Hey Fellas (25 & up): What do you expect your potential woman to bring to the table?

American.Loo · December 2011

Earlier this year while out of state, I met this very nice girl, a real sweetheart. Kind of reminds me of Mood Indigo except she knows how to treat a man.

We kept in contact, and on the surface, the chemistry was good. There were a few things that kind of didn't sit right with me though:

-- Highest level of education: High School
-- No car (to be fair, she lives in NY and you dont HAVE to drive there, no license either though)
-- Tattoo sleeves on both arms

Now, she was a very well spoken sweet girl. But let's be real, if a guy had a resume like that, he'd be labeled a loser, right? So I'd like to know (aside from beauty and great sex) what do you look for a woman to bring to the table?

SUBQUESTION: If you were rich, would the requirements be the same?

American.Loo · December 2011

january wrote: »

The table.

Can you be a bit more specific.

ImSoReal · December 2011

this topic is done every couple of months

-own mode of transportation
-common sense
-income to where she is able to take care of herself
-doesnt waste money
-doesnt communicate with exes
no kids

Well Got Dam · December 2011

Doesnt watch any Houswives of any city shows

Makes some decent amount of money

Doesnt argue about some dumb shit

Has goals and ambitions

Doesnt try to emulate her friends

shit like that

freepostking · December 2011

No children.

American.Loo · December 2011

DAMITT wrote: »

Doesnt watch any Houswives of any city shows

Makes some decent amount of money
Doesnt argue about some dumb shit

Has goals and ambitions

Doesnt try to emulate her friends

shit like that

What do you consider a decent amount

-Vincenzo- · December 2011

i dont care about any materialistic aspects as long as she can hold her own or her parents do so. only 2 things that matter is personality and looks to me.

EmM HoLLa. · December 2011

First.. We have to be compatible.. All that other shit dont matter if we dont get along...

I would like for her to have a career.. Usually in order to be a career woman you have to have some kind of education.. (College)..

Once we are compatible.. And she got her own bread.. Everything else can be worked out from there...

goat334 · December 2011

She needs to be able to take care of herself without me just like I'm able to with out her.
She needs to be able to cook and clean just like I'm able to.
Anything else positive she brings to the table will be a bonus.

I'm a simple dude, it doesn't require much for me to be happy.

goat334 · December 2011

EmM HoLLa. wrote: »

First.. We have to be compatible.. All that other shit dont matter if we dont get along...

I would like for her to have a career.. Usually in order to be a career woman you have to have some kind of education.. (College)..

Once we are compatible.. And she got her own bread.. Everything else can be worked out from there...

I was thinking about compatibility, but I was thinking that has to be a given.

blackrain · December 2011

At the very least, show me you can take care of yourself...show me you have the ability to act and think like a rational human being under a stressful or not ideal circumstance...and show me you have the ability to think outside of your own comfort zone

edwardnigma · December 2011

ImSoReal wrote: »

this topic is done every couple of months

-own mode of transportation
-common sense
-income to where she is able to take care of herself
-doesnt waste money
-doesnt communicate with exes
no kids

I'm ify on the kids issue. Kids don't bother me and tend to like me....not all women want you to take care of their kids. Last lady I dated who had a kid, I just treated him not like my son, but like my lil homie. Everybody was cool with the situation. It was a cool situation for a bit....lol just for a bit though

American.Loo · December 2011

Maybe I'm requiring too much then.

I dont see myself getting married, but if i ever did, earning potential is slightly important to me. A passion for life is as well. Openness to new things or ideas and and easy going personality are highly important.

I guess the point in my original post is that, if we're striving toward an "equal" society, is it time to hold these females to a higher standard.

powerman 5000 · December 2011

The only thing i expect fro her is not to fuck with me. The more she brings that's not drama is gravy. I have low expectations for the 2000 + year model females.

edwardnigma · December 2011

powerman 5000 wrote: »

The only thing i expect fro her is not to fuck with me. The more she brings that's not drama is gravy. I have low expectations for the 2000 + year model females.

But, but, thats what women do when their bored...fuck with us...like, for real. I feel you though, one of my road dawgs always says "Yo you not gon findall that good conversation shit, thats just movies" lol I never agree with him, I don't even think he believes it.....

