What is the male perspective when it comes to dating

ScumbagSwag · March 2012

like really taking a woman you just met on a traditional date, do you feel like its a burden to a man? I think every dudes idea of a date is over the crib, maybe drinks, movie, smash.

.American Loo · March 2012

I like dates that allow me to learn about the person.

walking around downtown and stopping for drinks is good.

Du_Du · March 2012

.American Loo wrote: »

I like dates that allow me to learn about the person.

walking around downtown and stopping for drinks is good.

this here, i like to get to know the person i'm chilling with initially, see what they're about, and see what kinda picture they're trying to paint of themselves.....

.American Loo · March 2012

ItsKatBitches wrote: »

Ya'll didn't answer the question though.

Do you find it to be a burden to court a woman? Do you expect that she put out?

Not entirely sure if what I do can be considered courting. I enjoy a woman's company and that's about it.

As far as putting out, I don't know any women that aren't. So yes, I guess I expect it sooner than later.

HAF BAYKED · March 2012

no burden....but im not sponsoring date number 3, 4, 5 and all that w/o moving forward anywhere else....some females keep prospects around just for the free meals and gifts here and there, but have no intentions on fuckin with this dude...i'll treat you good, but you gotta do the same

The Prodigalson · March 2012

Let's be real here, the ultimate goal is to hopefully get her back to the crib and smash. It not like we expect you to pay us with sex. The date is like buttering the bread befor it's done. But as the night progress you learn more and more about he person. In most case depending on the read you get from her you know the probability to smash may go down by 75%. At that point you get a little relaxed and you forget about trying to beat it up and just enjoy th conversation and if it happens it happens without trying to pressure her. But all in all the sole pumps is to smash.

HAF BAYKED · March 2012

Young-Ice wrote:

If there's grass on the field play ball

if there's grass on the field the game will be postponed until she takes care of that...

usmarin3 · March 2012

It's waste of time and money, dating is like being on a job interview.

I prefer to just hanging out in a less formal setting like a house party and around friends.

Du_Du · March 2012

i always go places i like to hang out at anyway.....

so even if it's a chick i wasn't feeling...i'm still going to have a good time...

.American Loo · March 2012

dusouljah wrote: »

i always go places i like to hang out at anyway.....

so even if it's a chick i wasn't feeling...i'm still going to have a good time...

That's how I am. A pretty face next to me is just a bonus.

MeTaL · March 2012

I think it should be whatever both people are comfortable with. If you as a man who likes a woman who will take control and be assertive, you should like the idea of a female initiating flirting or a serious relationship with.

usmarin3 · March 2012

ItsKatBitches wrote: »

usmarin3 wrote: »

It's waste of time and money, dating is like being on a job interview.

I prefer to just hanging out in a less formal setting like a house party and around friends.

Cheap ass, party of one.

Why would i not want to see someone in a natural setting where i will be all the time. If a chick can't get along with my friends that mean she isn't real or have a sense of humor. It has nothing to do with being cheap per se, it's a level of pretentiousness and fronting that goes along with being on a ''date".

.American Loo · March 2012

dating this one girl right now i'm a bit worried to bring around my friends.

way too quiet. how is a grown a** person shy?

Du_Du · March 2012

she trying to hard to impress....

damn all that shy shit.....she prolly goofy as fuck, but wanna come off as not..

a.mann · March 2012

drinks or dinner

never movies on a 1st date

on another note, what up with dudes whining about coming out they pockets a lil?

ain't yo daddy taught you gotta pay to play?

unless you looking for a wife or life partner, don't be disheatened when the average chick don't pay her "fair share" on a night out when all you want from her is ass and pussy

freshb651 · March 2012

a.mann wrote: »

drinks or dinner

never movies on a 1st date

on another note, what up with dudes whining about coming out they pockets a lil?

ain't yo daddy taught you gotta pay to play?

unless you looking for a wife or life partner, don't be disheatened when the average chick don't pay her "fair share" on a night out when all you want from her is ass and pussy

"disheatened" ?

usmarin3 · March 2012

a.mann wrote: »

drinks or dinner

never movies on a 1st date

on another note, what up with dudes whining about coming out they pockets a lil?

ain't yo daddy taught you gotta pay to play?

unless you looking for a wife or life partner, don't be disheatened when the average chick don't pay her "fair share" on a night out when all you want from her is ass and pussy

Nope, my daddy thought me to not trick on bitches and that if a chick likes you money and what you can do for her won't be in the equation. Then again my folks are from an era where men and women build together and women weren't concerned with a mans financial portfolio.

.American Loo · March 2012

dusouljah wrote: »

she trying to hard to impress....

damn all that shy shit.....she prolly goofy as fuck, but wanna come off as not..

Exactly. I took a shower at her crib, when I came out .. she was on the couch humming and flipping a pen.

As soon as she saw me she stopped humming. It's like, "D*mn. It's OK to have a personality, yo."

