question for the fellas about cheating

Du_Du · April 2012

blakfyahking wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Du, let me ask you something........

if you had a bunch of money, and all your true friends are still broke

would you cut them off cause they ain't "vibing" on the same tip as you anymore?

i'd give them some money initially, but if they just blow that shit and ain't trying to build with it, i can't see myself keep giving them money just to blow....

especially if i'm trying to build something with my money...

but would you completely cut them off tho is what I'm asking

could ya'll still be friends even tho they stay fucking their own bread up

yea we could still be cool, but we'd obviously be on different shit..and i never once said anything about "cutting people off"

i've maintained that i haven't cut anyone off, i just realized that we do different shit, and don't hang out as much, and any time i do hang out i feel awkward or like the odd man out....

Ms.Scorp · April 2012

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Du, let me ask you something........

if you had a bunch of money, and all your true friends are still broke

would you cut them off cause they ain't "vibing" on the same tip as you anymore?

i'd give them some money initially, but if they just blow that shit and ain't trying to build with it, i can't see myself keep giving them money just to blow....

especially if i'm trying to build something with my money...

but would you completely cut them off tho is what I'm asking

could ya'll still be friends even tho they stay fucking their own bread up

yea we could still be cool, but we'd obviously be on different shit..and i never once said anything about "cutting people off"

i've maintained that i haven't cut anyone off, i just realized that we do different shit, and don't hang out as much, and any time i do hang out i feel awkward or like the odd man out....

Well that makes sense, and as a friend he should understand. I don't think throwing it back at him is right though.

Du_Du · April 2012

Ms.Scorp wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Du, let me ask you something........

if you had a bunch of money, and all your true friends are still broke

would you cut them off cause they ain't "vibing" on the same tip as you anymore?

i'd give them some money initially, but if they just blow that shit and ain't trying to build with it, i can't see myself keep giving them money just to blow....

especially if i'm trying to build something with my money...

but would you completely cut them off tho is what I'm asking

could ya'll still be friends even tho they stay fucking their own bread up

yea we could still be cool, but we'd obviously be on different shit..and i never once said anything about "cutting people off"

i've maintained that i haven't cut anyone off, i just realized that we do different shit, and don't hang out as much, and any time i do hang out i feel awkward or like the odd man out....

Well that makes sense, and as a friend he should understand. I don't think throwing it back at him is right though.

yea i try not to be like that....but sometimes i can say some fucked up shit to get a point across

Ms.Scorp · April 2012

Haul Judos wrote: »

Ms.Scorp wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Du, let me ask you something........

if you had a bunch of money, and all your true friends are still broke

would you cut them off cause they ain't "vibing" on the same tip as you anymore?

i'd give them some money initially, but if they just blow that shit and ain't trying to build with it, i can't see myself keep giving them money just to blow....

especially if i'm trying to build something with my money...

but would you completely cut them off tho is what I'm asking

could ya'll still be friends even tho they stay fucking their own bread up

yea we could still be cool, but we'd obviously be on different shit..and i never once said anything about "cutting people off"

i've maintained that i haven't cut anyone off, i just realized that we do different shit, and don't hang out as much, and any time i do hang out i feel awkward or like the odd man out....

Well that makes sense, and as a friend he should understand. I don't think throwing it back at him is right though.

yea i try not to be like that....but sometimes i can say some fucked up shit to get a point across

He has to make that change on his own though.
He knows your stance on it already, so to keep adressing it will just make him feel like your judging him, and no one wants to feel that way around their friends.

Everything else, I agree with though. I don't spend a lot of time with friends who's lifestyles I don't condone either. I just don't cut them off completely.

Du_Du · April 2012

Ms.Scorp wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

Ms.Scorp wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Du, let me ask you something........

if you had a bunch of money, and all your true friends are still broke

would you cut them off cause they ain't "vibing" on the same tip as you anymore?

i'd give them some money initially, but if they just blow that shit and ain't trying to build with it, i can't see myself keep giving them money just to blow....

especially if i'm trying to build something with my money...

but would you completely cut them off tho is what I'm asking

could ya'll still be friends even tho they stay fucking their own bread up

yea we could still be cool, but we'd obviously be on different shit..and i never once said anything about "cutting people off"

i've maintained that i haven't cut anyone off, i just realized that we do different shit, and don't hang out as much, and any time i do hang out i feel awkward or like the odd man out....

Well that makes sense, and as a friend he should understand. I don't think throwing it back at him is right though.

yea i try not to be like that....but sometimes i can say some fucked up shit to get a point across

He has to make that change on his own though.
He knows your stance on it already, so to keep adressing it will just make him feel like your judging him, and no one wants to feel that way around their friends.