Relationhips are so confusing today, we have a society thats going in so many different directions. We as a people are all over the place.

I was talking to a young woman doing the single black independent woman thing, she was looking at me like meat, like, Nigga I dont wanna do this I'll follow you lol just tell me the plan,I seen it in her eyes.

I don't care what my chic does, as long as she does something for work. No strippin or hoein(unless I'm Pimpin) and thats just real talk.

She can bag groceries, work at the counter, fucking babysit, just do something to help me along with natural compatability and we all good.

tru_m.a.c · December 2011

lol I just posted age discrimination and my post has to get approved??? wtf

fuck ya thread loo...u 25 + ass niggas ruining the game for us young cats...inflating the pussy index...the trickle down effect is killing the market right now lol

coop9889 · December 2011

DAMITT wrote: »

Doesnt watch any Houswives of any city shows

Makes some decent amount of money

Doesnt argue about some dumb shit

Has goals and ambitions

Doesnt try to emulate her friends

shit like that

Eliminates 99% of women.

Only ones left are either deaf or mute.

MAKAVELI25 · December 2011

For me specifiically:

Obviously, physically attractive
Good sense of humor
Ability to banter (I love just sitting down and talking shit with females, I hate when it has to be me who ALWAYS cracks jokes)
Smart
Articulate
Sweet, not afraid to express her self
Assertive
Makes ATLEAST 80% of my annual income

mryounggun · December 2011

-smart
-ambitious
-not ugly
-not ignorant
-kind

That's pretty much it.

RumBoxTen · December 2011

goat334 wrote: »

She needs to be able to take care of herself without me just like I'm able to with out her.
She needs to be able to cook and clean just like I'm able to.
Anything else positive she brings to the table will be a bonus.

I'm a simple dude, it doesn't require much for me to be happy.

C/S

No baggage, real hair, free spirit, nurturing skills, and willing to have kids. Now a days it seems chicks in their 20's either kidded up or don't ever wanna have any.

Mood Indigo · December 2011

American.Loo wrote: »

Earlier this year while out of state, I met this very nice girl, a real sweetheart. Kind of reminds me of Mood Indigo except she knows how to treat a man.

We kept in contact, and on the surface, the chemistry was good. There were a few things that kind of didn't sit right with me though:

-- Highest level of education: High School
-- No car (to be fair, she lives in NY and you dont HAVE to drive there, no license either though)
-- Tattoo sleeves on both arms

Now, she was a very well spoken sweet girl. But let's be real, if a guy had a resume like that, he'd be labeled a loser, right? So I'd like to know (aside from beauty and great sex) what do you look for a woman to bring to the table?

SUBQUESTION: If you were rich, would the requirements be the same?

I was so flattered until I read the rest. What does that mean? Lol

numbaz...80's baby · December 2011

No kids
college education
maintain a job
Not loud
Not indecisive
maintain personal hygiene(for some reason ppl have problems with this)....smh
cook and clean(not most of the time but sometimes. i'd help with that.)
Not materialistic
Has to be able to manage money

willhustle · December 2011

numbaz...80's baby wrote: »

No kids
college education
maintain a job
Not loud
Not indecisive
maintain personal hygiene(for some reason ppl have problems with this)....smh
cook and clean(not most of the time but sometimes. i'd help with that.)
Not materialistic
Has to be able to manage money

Props ^^^^^

I think it's easy for all us to say what we really want in a woman but from a realistic standpoint we're not going to get everything we want. I'm almost 30 and never been in a serious relationship (don't go out as much) but I got shit on my plate and I know the type of woman I want to be around and I rather handle my business together before taking on something serious.

JDSTAYWITIT. · December 2011

Understanding
No Babies
Consideration
Controlled Temper
No Babies
Attractive
An idea of what she wants with her future
.......... That bitch better not have no Babies B
Coo sense of humor
Not vindictive

Bruh if the chick..... Im telling you I ain't fuckin with no kids

Oh and it wouldn't hurt if she had a coo ass/nice head game/and could could a nigga a steak and egg combo one time...

darkone360 · December 2011

Personality
Common sense
Ability to take care of herself financially
Communication
Conversation

Raging Raven · December 2011

head,clean pussy and more head

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