It's the people who go through trials and tribulations that have the most understanding, or hopefully they should if they spend any time in reflection rather than resentment. It's usually the people who've gone through some shit or who've have rough lives that seem to have more compassion/understanding for others pain and suffering. They can relate and 'feel their pain' and comfort them. For people who've never had to experience that, they lack so much imo, maybe even lack humanness or maybe soul, idk quite how to word that. But the lack is apparent and can be felt by others.
You know so for your friend, while her situation is difficult and unpleasant maybe, she in the long run is gaining things that are invaluable, you can't pick up a book and gain that insight or wisdom, you have to live it to understand it. And those are the things imo that put people farther ahead on the path than someone who has coasted through life. And who knows what her path is, only god.
My friend is actually very compassionate, she took care of her sister's daughter for a long time when her sister had some financial problems and in fact still takes care of her time to time when her sister can't find a babysitter. She's definitely a soulful person, into singing, poetry and everything. Maybe she is gaining something from all the struggles she's going through, wisdom in many ways I'm sure.
I do agree some struggle in life is good because it can make you a stronger person, but some things I think are just too much for one single person to deal with, liker her situation. Miracles do happen though, on a luck level or spiritual level, hopefully she and others get that. Probably won't come from prayer, but just some good habits, science and hopefully luck. And you think "god" can see a person's path ahead of time?
There is something up, because when I look back at my life or even others lives, hindsight is 20/20. Like everything happened as it should have or at the very least you see how one thing connects to the other. If the past is connected and brought me where I am today, I surmise my future is connected also. It's a perplexing notion for me, I do ponder it often how that could possibly be.
Lol @ "god", remember I speak as vague about god as vague as "god" is. For me god is interchangeable with universe(and beyond), a broad name for a broad entity. Or as something higher or most high above myself.