Everything else, I agree with though. I don't spend a lot of time with friends who's lifestyles I don't condone either. I just don't cut them off completely.

i don't do that though.. i never take persona vendettas on people for any reason at all, i just don't hold my tongue when i have to speak my mind on something.....i don't even remind them when the shit comes back up, i just say
"well you already know how i am about that shit"

and leave it at that.. no need to beat any dead horses....

a.mann · April 2012

blakfyahking wrote: »

SMH

Du you my e-nigga..........but you on some real feminine shit right now

it's like ya wife put ya balls in her purse my yute

your friendship ain't got shit to do with what ya boy do in his own household

cause the truth is you never really know the real deal

as long as ya boy ain't trying to get you to compromise your own household, and doesn't get you involved in his own shit

how you gon question that man's integrity

mofos who act like their morals are so high usually tend to be the nigga with the most flaws and who can't keep it real themselves (no shots)

good post

we all fall short, and a lot aren't in a place to dictate how others choose to conduct themselves in their personal relationship with their s/o

a.mann · April 2012

yeah I'm sensing "holier than thou" up in here

BK Product · April 2012

I see where you coming from..My boys is on the party and wild out shit (they all single) Im living with my girl and just found out like 2weeks ago ima have a son!! My whole priorites and feelings have changed almost instantly... I havent even really had time to even see how they feel face to face. But i couldnt see myself going to the strip club or wilding out at some after party anymore, while my girl at home pregnant, throwing up and shit like that. Me and my boys can still kick it but its got to be on a more tame level.. ( sports bar for some drinks, BBQs PS3 etc) if they cant respect that than i would have to act accordingly to whats best for my fam.

Du_Du · April 2012

a.mann wrote: »

yeah I'm sensing "holier than thou" up in here

how i'm living with moms thinking i'm better than anybody???

lol...iight yo...

a.mann · April 2012

you just an arrogant ass nigga

lol

blakfyahking · April 2012

Ms.Scorp wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Du, let me ask you something........

if you had a bunch of money, and all your true friends are still broke

would you cut them off cause they ain't "vibing" on the same tip as you anymore?

i'd give them some money initially, but if they just blow that shit and ain't trying to build with it, i can't see myself keep giving them money just to blow....

especially if i'm trying to build something with my money...

but would you completely cut them off tho is what I'm asking

could ya'll still be friends even tho they stay fucking their own bread up

yea we could still be cool, but we'd obviously be on different shit..and i never once said anything about "cutting people off"

i've maintained that i haven't cut anyone off, i just realized that we do different shit, and don't hang out as much, and any time i do hang out i feel awkward or like the odd man out....

Well that makes sense, and as a friend he should understand. I don't think throwing it back at him is right though.

^^^^that's all I'm sayin

ain't nothing wrong with having the perspective that you do cause you got ya own household to maintain

but don't be looking down on that nigga like he owe you something

cause if he flipped it and said you weren't doing something on his level, then what type of real friend would he be

as long as the friend ain't putting you in awkward situations asking you to cosign, then there shouldn't be any issues

if I thought like Du, I wouldn't know one single dude I could still be friends with LOL

all these niggaz participating in some type of infidelity

blakfyahking · April 2012

desertrain10 wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

SMH

Du you my e-nigga..........but you on some real feminine shit right now

it's like ya wife put ya balls in her purse my yute

your friendship ain't got shit to do with what ya boy do in his own household

cause the truth is you never really know the real deal

as long as ya boy ain't trying to get you to compromise your own household, and doesn't get you involved in his own shit

how you gon question that man's integrity

mofos who act like their morals are so high usually tend to be the nigga with the most flaws and who can't keep it real themselves (no shots)

hate when people say this shit.... lol

yea nobody in this thread is saying they are perfect but people can't have values or morals? people can't strive to be better?

sounds like t/s just feels like him and his nigga is just on different paths ..... and he wants only positive influences in his life....

shorty you reaching plain and simple and you know it

life is not a Disney movie, sorry to shatter ya dreams in here LOL

"positive" is subjective depending on who you ask

desertrain10 · April 2012

blakfyahking wrote: »

desertrain10 wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

SMH

Du you my e-nigga..........but you on some real feminine shit right now

it's like ya wife put ya balls in her purse my yute

your friendship ain't got shit to do with what ya boy do in his own household

cause the truth is you never really know the real deal

as long as ya boy ain't trying to get you to compromise your own household, and doesn't get you involved in his own shit

how you gon question that man's integrity

mofos who act like their morals are so high usually tend to be the nigga with the most flaws and who can't keep it real themselves (no shots)

hate when people say this shit.... lol

yea nobody in this thread is saying they are perfect but people can't have values or morals? people can't strive to be better?

sounds like t/s just feels like him and his nigga is just on different paths ..... and he wants only positive influences in his life....

shorty you reaching plain and simple and you know it

life is not a Disney movie, sorry to shatter ya dreams in here LOL

"positive" is subjective depending on who you ask

you really don't know where i've been or what i've seen, with that being said yea i know life is not a disney movie. lol

doesn't mean i can't hold myself and the people who i choose to roll with to a higher standard ....not saying i don't make mistakes. cus i do. a lot of them. but when i do i try not to make the same one again.... and if their is someone friend or whoever who i feel stands in the way of that progression or a "friend" who is constantly putting me into tempting situations that could possibly knock me from my path, they will quickly be demoted to "associate" or maybe to even just someone i used to kick it with

if you giving off what i consider to be negative energy, i can't fuck with you like that. negative energy attracts negative energy. life is to short for that. i wanna surround myself with people who motivate or inspire me to be a better friend, wife, mother, daughter, career person, hustla etc...

but hey that's just me *shrugs* lol

-Vincenzo- · April 2012

dont get me involved in any of this shit and dont do it around me, simple.

kzzl · April 2012

I doubt I'd have friends if I were to stop hanging around folks that cheat. I don't know any saints.The capacity for deception towards their s/o is definitely a sign you should look out for. No telling what it would take for them to deceive you as well.

