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The new and improved Aquafina floe (smash or pass?)
konceptjones wrote: »
so true, my husband is a real asshole with it, he stays trolling the fat girls in skimpy clothing, this nigga will see a big girl with her stomach out or something and yell out "put them rolls away, this ain't a damn bakery" lol
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Taking the husband's last name
Louisiana Crude wrote: »I never seen the big deal with marriage, so maybe that's why I don't care about the last name change. It's symbolic shit is wack to me. I don't need for her to carry my last name, as it doesn't absolutely nothing to carry anything on. Only my children matter to me for my last name to be carried.
You are kinda contradicting yourself here because what if your sons' future wives don't want to carry their last names your last name will cease at that point when your kids eventually grow to old adults and die.
I understand your point but there is a flaw in your logic imo.
I doubt my 4 boys will end up with women who don't want to take the last name, but if she doesn't take it, hopefully she will be cool with the last name being for the children. Most women allow the mans last name for their child without marriage.
lol @ us being the two longest married folks in the thread and i nor your wife changed our last names, what an indicator of how uncommitted we are
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Taking the husband's last name
Louisiana Crude wrote: »Louisiana Crude wrote: »Why would a chick require an engagement ring to honor the beginning of a life long promise?
I swear I started to use this as example.
I bet a lot of females wouldnt get engaged to men if he offered them no ring.
Engagement ring/wedding band is an example of a man's honor and lifelong commitment to a woman.
*waits for someone to come say but thats different*
well you don't have to wait long, cuz once again, the whole wedding/engagement ring thing is also a western created custom
there is dowry involved, but it doesn't have to be a diamond ring. although mine is
So would you have still married your husband without a ring honestly seeing as though engagement rings and such are western customs???
if he gave me some other dowry of course.
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The new and improved Aquafina floe (smash or pass?)
why do big girls wear shit they have no business wearing? i see an epidemic of that shit every summer.
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Taking the husband's last name
Louisiana Crude wrote: »Marriage is a sign of unity and two people coming together as ONE.
I want my wife and the eventual child or children I will have with her to have "one" last name.
Unless a woman is famous and already made a name for herself I dont see any reason she wouldnt want to carry her husbands last name.
I dont think I could marry a woman who didnt want to carry my last name to me thats a sign of support and honor of your husband he's the king and you should be his queen and thats a symbol of unity.
you know what's better than a "symbol" of unity? actual unity. my name is my identity, i'm never changing it for anyone, i honestly can not believe so many women do here.
so i don't honour or support my husband because i don't wanna put his name where my father's name is? your last name is about your paternal history,how and since when did a husband become my father, i can't even imagine if i told my dad i changed my name, i might as well stab the old man in the heart. seriously the ideas of changing names is so offensive to me (it makes me irrationally angry lol), and very disrespectful to my father imo
my husband and i were individuals with distinct histories and identities when we met, why would i want either of us to change that? marriage is about that commitment that you make, not the name you change. pretty sure i can still be his queen and honour him with my name staying how it's been since birth
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i thought thats what sons were for? and your husband doesnt become your father...he cares for you like your father did is how its supposed to work
i don't get what you mean by that's what sons are for. and i don't need my husband to care for me like my father, i still have a father for that, i need him to care for me like a husband.
it really doesn't make sense in my culture just off of how names are constructed, your names consist only of names of your paternal ancestors, that's it, so putting a husbands name in there makes no sense, because he's not my paternal ancestor
muslim women don't change their names either, so that's two reasons for me
