shawnbrown wrote: »
Wat chu been thru doe
blakfyahking wrote: »
I laughed at cuzzo that I told ya'll about, but I had my own ether as well:
I actually never wanted to join the army................but I did cause I thought I was going to be a father at the time
mom dukes was pressing me to join the military and even had 3 recruiters come talk to me at the house. I honestly wasn't going for the soldier boy shit, but for moms I played it like I took them seriously. I finally got this female recruiter, broad was responsible for helping me fill out my paperwork and taking me to MEPs to do the piss test, physical etc.
meanwhile I'm messing with this chick I could consider a high school sweetheart, she was the 1st female I messed with that was actually considered a "pure good" girl at the time haha. most chicks I was used to dealing with were a part of that "life" I promised my mom I would get away from. I became religious and got saved, and left the street, drugs, all that shit alone. started messing with this new chick, she was all into church and made a nigga chase the pussy the right way LOL. I actually bought this chick a little promise ring and all that sweet shit playing the role.
however, shit was still getting real and my associates I dealt with was getting into drama and shit that I easily could've gotten caught up in. had a friend get killed, so I got stressed and started backsliding like a mofo. I started smoking again. so when my mom put the lil army recruiters on me, I was already back to smoking weed SMH. so now the female recruiter is taking me to do a piss test and I keep failing these shits LOL
so me and my lil good girl have an "accident" and I leaked in her raw.................next thing you know, 4 positive pregnancy tests later I get serious and sober the fuck up, pass the piss test, complete all my paperwork to join the army; ready to ship in two months. meanwhile my chick is acting funny maybe 2 weeks later into her confirmed pregnancy. She acts unnecessarily jealous, and gets mad at random shit all cause we still couldn't tell her overly religious fam yet that she was preggo. next thing you know, shorty is being difficult to deal with, acting all evasive and shit. something didn't feel right.
so what did I do as a frustrated 18yr old? I start mashing my female recruiter. Meanwhile I'm all guilty and shit cause my recruiter was picking me up from school in her lil army car and buying me a mcdonalds meal before we go to her apt and I buss her down. by this time, my chick and me are barely speaking. finally the week it's time for me to go, we "make" up. but then on my last night before I ship, at the last minute my chick backs out on staying the night with me in my hotel at the MEPs. So I'm mad then a mofo, but then my recruiter comes to my room..........we chop it up, then this chick blows a J with me LOL, and then of course we smash
so I ship, not sure of my relationship status, but still thinking at the minimum I will be a father. I talked to shorty on the phone and shit is good again between us. she tells me the baby is kicking yadda yah. however, I finally get a letter from her while I'm in basic, by this time my girl should be approximately 5-6 months preggo. shorty tells me in the letter she got an abortion before I left, AND she was fuckin her ex on the slick while I was still home..................her excuse was she wasn't sure if she'd be able to do a long distance relationship SMH
but meanwhile the whole time shorty didn't say shit but that she didn't want me to leave, but "that I had to for our baby". so I'm pissed cause now I'm in the army for a baby that don't exist....................but ah well, I learned a valuable lesson that you can't put nothing past a chick, even the religious churchy ones LOL
but the ether wasn't only that.............I got back with the chick later once I got my permanent assignment. a nigga was driving 12+ hours to maintain a relationship with shorty................she ended up cheating again, after I finally learned to be faithful
/charged it to the game
intalect wrote: »
i'm still tryin to build up the courage to share my story smh not as epic as some of yalls but it burns super deep
sionb55 wrote: »
Let it out my nigga..... thats what this thread's for.
Can't be all that bad.....
shawnbrown wrote: »
yeaaa.... this bitch is drunk rite now.. I heard a few dudes and bitches in the background... she bout to get fucked
jackthemack wrote: »
Im out here looking like Millhouse, wincing and shit.
black caesar wrote: »
So what did she say to you on the phone?
peacetothereal1 wrote: »
I mean...have you even dropped a story.... miss all of us with this Oprah Winfrey shit.... drop a story or kick stones....
Ms Eudoxie wrote: »
LOL @ Oprah shit. The only thing that ever hurt or affected me is my ex cheating on me.
I met "G" like a year after highschool, about 19, working some menial job in a warehouse. I REALLY wanted to be with G but I met another guy the same time as him and they were both cool so I decided to weigh my options. G was a clown but he was also laid back and everytime we went out he was so cool and mannerable. I loved that about him. The other guy was a character. Vibrant personality, loved eating out at restaraunts and started doing the most as far as courting goes, so i went with the second guy but never told G. I just stopped talking to him (I know, terrible).
The timing must have been off for the other guy b/c he hit an all time low once we started talking..lost his job, car got repo'd, lost his apartment had to move back with his mom and his attitude became pure shit. He was mad everyday about nothing bc of his situation. I was willing to stick in there until he got on his feet but we went to a party and he started openly flirting with other chicks and I dropped him. He had nothing and didn't give a fuck about anything so I left him. We were only together about 5 months.
G had been calling me during this time but I wasnt really taking his calls. Once I left the other guy, I called G back and explained why I was distant. You could cut the silence with a knife. I knew he was pissed, but he decided to play the friend role instead of go off on me. Time goes on, a lil over a year goes by, and me and G are hanging out as usual one weekend at his place. G was the type to stay on chill. We'd flirt but he'd never go all the way, he liked for the girl to make the first move, so knowing my friend, I tried him and we hooked up that night. I was actually pissed afterwards bc he blew my mind and I was mad at myself for choosing and wasting time with the other guy .
So after a month of hooking up, we decide to be in a relationship. Long story short, he cheated bc he was mad at me for choosing the other guy over him and said I could have handled it better. He felt like I led him on and should have been upfront about dating two guys. So I guess he felt I burned him so he got his revenge. At first he wasn't going to tell me bc he claims he regretted it and is still trying to rekindle what we had, but we never really talked about that period or the other guy and his frustration came out in him using cheating as weapon.
deadeye wrote: »
Props for posting your story.
You may not realize it, but the bolded and underlined actually supports what everyone else has been trying to tell you about their experiences.
kai_valya wrote: »
this is my only etherous-type experience with men. i dated my b/f all thru high school. he was african like i was, our families had known each other forever, and we were supposed to get married and everything. so anyway, i'm 17, almost 18 when this happened.
i used to babysit for this family, and one day he stopped by to drop off some food for me and one of the little kids asks him where is your other girlfriend? and i'm like what are u talking about i'm his only girlfriend and he says "he was over here when crysytal was babysitting us last week". turns out he had been fucking this chick that i could not stand, and was just being so brazen with it. i was seeing red, it took everything in me to not jump on him right there in front of the kids. he denied it at first, but i found out it was true. i heard a rumor that he even got her pregnant, but either it was false or she had an abortion, cuz i never saw a baby.
anyway, we broke up, both our families wanted us to stay together, but i didn't. aside from the cheating, he had been getting into a lot of shit. he was 2 years older than me, but he wasn't in college, and was into drugs (selling them). so he ends up moving to toronto and gets into it with jamaicans over some drugs probably and ends up in a coma at the hospital for like a month. he wasn't ever really the same after that, his behaviour got even more violent and erratic. and then one night after he had moved back, he was at the club and for some reason afterward, a fight or melee broke out and he ended up shooting and killing his friend. now he's on the run for murder and the last i heard he had either gone back to our country or he was dressing up as a woman now.
in some ways i'm glad it happened, cuz i don't want to think what would've happened if i had stayed with him. i've been happily married now for 4 years, and even though my fam doesn't approve (my husband's not african), breaking up with my ex made me stop giving a fuck about their opinion.