Moving Too Fast?

ImSoReal · July 2011

Ive been talking to this girl for 3 weeks now, our first date was 2 weeks ago, and since then we have been out 3 other times. Ive chilled at her place atleast 5 times at night, one time even spending the night. She brought me food on the 4th of July from her family's bbq. Our vibe is on point, chemistry is off the chain, so far things are real good. I have yet to see anything that would question being with her but its only been 3 weeks, but usually by now Ive seen something. She stays telling me that she misses me and that Im on her mind, while she is at work. She has already told her mother about me, and I know this for a fact because Ive actually talked to her mother for a couple minutes one night. I'm going out of town on Sunday for like 5 days and was thinking once I return to make it official, but then again maybe even that is too son

by the way she already calls me her man....the sex is off the chain and since she is older than me, she is really looking for something serious and meaningful which is the same for me as well. My b-day is coming up at the end of this month and she has said she whats to buy me a new phone because mine is trippin' and then another surprise present to go along with it

Mr Popo · July 2011

What's the age difference?
Are you ready for a relationship?

riddlerap · July 2011

i dont even read this niggas threads anymore. he makes way too many. nigga all this shit does not happen to one person.

Jonas.dini · July 2011

It's all about u dogg, if u want it embrace it if not back off. But if you do embrace it don't get all lovey dovey back, keep your cool.

1of1 · July 2011

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ImSoReal · July 2011

Mr Popo wrote: »

What's the age difference?
Are you ready for a relationship?

6 years

yes

ImSoReal · July 2011

Jonas.dini wrote: »

It's all about u dogg, if u want it embrace it if not back off. But if you do embrace it don't get all lovey dovey back, keep your cool.

Ill just wait until I get back from my trip that will give it another week

Lorenzo de Medici · July 2011

ImSoReal wrote: »

Ive been talking to this girl for 3 weeks now, our first date was 2 weeks ago, and since then we have been out 3 other times. Ive chilled at her place atleast 5 times at night, one time even spending the night. She brought me food on the 4th of July from her family's bbq. Our vibe is on point, chemistry is off the chain, so far things are real good. I have yet to see anything that would question being with her but its only been 3 weeks, but usually by now Ive seen something. She stays telling me that she misses me and that Im on her mind, while she is at work. She has already told her mother about me, and I know this for a fact because Ive actually talked to her mother for a couple minutes one night. I'm going out of town on Sunday for like 5 days and was thinking once I return to make it official, but then again maybe even that is too son

by the way she already calls me her man....the sex is off the chain and since she is older than me, she is really looking for something serious and meaningful which is the same for me as well. My b-day is coming up at the end of this month and she has said she whats to buy me a new phone because mine is trippin' and then another surprise present to go along with it

Don't get tied down too quick bruh......take time to know her before you invest too much emotionally.

ICame4Pussy · July 2011

How old u is breh?

atribecalledgabi · July 2011

If you're feelin each other like that then, to me, there's no such thing as moving too fast. You don't have to claim each other right away, but if you both see commitment in the future & want it, then I don't see the point in wasting time.

ImSoReal · July 2011

atribecalledgabi wrote: »

If you're feelin each other like that then, to me, there's no such thing as moving too fast. You don't have to claim each other right away, but if you both see commitment in the future & want it, then I don't see the point in wasting time.

I feel you, honestly things have progressed so naturally and the vibe is crazy. Ive never connected with someone like this before. Honestly I know Ive just met her, but if shit was too go bad I would be completely stunned. I havent gone all out in regards to my feelings with her, unlike what she has done with me. I tell her that im thinkign about her and that she is on my mind but Im not overkill with it

I let it ride out for the rest of the month and see how things go

#1 pick · July 2011

Older women move faster than younger ones for many reasons. Just do what you think is what you want to do. If you aren't ready yet, don't push too fast, if you are, go for it.

ImSoReal · July 2011

#1 pick wrote: »

Older women move faster than younger ones for many reasons. Just do what you think is what you want to do. If you aren't ready yet, don't push too fast, if you are, go for it.

I feel like Im ready, but shit I could be wrong

mindright · July 2011

Here some good sound advice for you.....

