Am I the only one who finds it unfair to expect Kids to fend for themselves after 18?

leftcoastkev · May 2012

Most parents will "put up with you" if you are actually trying to better yourself and moving forward (in school and working) towards goals, but if you come off like they owe you just for being alive, then good luck.

VIBE · May 2012

#lilflexlikezeno wrote: »

VIBE wrote: »

My wife and I have awesome parents, they both back us 100% whenever we need, fuck, both our families do.

I'll never boot my kids for any reason (besides criminal bullshit).

That whole 18 shit is wack, most kids ain't mature until 25+ and even then they still might not be mature enough. Parents are just usually lazy and have had enough, so they use the bullshit excuse of "you're 18, peace out".

smh @ not knowing how the world works til your 25 years old

Mind doesn't stop developing until 25. Look at some fellow ICers on here, in their 30s and 40s and still ain't got shit right.

Nate D.O. · May 2012

Nah I'm not puttin my kids out , shit cuz when they turn 18 I'M MOVING.

jsnowpro · May 2012

if the child has the tools and credentials for making it out in the world then there's no problem with them leaving the crib at 18. we're a relatively prosperous society and thats why we can even do shit like that. for most other cultures in the world moving out at so young an age is unheard of.

if my kids have a plan, are hitting the books or working then they can stay until they're mid 20s or even longer if its necessary. the only time i would kick them out would be if they are basically asking for it (by being disrespectful or unappreciative / entitled) ..

Bklyn's_OX_KING · May 2012

I think it is an American way of thinking to kick your kids when they turn 18. Most West Indian families let their children move out when ever they're ready. I moved out a long time ago but i still visit my parents 2-3 times a month. When i have some kids of my own, I'm going to make sure they have a solid foundation before they leave.

NYC..... Is no joke bro .... Got to be tough to make out here........ There is no sympathy in the Rotten Apple... Survival of the fittest

loch121 · May 2012

Most kids can't wait to grow up

Louis Cipher · May 2012

loch121 wrote: »

Most kids can't wait to grow up

that shows you how dumb they are right there. free meals...no responsibility. home. and all i have to do is go to school? chores? sheeeeiiiiitttttt............

kai_valya · May 2012

uolag wrote: »

I think it is an American way of thinking to kick your kids when they turn 18. Most West Indian families let their children move out when ever they're ready. I moved out a long time ago but i still visit my parents 2-3 times a month. When i have some kids of my own, I'm going to make sure they have a solid foundation before they leave.

NYC..... Is no joke bro .... Got to be tough to make out here........ There is no sympathy in the Rotten Apple... Survival of the fittest

it's not just the west indies, i find pretty much every immigrant group has that mentality. i think a lot has to do with our backgrounds as immigrants, we usually come from impoverished areas, and we've realized it's easier to get somewhere when everyone's helping each other. i know to this day if i needed to go move back home, my parents would let me stay as long as i needed, rent-free, no questions asked. we only really leave home once you get married or graduate from college

jsnowpro · May 2012

i know a dude who remained on good terms with his parents even after he got his degree. he's in the medical field and has a good salary. this whole time he's been saving it ALL up and now he's telling me he's getting ready to buy a condo str8 cash.

caddo man · May 2012

Louis Cipher wrote: »

i think it all depends on the kid. i guarantee you all those kids that get kicked out at 18 were some disrespectful little bastards...i bet if they acted better/treated their parents better there would have been no problem...you cant act like an ass for years when you parents have to help you...then when you legally grown be shocked when they cut you off...

i speak from experience...as a parent

This! Even though I knew I had to dip after 18, I went to BPCCollege for a semester but the cost was killing me. Cant pay tuition from burger flipping money. Joined the military and let them pay for it.

jsnowpro wrote: »

i know a dude who remained on good terms with his parents even after he got his degree. he's in the medical field and has a good salary. this whole time he's been saving it ALL up and now he's telling me he's getting ready to buy a condo str8 cash.

I know someone that supposed to do the same thing. Still with his parents cause he like, "Aint no reason to leave now. they getting old and will have to move back in 10 years to take care of them."

