How quick are you to end a friendship..?

Knives Amilli · June 2012

Cuz I find that people are quick to disappoint me and Ill cut niggas off in a heartbeat.

For example, my roommate is currently chilling with a friend of his that not too long ago, stayed with us for a month. Mind you, this nigga was only supposed to stay for two weeks, never informed us of how long this extended stay was going to last, never offered any money toward bills or groceries, sat around all day, and if what my roommate told me was correct, NEVER said thank you or expressed an outpouring of gratitude for us letting him stay.

Now for me, That would be the end of me and him being cool. Period. I cannot stand moochers and ungrateful people who are trying to get over on you and thats what it seemed like he was trying to do. Yet here my roomie is laughing with him and everything, assumingly holding no ill will toward the guy. (I personally think my roomie can be far too friendly with people and IMO doesnt know how to keep himself entertained on weekends plus he's Puerto Rican and at his core believes in that "brotherhood" with other Latinos even though he'd never admit it)

So I ask myself, do I hold people to too high of a standard? The question is even more relevant because i'm currently a bit frustrated with (and actively ignoring/avoiding) one of my friends for running his mouth to a chick about something I told him in confidence. Trust and the ability to confide in your friends is a big part of my world, you understand.

Am I too harsh? how valuable are friendships really? Are they worth salvaging when a friend violates a core tenet of your personal code of friendship?

Pico Roscoe · June 2012

idgaf about friends

ill drop a "friend" quick

fiat_money · June 2012

The moment a tool becomes useless to me, I have no further need for it.

Omega_Conflict · June 2012

Yes your standards are too high for ppl. We all ain't worth a damn

Amotekun · June 2012

fiat_money wrote: »

The moment a tool becomes useless to me, I have no further need for it.

Dark Beast swag.

I find it hard pressed to maintain close friendships period. I have people that I havent talked to for years or have seen for even longer and am fine with that.

I think the t/s situation I wouldn't drop them but they'd be on my aint shit list, one of those dudes I wouldn't have ill will towards but I wouldn't be tryin to kick it like that. Couldn't call me up for anymore favors without me roastin them.

Sage Wonder · June 2012

Knives Amilli wrote:

plus he's Puerto Rican and at his core believes in that "brotherhood" with other Latinos even though he'd never admit it)

I'm going to have to stop you right here. I am Puerto Rican and couldn't care less about the next spic. This is fuckery you speak of.

Will Munny · June 2012

I'm probably a little slow to drop a friend, but once I do its done and there's no going back.

Max. · June 2012

I dont even kick it with alot of people im not tryna hear people cry about shit..n some my friends be actn like bitches sometimes

Shizlansky · June 2012

Got one real friend.

Once you betray me its a wrap.

Omega_Conflict · June 2012

@mrdro wife won't let him have friends

atribecalledgabi · June 2012

you should only trust people to be who they are. people fuck up by trusting their friends with shit they have no business trusting them with anyway. all in the name of "friendship." if you have a friend that's horrible with money, you shouldn't be mad if they don't pay you back. if you have a friend who sleeps in past noon everyday, don't be mad when they don't wake up to take you to the airport.

you can have people in your life without having to necessarily accept all their flaws. every human, friend or foe, is capable of doing fucked up shit. unless somebody is blatantly disrespecting you i don't see why you can't remain friends.

Omega_Conflict · June 2012

I just said that....i already said that

Law Trafalgar · June 2012

damnkp · June 2012

aint no such thing as friends..only associates

Beware · June 2012

i hold people to craaazyyy high standards. its probably my worst trait.

Amotekun · June 2012

Knives Amilli · June 2012

Sage Wonder wrote: »

Knives Amilli wrote:

plus he's Puerto Rican and at his core believes in that "brotherhood" with other Latinos even though he'd never admit it)

I'm going to have to stop you right here. I am Puerto Rican and couldn't care less about the next spic. This is fuckery you speak of.

B....you know damn well Latinos (just like Asians, Arabs, and pretty much any other foreigner) seek each other out in any respective communities. Niggas have that whole "culture" they want to maintain and shit. Especially in my roommates case; he's a military kid like me and has never really grown up around Latinos like that AND we live in an area without a lot of non-Messican latinos so they all know each other and stick together here.

atribecalledgabi wrote: »

you should only trust people to be who they are. people fuck up by trusting their friends with shit they have no business trusting them with anyway. all in the name of "friendship." if you have a friend that's horrible with money, you shouldn't be mad if they don't pay you back. if you have a friend who sleeps in past noon everyday, don't be mad when they don't wake up to take you to the airport.

you can have people in your life without having to necessarily accept all their flaws. every human, friend or foe, is capable of doing fucked up shit. unless somebody is blatantly disrespecting you i don't see why you can't remain friends.

True enough. I guess in my mind, its getting over those expectations because i'm a giving and loyal person thats always striving for self improvement.

So I probably mistakenly hold people to those same standards, and get surprised when the "aint shitness" of humanity shines through.

But that feels like "settling" to me though.

Ioniz3dSPIRITZ · June 2012

i had let a lot of people go because they either weren't true friends or headed in a direction in which I wanted no part of. I have one true friend I keep in contact with every now and then but that it's. It's just me and my dog for now.

Lil Loca · June 2012

Takes a long time for me to end a friendship. I have to feel like we have nothing in common anymore, the person doesn't seem interested in keeping in touch, or they fucked me over.

unRealLady1 · June 2012

I'm no rookie when it come down to certain type of personality traits. I learned at a very young age which ppl to trust. I think some people think when they first come in contact with you, thats when you were born. some people treat people like they were born yesterday.

therefore they underestimate who they are dealing with. Certain people have a jealousy trait, it do not matter what material things they possess, these people are jealou of others. I don't like jealous people. Thats the only trait I dislike in some people

They have a intention of befriending people they want to pull down. I can smell them coming. I don't trust these types. They are not friends. Friends do not come into your life to spread lies and start confusion. When I see u are confusion starter and liar, I dont let you in my life

NoCompetition · June 2012

Good points Real Lady1.

kai_valya · June 2012

that was actually quite coherant real_lady, great advice

anyway, i tend to be a very forgiving person, i always give people the benefit of the doubt and am willing to overlook a lot of things. so it'd probably take a lot for me to completely cut a friend off

Cain1 · June 2012

It would hard to end a friendship with my inner circle cause we been friends since childhood but just niggas I say I'm cool with no fucks given if we fallout.

313 wayz · June 2012

damnkp wrote: »

aint no such thing as friends..only associates

youtube.com/watch?v=Hh2bIrbroKA

texas409 · June 2012

im going through this now

found out my homeboy was gossiping about me with the females at work

dude was just a sneaky jealous side talking type dude that i would look past cause he never pulled any major hoe moves but when my girl first met him she warned me he couldnt be trusted

so i told him he had bitch tendencies and now i look at that nigga sideways all day while im at work

dont try to cross me ever or its a wrap

genocidecutter · June 2012

Pretty fast

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