But what they eat don't make you shit. And you should make sure to keep it that way. Knowing just how far/close to keep those around.

Ms.Scorp · April 2012

blakfyahking wrote: »

Ms.Scorp wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Haul Judos wrote: »

blakfyahking wrote: »

Du, let me ask you something........

if you had a bunch of money, and all your true friends are still broke

would you cut them off cause they ain't "vibing" on the same tip as you anymore?

i'd give them some money initially, but if they just blow that shit and ain't trying to build with it, i can't see myself keep giving them money just to blow....

especially if i'm trying to build something with my money...

but would you completely cut them off tho is what I'm asking

could ya'll still be friends even tho they stay fucking their own bread up

yea we could still be cool, but we'd obviously be on different shit..and i never once said anything about "cutting people off"

i've maintained that i haven't cut anyone off, i just realized that we do different shit, and don't hang out as much, and any time i do hang out i feel awkward or like the odd man out....

Well that makes sense, and as a friend he should understand. I don't think throwing it back at him is right though.

^^^^that's all I'm sayin

ain't nothing wrong with having the perspective that you do cause you got ya own household to maintain

but don't be looking down on that nigga like he owe you something

cause if he flipped it and said you weren't doing something on his level, then what type of real friend would he be

as long as the friend ain't putting you in awkward situations asking you to cosign, then there shouldn't be any issues

if I thought like Du, I wouldn't know one single dude I could still be friends with LOL

all these niggaz participating in some type of infidelity

Yeah, it's always going to be something. He could be a great husband but an alcoholic or a gambler, money issues ....etc.

No one is going to be without some type of character flaw. As a friend youre supposed to ride for that person in spight of their flaws. Especially if they don't judge you for yours.

tru_m.a.c · April 2012

*skims through thread*

looks like Du just trolled you niggas into exposing your hypocrisy towards women again

Ladies of the IC - 1
Niggas - negative 100

leftcoastkev · April 2012

Haul Judos wrote: »

the thing is kimi....i ain't gotta cut him off.....

the shit just wedged on it's own.....

if i try to hang out, or see what's going on....it feels like a forced effort.....

everynow and then we talk for a little....but it's always one of those "catching up with somebody...."type of conversations....like...seriously....how you "catching up" with someone who supposed to be fam??

Good god dude just let that shit go and accept people for who they are or move on. Just because you are where you are right now in this stage of your life don't mean all of your friends gotta live up to your ideals, new found morals, and passion for marriage or whatever. If you ain't gonna cut folks off, then accept it. If you ain't gonna accept it, cut 'em off. That's why dudes in here saying you sound real bi**made, make a decision and ride it out. That's what men do without all the extended expressed contemplation (weeny-ism). Everything ain't gotta be as hard as you make it out to be nor a cause for some deep ass thought. Take care of home. That's your allegiance. How you handle it as a man is how you handle it whether you faithful to your woman or not. No matter what they do, you responsible for you, not them, and they ain't responsible for you either.

Just do what other people do, once your kid is of age get them involved in activities and make friends with your kids friend's parents and co-workers who have kids. Most young adults who have kids do that, because it's a common bond.

Knives Amilli · April 2012

I can cosign this because you don't want those storm clouds following you home......

SnowBunnySmanger · April 2012

Ideally I think that we as people should do more to ensure we are communicating our displeasure with other people's behavior. If people who cheated were ostracized/made outcasts then maybe they wouldn't do it so much.

By remaining friends with these people, it's almost as though you are saying you condone that kind of behavior. Much as someone who gets married is condoning marriage - those who associate or affiliate with a certain kind of people are communicating their acceptance of it.

If we wish for certain behaviors to be made unacceptable then we should not condone those who act that way.

at the same time though, you can't just drop every friend you have because they have flaws. everyone has flaws. If you did that you would probably have no friends.

desertrain10 · April 2012

tru_m.a.c wrote: »

*skims through thread*

looks like Du just trolled you niggas into exposing your hypocrisy towards women again

Ladies of the IC - 1
Niggas - negative 100

funny... when they date a girl and she's friend with a known "hoe" their tune changes....

and most of you niggas claiming "who cares what happens in your friend's bedroom, its none of your business" blah, blah, blah would not befriend a gay man or even stay tight with ur boy if he comes out the closet... lol.

Makaveli Joker · April 2012

Smh @ this Drake thread

blackrain · April 2012

Alot of ya'll got some weird ass definition of being a friend

UPTOWN CONNEXX · April 2012

Elzo69Reloaded wrote: »

My boy is my boy..how he treats his women is none of my concern.....

i feel the energy behind this, but in reality its a contradiction

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