I said it once and I wills ay it again. Hood living is not good living.

I think people on the IC think of white people (white girls/men) as some mystical beings. They are not. I live in NJ. NJ like many other states is segregated. Very segregated. There are blk towns, white towns, Hispanic towns, then there are towns that are "mixtures." But the blacks live on one side and the whites, Indians and Asians have their own sides (example Jersey City). I grew up in a mostly Jewish very upper middle class community in North Jersey. I wouldn't change it for the world. I would want my children to have my same upbringing. It would not bother me none if myself, my husband and children are the only blacks in community. I would be there for the schools anyway. The richer the towns, the better the schools so no fucks will be given as to how many blacks whites others are in the neighborhood. Those with children should only be worried about the school system, not who your neighbors are.

Better question:

What do you as a man have to offer a woman besides money?

Established can also mean different things to different people. To me it mean: finished education, own home, own car, healthy bank account, investments.....or at least striving to obtain those things legally.

Louis Cipher wrote: »

kai_valya wrote: »

i love how on here, when a chick picks a thug or some other no good dude, every guy on the ic is on some "you should've picked better" shit. but if the guys are picking gold-diggers/hoes, it's not pick better women, it's "all women are just after money" and "bitches ain't shit." quite hilarious i must say

look i'll be the 1st to say ive made some horrible decisions as far as my choices with women...
let's see:

ive had my windows bust out...
ive hid in closets from husbands...
a side chick took to me to the drs office....my wife bust into the examining room and caused a scene (calling me a muthafucka...and trying to kill me)....
been divorced....
had about 5 chicks blow up my spot on Face Book (one of my worst days ever)

and thats just the shit that stands out....

and all that shit was my fault...all caused by choices i made....

i had to grow up...

im remarried...shit is lovely now...when you think before you act...peaceful with out all that stress from dumb shit...

Best post in the thread. Co sign the bolded. I will tell you that you deserved everything you got because of the poor choices you made. You realized your errors and made the proper changes to yourself and your choices. I applaud you. It is the niggas that complain about the women that are WAYYYYYY out of their league or keep picking the ain't shit bitches and gold diggers that I turn a deaf ear too. When will they learn? They are blinded by a fat ass and pretty face therefore they deserve what they get (pockets getting ran thru, windows getting busted, death threats, embrassment). 99% of our problems in relationships are cause on our own accord. This advice goes both ways.

Wonder Girl wrote: »

I'm the only female in my family over 21 without a kid or three. Every time I see one of my cousins they got a brat on one arm and another in a stroller. That makes me see that lifestyle not for me. I don't wanna be tied down to no one and kids tie you down. I wanna travel, go to school, work all the crazy hours I want and not have to come home because my kid needs me.

Also, I can't stand people who have kids young and say they happy they had a kid at 18 or something Because they got it out the way.

I agree. Its funny because you know they are lying. My sis worked with this 37 year old. Grandma of 5!
After she got finished telling the story about why her oldest, 21 year old son is in prison and her other son just dropped out of high school, she ended it with why she is glad she has raising her children out the way. Mind you the rest of her children are in their late teens and all are already parents themselves. I laughed for 15 minutes. Here an obvious failure of a parent is bragging about raising failures and "getting it out the way." Bitch didn't even realize it.

Hood mentality I tell you. This the type of shit @noodles should be worried about. Not forcing people into making more failures.