A personality is more than being able to listen, it's being comfortable doing the things that make you, you.

NYCeeCee · March 2012

a.mann wrote: »

on another note, what up with dudes whining about coming out they pockets a lil?

I won't ever understand this.

The Prodigalson · March 2012

a.mann wrote: »

drinks or dinner

never movies on a 1st date

on another note, what up with dudes whining about coming out they pockets a lil?

ain't yo daddy taught you gotta pay to play?

unless you looking for a wife or life partner, don't be disheatened when the average chick don't pay her "fair share" on a night out when all you want from her is ass and pussy

Broke selfish niggaz.

NYCeeCee · March 2012

usmarin3 wrote: »

a.mann wrote: »

drinks or dinner

never movies on a 1st date

on another note, what up with dudes whining about coming out they pockets a lil?

ain't yo daddy taught you gotta pay to play?

unless you looking for a wife or life partner, don't be disheatened when the average chick don't pay her "fair share" on a night out when all you want from her is ass and pussy

Nope, my daddy thought me to not trick on bitches and that if a chick likes you money and what you can do for her won't be in the equation. Then again my folks are from an era where men and women build together and women weren't concerned with a mans financial portfolio.

@usmarin , do you honestly see that as "tricking" ? You've never payed for a platonic male friend's meal?

taeboo · March 2012

usmarin3 wrote: »

a.mann wrote: »

drinks or dinner

never movies on a 1st date

on another note, what up with dudes whining about coming out they pockets a lil?

ain't yo daddy taught you gotta pay to play?

unless you looking for a wife or life partner, don't be disheatened when the average chick don't pay her "fair share" on a night out when all you want from her is ass and pussy

Nope, my daddy thought me to not trick on bitches and that if a chick likes you money and what you can do for her won't be in the equation. Then again my folks are from an era where men and women build together and women weren't concerned with a mans financial portfolio.

When did buying a woman a drink or a meal become tricking?

NYCeeCee · March 2012

.American Loo wrote: »

dusouljah wrote: »

she trying to hard to impress....

damn all that shy shit.....she prolly goofy as fuck, but wanna come off as not..

Exactly. I took a shower at her crib, when I came out .. she was on the couch humming and flipping a pen.

As soon as she saw me she stopped humming. It's like, "D*mn. It's OK to have a personality, yo."

A personality is more than being able to listen, it's being comfortable doing the things that make you, you.

She's probably intimidated by you and feels like you're out of her league. Probably wondering why someone like YOU would want HER. I feel bad for her, actually.

.American Loo · March 2012

NYCeeCee wrote: »

.American Loo wrote: »

dusouljah wrote: »

she trying to hard to impress....

damn all that shy shit.....she prolly goofy as fuck, but wanna come off as not..

Exactly. I took a shower at her crib, when I came out .. she was on the couch humming and flipping a pen.

As soon as she saw me she stopped humming. It's like, "D*mn. It's OK to have a personality, yo."

A personality is more than being able to listen, it's being comfortable doing the things that make you, you.

She's probably intimidated by you and feels like you're out of her league. Probably wondering why someone like YOU would want HER. I feel bad for her, actually.

Actually, I think you're partly right. Because last night I asked her if she was nervous around me and she said yes. Mind you, we've been dating for a few months and dated before, about a year ago. Tried to reassure her that, if i've been around this long i like her and that being herself wont push me away.

but explain bolded

a.mann · March 2012

usmarin3 wrote: »

Nope, my daddy thought me to not trick on bitches and that if a chick likes you money and what you can do for her won't be in the equation. Then again my folks are from an era where men and women build together and women weren't concerned with a mans financial portfolio.

sounds like you looking for a wife and never had one night stand or fuck buddy

usmarin3 · March 2012

NYCeeCee wrote: »

usmarin3 wrote: »

a.mann wrote: »

drinks or dinner

never movies on a 1st date

on another note, what up with dudes whining about coming out they pockets a lil?

ain't yo daddy taught you gotta pay to play?

unless you looking for a wife or life partner, don't be disheatened when the average chick don't pay her "fair share" on a night out when all you want from her is ass and pussy

Nope, my daddy thought me to not trick on bitches and that if a chick likes you money and what you can do for her won't be in the equation. Then again my folks are from an era where men and women build together and women weren't concerned with a mans financial portfolio.

@usmarin , do you honestly see that as "tricking" ? You've never payed for a platonic male friend's meal?

It's tricking when it's not a 50/50 thing and lets be real most the time it's not 50/50 when it comes to paying for stuff. I'm sorry that wooing nonsense went down the train once women got on the independent shit, you lost the right to that years ago. Don't talk about what you got and can do for yourself except when it comes to chipping in.

Women are the cheapest creatures on Earth, they love spending money as long as it's not theirs on a guy.

Yes i've picked up plenty of bar tabs for my boys before, but they've done the same more me. We are not trying to make a come up off of each other like how dating can be.

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