Hi y'all, I'm relatively new to the community but I've been peeping on you for years.

Here's my situation.... I was going out wit a guy on and off for about a year. From the beginning, we both understood that our personalities were totally different, I'm more introverted and a homebody. He's an extravert who loves to go out.

Long story short...we did not work out, I tried but our personalities did not mesh. Recently, I  bumped into his bf at a huge BBQ. I didn't think he would remember me - I met him at the same party that I met my ex (they were standing together)the year before. Not only did he remember me, he remember what I was wearing, my smile....EVERYTHING! He was super flirty....offering to drive me home (wit his cousin, sister, another friend) but he held my hand all the way to the car. 

He's been calling, texting....not too frequently but enough for me to start thinking that he likes me.

So.... I met wit my EX told him the situation and asked what he thought. He responded that:
1) Our relationship was never that serious. He has/had feelings (friendship) but I'm not an ex-fiance or wife.
2)Our relationship won't work, he thinks I'm too nerdy and doesn't understand why I avoid places wit big crowds and hate all games (video, board games, pool, bowling).
3) NOTHING will ever, ruin his friendship wit his bf, especially not a female. They just don't focus on dat at all.
4) Yes, we had sex but it took alot of time, planning...and I generally hate intercourse and avoid it at all costs (no amt of head can stop him from fuccin').

Basically, he said....go ahead, it could happen....

So should I? Its not like I have to...but I would like to. I just want to see if he and I could be a couple (no sex involved).

Its all good you got your ex's blessing just take it slow with homeboy and you should be cool. Welcome to the Community

Some dude operate on another level they play the " every man for himself" game and usually when they say the don't care it means they don't care. But by the text responses from your ex he seems a little salty. Ask dude point blank period " why all of the sudden communication?". Not so much in a harsh way but just ask him what's up.  I would be weary though if your Ex and his BF have the same attributes?  But definitely take it slow and ask him what's up?

Oct 14, 2008 - 06:44PM, Mz.Nanoparticle wrote:

Before I answer I have one question. Did you ever have sex with your ex?

Yea....we talked bout dat. It doesn't look good. I've decided that I'm going to put him to an even higher standard than my already high standard. LOL.

I know this is a seriously slippery slope....

Oct 14, 2008 - 07:12PM, Umm_Yea wrote:

Some dude operate on another level they play the " every man for himself" game and usually when they say the don't care it means they don't care. But by the text responses from your ex he seems a little salty. Ask dude point blank period " why all of the sudden communication?". Not so much in a harsh way but just ask him what's up.  I would be weary though if your Ex and his BF have the same attributes?  But definitely take it slow and ask him what's up?

"every man for himself" game = Exactly