Do NOT, I repeat, DO NOT let her buy you a phone....

Again incase you didn't read the first line.... DO NOT LET HER BUY YOU A PHONE!!!!!!

I've lived this...She will feel entitled to go into your phone at any time, in any given situation. I repeat, Do NOT let her buy you a phone, think of something else..

HUGE mistake, especially since you only been with her a month... If u were together for years, I would say differently... Buy your own phone, think of something else for her to buy.

freshfromatl · July 2011

#1 pick wrote: »

Older women move faster than younger ones for many reasons. Just do what you think is what you want to do.

Came in to say this.

freshfromatl · July 2011

Mikko_ wrote: »

sounds like you have chemistry which is nice but you don't know her yet. A Woman, especially an older Woman can morph into whatever you want her to be. She will be Betty crocker in the kitchen, a porn star in the bedroom...anything it takes to get that ring. Then she can relax and you will meet the real her. This applies to guys to but I see it more often in older women looking to settle down. You met a few weeks ago, you have no idea who she is yet and vice versa. Just take your time, there is no reason to rush and jumping into a relationshi after a month is definitely rushing.

Great Advice.

ImSoReal · July 2011

Mikko_ wrote: »

sounds like you have chemistry which is nice but you don't know her yet. A Woman, especially an older Woman can morph into whatever you want her to be. She will be Betty crocker in the kitchen, a porn star in the bedroom...anything it takes to get that ring. Then she can relax and you will meet the real her. This applies to guys to but I see it more often in older women looking to settle down. You met a few weeks ago, you have no idea who she is yet and vice versa. Just take your time, there is no reason to rush and jumping into a relationshi after a month is definitely rushing.

I feel you, which is why im not rushing, she wanted to get official, and I told her not yet. Her ass is moving faster than me her coworkers and friends and family all ready know about me. I havent told anyone except for the lames on this site

King Erauno · July 2011

Bruh...remember the thread you made last week. SAME shit happened with me...i was in your shoes..shorty felt we were moving too fast so we but the brakes on it a little bit. Just let the shit flow...dont get all lovey dovey and really get to know her before you put any titles on it. Let HER come to you with that topic...other than that have fun and beat that pussy up

alvarez_313 · July 2011

ImSoReal wrote: »

I feel you, which is why im not rushing, she wanted to get official, and I told her not yet. Her ass is moving faster than me her coworkers and friends and family all ready know about me. I havent told anyone except for the lames on this site

Low key ether.. Nice one...

philly_soldier · July 2011

Think with your head and not with your dick and you'll be fine.

HustleTree · July 2011

There aren't too many good ones left out there now a days...If you got one don't let her slip away cause you trying to be cool.

ibedamned · July 2011

so all this shit happened in 21 days?

ImSoReal · July 2011

ibedamned wrote: »

so all this shit happened in 21 days?

about 4 weeks, we talked on the phone for like a week before meeting, and since our first date we have went out 3 other times, and Ive chilled at her place like 4 times. She brought me bbq from her family's place. Like on the real im a very skeptical person, but I have never vibed and had so much chemistry with someone this quick and til this level. Like I said she brought up the official thing and I told her we should wait but she still calls me her man, has told family and friends. Like if this shit goes bad, I would be stunned. Im at ease and shit seems so damn right. She has already talked about what she is going to get me for my b-day and she wants us to take a trip in the next 2 months. Im not going to give all the details on the discussion we have had, but like I said im not a bitter dude, but if this shit goes bad this might be the relationship that would do it. So far no negative signs, but I know its early but in the past something has always come up at this point

black caesar · July 2011

Does she have kids?

Sh0t · July 2011

I don't believe in "too fast", ideally I'd like to meet a woman and elope the next day.

But buyer, beware.

I wouldn't do anything artificial to slow things down, some people just have chemistry and things feel fast.

Year-long "dating" periods are silly really, and often artificial. Usually when you meet somebody you like, things always move fast. That's what liking somebody does, makes us want to see them more, have more with them, etc.

politicalthug202 · July 2011

nah homie run run.

chicks who try to move too fast have emotional issue or use to be hoes
when they were younger and now trying to be wifey material in serious relationships.

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