fucking face.

    You're a digrace to creepset and 'mature' black men the world over.

    Fuck your entire existence.


    You are a plain idiot. Since you cannot give birth nor have a proper sense of enduring and suffering you cannot understand my post.

    @Westie has put her life on the line several times to give life. I wish I had an ounce of that courage, endurance and resiliance.

    Peace
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  • VIBEVIBE Posts: 54,350 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.

    reminds me of that story at the baseball game where two girls sitting behind an older married couple was watching the wife, sitting next to the husband, sexting some other dude and they ended up telling him through a note when she got up to leave..
    thagreat45PureYang
  • jonojono Right fist = power, left fist = unity Posts: 30,263 ✭✭✭✭✭
    VIBE wrote: »
    Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.

    reminds me of that story at the baseball game where two girls sitting behind an older married couple was watching the wife, sitting next to the husband, sexting some other dude and they ended up telling him through a note when she got up to leave..

    That's that bullshit right there.
    The amount of "No Fucks Given" it takes to be out and about with a mofo and still be cheating is staggering.
    It's shit like that happening every day now.

    People are talking on the phone less these days too. Now everybody is texting and video messaging, so you wouldn't even hear someone flirting any more.

    Shit is crazy. Nigga could write a book on this shit.
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  • 2stepz_ahead2stepz_ahead Who I am is Complex, What i am, simply put. I'm a Threat walking out the lions denPosts: 32,231 ✭✭✭✭✭
    aneed123 wrote: »
    jono wrote: »
    VIBE wrote: »
    Today, a spouse could be cheating or plotting to cheat and be sitting right next to you. Everybody got their own phone now with codes to prevent people from snooping. Social media accounts are private, so are email addresses, there is no way for you to know anymore.

    reminds me of that story at the baseball game where two girls sitting behind an older married couple was watching the wife, sitting next to the husband, sexting some other dude and they ended up telling him through a note when she got up to leave..

    That's that bullshit right there.
    The amount of "No Fucks Given" it takes to be out and about with a mofo and still be cheating is staggering.
    It's shit like that happening every day now.

    People are talking on the phone less these days too. Now everybody is texting and video messaging, so you wouldn't even hear someone flirting any more.

    Shit is crazy. Nigga could write a book on this shit.

    Thats one of the hard things now bein in my 30s dating... the women my age got kids.. the younger pretty ones be so self absorbed.... No one talks on the hone no more... texts ... shit is stupid. I think back to the 90s.... talking on the phone with chicks a night on the house phone or in the early 2000s having tolimit texts cuz of charachter charges and them having to wait til after 7 or 9 dependind on ur service and being happy to talk to u again for hours... that sht seems like lifetimes ago lol

    damn i remember the after 7 shit.....lol
    you have the dude who is naturally thorough -Alpha
    you have the dude that wants to be thorough so he pretend to be Alpha -Beta
    then you have the nigga who wants to hang with the first two to be seen and grab any dropped crumbs.- Omega

    I am still struggling between blocks to get from the have nots to the have yachts and I won't be stopped.



    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=HhTZZdVbjio


  • AZTGAZTG Posts: 7,559 ✭✭✭✭✭
    aneed123 wrote: »
    AZTG wrote: »
    aneed123 wrote: »
    family structure and values lost... its gonna get worse and worse 2

    New structures and values replace the old ones bruh.

    "Family values" is only a few hundred years old anyway

    I guess... so u cool with the way shit headed?

    Its not about that. 100 hundred years ago there was people not happy where we was headed. Same with 200 years ago.

    The world is completly different then it was even 50 years ago.

    Progress has good and bad, this looks bad but who know the good we will get when we get to where its headed.

    All I know is history has shown that once pandoras box has been opened, it cant be closed.

    So regardless of where we are headed, we gonna get there no matter what we do.

    Plus I do believe new values will emerge and institutions will emerge that will be just as important to us as "family values" are. Thats what always happens.
  • BroddieBroddie just me and my bitch NYCPosts: 11,630 ✭✭✭✭✭
    VIBE wrote: »
    Men don't give the women what they want or need. I've seen many marriages end up being blamed on the man for various reasons. Two of those reasons that are high on the list - sex and communication.

    There's no human connections. Everything today is expressed through social media; birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, baby announcements etc. Shit seems to have lost its value in the journey for likes, shares and the hope your video or message goes viral. I tell my wife happy birthday w a kiss, hug and some shit I'll do for her. I don't say shit on FB.

    Men don't even need women to get pleasure, either. These married men are popping open web browsers and searching up porn fantasies to get off bc wifey ain't doing shit. She's out cheating bc he can't fuck or just ain't fucking at all.

    It's all a lack of deep connection to each other. People don't realize that it doesn't just happen, you have to consistently work on that everyday. Compromise is also something many people don't understand. They're too immature and anal about shit.

    I've been w my wife since I was 15. I'm going to be 31 this year. 17 yrs together. 9 yrs married. 6 kids. She works. I stay at home. We have been through open heart surgeries w my 2nd son, which was hell for the first 3 yrs. Then, our 5th son was born and he has allergies, eczema & asthma, and that's a shit load of work, too.

    Even through that and typical bullshit, our sex lives are top notch. Sex every day, every week, every month. We can talk for hours. Humor is on point. We just click. Always have. We are both mature and just don't care to devote our time or energy to bullshit. Instead of arguing we get angry, don't talk, then talk it out when tempers are cooled. Even then, we hardly ever have any kind of issues with each other. Average argument, fight or being mad at each other is like once a month - if that.

    People just don't care to devote time to someone else. Everything is about them. Social media has created this selfish "me, me, me" idea. You have ppl marrying themselves now. Why marry someone when you don't want to work on shit, not even yourself?

    I don't get what's hard about being mature and being able to rationally understand and work things out that are necessary in a relationship.

    Wish I could GOAT this twice.
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    R.I.P. Darwyn Cooke
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