My wife stayed with her mom up until the day we got married. I told her my kids aint doing that shit. Save for a house in your own place. Call it practice! I want to cook breakfast naked, nigga!

damobb2deep · May 2012

i been taking care of my self since 8.... yea nigga... 18 turn 2 21... and 21 turn 2 25.... 25 turn 2 45.... at 18 most people wit ambition WANT to get out....

caddo man · May 2012

damobb2deep wrote: »

i been taking care of my self since 8.... yea nigga... 18 turn 2 21... and 21 turn 2 25.... 25 turn 2 45.... at 18 most people wit ambition WANT to get out....

Please explain.

jsnowpro · May 2012

kai_valya wrote: »

we usually come from impoverished areas, and we've realized it's easier to get somewhere when everyone's helping each other.

what i was trying to say but not in so many words. americans as a whole are fairly well off and this is why moving out at 18 is a cultural norm here. in most other areas of the world, u cant just be all fuck my fam and bounce at that age and expect to amount to anything. matter of fact in this day and age, unless u really on top of your game its the same thing here. staying at home will always remain the financially viable strategy, the only problem is there's stigma associated with it once u reach a certain age, and also there's the small minority who are making the rest of us look bad by using their stay at home as a crutch for complacency.

Louis Cipher · May 2012

jsnowpro wrote: »

kai_valya wrote: »

we usually come from impoverished areas, and we've realized it's easier to get somewhere when everyone's helping each other.

what i was trying to say but not in so many words. americans as a whole are fairly well off and this is why moving out at 18 is a cultural norm here. in most other areas of the world, u cant just be all fuck my fam and bounce and expect to amount to anything.

but this in essence is what a lot of these kids do...they shit on their parents for years...and are shocked when the locks get changed...

jsnowpro · May 2012

i think threadstarter is talking about serious kids who could truly benefit from an extended stay at home but are forced out (either by their own choice or their parents') because of stigma.

kzzl · May 2012

When you throw your child into the wild, don't be surprised if they come back a savage. Or if they don't come back at all.

In Your Moms Room · May 2012

damobb2deep wrote: »

i been taking care of my self since 8.... yea nigga... 18 turn 2 21... and 21 turn 2 25.... 25 turn 2 45.... at 18 most people wit ambition WANT to get out....

Real talk. When you 18, you should want to get the fuck out.

laydee · May 2012

Damm right any parent who gives up responsibility after 18 (only if your child is not in education) should be ashamed of themselves,

I am so grateful for my daddy accepting me as I am till this day!!

My child could be 60 and I will still pay its way until I see no future for him/her!

saccityprince · May 2012

In Your Moms Room wrote: »

Yes you are. You are 18. If you can't get your own money, just Joe Sun yourself.

whats the story behind this? not trying to derail the topic.

fiat_money · May 2012

Joe Sun hasn't killed himself, but he bitches about it all the time.

Black_Samson · May 2012

Fucking pussys.
You are a financial burden on your parents, all you do is consume.

you are selfish and entitled.

Let go of your oedipus complex, your momma wanna get her freak on too... and not with you....

saccityprince · May 2012

whats the story behind this? not trying to derail the topic.

fiat_money wrote: »

Joe Sun hasn't killed himself, but he bitches about it all the time.

People make it seem like he committed suicide.

Louis Cipher · May 2012

Thulsa Doom wrote: »

Fucking pussys.
You are a financial burden on your parents, all you do is consume.

you are selfish and entitled.

Let go of your oedipus complex, your momma wanna get her freak on too... and not with you....

except for the momma getting her freak on part (nasty!) i agree...

this is the problem with this generation...dont wanna do for themselves...wanna be taken care of...smh

The Prime Minister · May 2012

Been on my own since 18. As a consequence, I really don't fuck with my family at all.

I'm good now, but shit changes after you've been hungry.

7figz · May 2012

How is your child supposed to be independent if you don't give them that push ?

That's not to say you're going to treat them like a complete stranger after they turn 18 but you should definitely set a limit. What's wrong with that ?

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