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  • Re: Issa Rae HBO Show 'Insecure' Oct. 9

    FourEfil wrote: »
    Also Lawrence "corrected" the issues that plauged the relationship. He got a retail job only to get his dream job right after. Idk about the bedroom part, but lawrence cleaned up after episode 4 and beyond.


    according to issa he'd been trying to get his shit together for 4 years

    that takes a toll on a relationship

    she could have left, but that is easier said than done after investing so much time and energy into a person

    but lemme stop

    issa is a thot undeserving of forgiveness who didn't deserve Lawrence, right? lol
    deadeye_Goldie_
  • Re: Issa Rae HBO Show 'Insecure' Oct. 9

    _Goldie_ wrote: »
    Mister B. wrote: »
    Very Smart Brothas article


    Hmmm.....just watch the feelings fly.

    The writer can get the D and that's about it (this is me being nice and not exhibiting feels), but the comment section is pretty interesting. As usual it's divisive, the women are saying outlandish bullshit, niggas are responding with logic (from what I've seen). Typical day on Black Internet...

    Someone called them Ovarian Americans... :joy:

    I gotta use that shyt!!!

    Issa was wrong

    But can we all agree that Lawrence contributed to the breakdown of the relationship


    Meh...unknowingly.

    Remember Issa wasn't communicating the issue she was having wit the relationship to Lawrence. She went to everyone else but the person she's in the relationship wit. So in his eyes, everything was all good. And when he tried to get her to talk about what was going on, she went mute.

    Yea she didn't help the situation at all

    But nobody is gonna be cool with their mate bumming around the crib all day, going from job to job while he or she is out trying to keep the bills up to date

    And I picked up her body language around him first episode she wasn't happy

    I gotta rewatch, but I think he also forgot her bday

    Plus I remember Issa telling Molly he was slacking in the bedroom, they weren't going out a lot

    Again Issa was wrong for what she did....But they deserve each other


    B-day I give you...everything else is on her.

    The one of the main things I took from their situation, is that it starts with communication first & foremost.

    All that assuming the other person will eventually read your mind, hopefully figures out why you're unhappy does nothing.

    That's the burden black women bear tho. Cuz I was on the "issa ain't shit" wave before Daniel for not communicating effectively...but y'all gotta realize she was carrying the load of the relationship financially and emotionally.

    Lawrence was probly feeling emasculated he couldn't even contribute to bills and shit like that, let alone take his girl out for dinner regularly and do nice things for her... and a lil depressed cuz he couldn't get his app off the ground....so how do you, as the support system for this black man, broach the subject of "I need you to do more" without coming off as the nagging angry black woman stereotype on one end, but also knowing that by doing so, you're more than likely just gonna push him deeper into his funk by pointing out where he's fucking up? Cuz if you do that and push him away, that sacrifice you made to hold him down goes away with nothing to show for it. No thanks, no severance package, no card, no pat on the back...I see why she bit her tongue for so long even if to her detriment.

    At the start of the series they were both checked out emotionally. Carrying the relationship while watching your man bum it and sit in his feelings for however long takes a toll on you....and so does trying to do something that just won't work and you can't catch no breaks while you see your woman struggle and bust ass for both of you and you can't help.

    exactly

    no one is trying to give issa a pass or make out Lawrence to be a bad guy

    but I can empathize with her

    she was in a tough spot and she obviously loved him


    That's exactly what yall trying to do and the shit is hilariously sad. If she was feeling that worn down she could've simply broke up with homie. There's no such thing as a perfect relationship , we're always gonna be annoyed by shit our s/o does, there's no excuse to cheat.


    Let that nigga L had cheated first (yea I call him L now) and we (niggas) supported/empathized with the shit by saying " he was obviously so distraught and hurt by Issa for not supporting his dreams and talking down to him all the time, I could empathize with him , it hurt to watch :cry: that's the everyday struggle of the black male " yall wouldn't let that shit fly for a sec lmaooo

    swear yall niggas are incapable of having a nuanced conversation

    we've all come to the conclusion issa's actions were wrong, right?

    but from what we seen, can you honestly say Lawrence was without faults? no....case closed lol

    and I wasn't even mad at dude for getting with Tasha

    deadeye
  • Re: Issa Rae HBO Show 'Insecure' Oct. 9

    Mister B. wrote: »
    Very Smart Brothas article


    Hmmm.....just watch the feelings fly.

    The writer can get the D and that's about it (this is me being nice and not exhibiting feels), but the comment section is pretty interesting. As usual it's divisive, the women are saying outlandish bullshit, niggas are responding with logic (from what I've seen). Typical day on Black Internet...

    Someone called them Ovarian Americans... :joy:

    I gotta use that shyt!!!

    Issa was wrong

    But can we all agree that Lawrence contributed to the breakdown of the relationship


    Meh...unknowingly.

    Remember Issa wasn't communicating the issue she was having wit the relationship to Lawrence. She went to everyone else but the person she's in the relationship wit. So in his eyes, everything was all good. And when he tried to get her to talk about what was going on, she went mute.

    Yea she didn't help the situation at all

    But nobody is gonna be cool with their mate bumming around the crib all day, going from job to job while he or she is out trying to keep the bills up to date

    And I picked up her body language around him first episode she wasn't happy

    I gotta rewatch, but I think he also forgot her bday

    Plus I remember Issa telling Molly he was slacking in the bedroom, they weren't going out a lot

    Again Issa was wrong for what she did....But they deserve each other


    B-day I give you...everything else is on her.

    The one of the main things I took from their situation, is that it starts with communication first & foremost.

    All that assuming the other person will eventually read your mind, hopefully figures out why you're unhappy does nothing.

    That's the burden black women bear tho. Cuz I was on the "issa ain't shit" wave before Daniel for not communicating effectively...but y'all gotta realize she was carrying the load of the relationship financially and emotionally.

    Lawrence was probly feeling emasculated he couldn't even contribute to bills and shit like that, let alone take his girl out for dinner regularly and do nice things for her... and a lil depressed cuz he couldn't get his app off the ground....so how do you, as the support system for this black man, broach the subject of "I need you to do more" without coming off as the nagging angry black woman stereotype on one end, but also knowing that by doing so, you're more than likely just gonna push him deeper into his funk by pointing out where he's fucking up? Cuz if you do that and push him away, that sacrifice you made to hold him down goes away with nothing to show for it. No thanks, no severance package, no card, no pat on the back...I see why she bit her tongue for so long even if to her detriment.

    At the start of the series they were both checked out emotionally. Carrying the relationship while watching your man bum it and sit in his feelings for however long takes a toll on you....and so does trying to do something that just won't work and you can't catch no breaks while you see your woman struggle and bust ass for both of you and you can't help.

    exactly

    no one is trying to give issa a pass or make out Lawrence to be a bad guy

    but I can empathize with her

    she was in a tough spot and she obviously loved him

    atribecalledgabi_Goldie_deadeye
  • Re: WTF is going on with women showing their ass(literally) on social media?

    ALL girls with access to a camera take sexy pix of themselves.

    Girls like to feel sexy. It's natural.

    yea

    but the question is why then post them on social media?


    imho its the "cool" thing to do now, wanting to feel desired is a part of it

    not too different than when a dude post pictures of a stack or jewelry or new car

    men generally associate their value with how much money they have.....that is why men are more likely to compromise their values, ethics for their careers

    women generally associate their value with their looks and how many suitors they have

    plus ppl are social beings, we crave attention....so ppl will find ways or do what they think is best to ingratiate themselves with others

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  • Re: Aye smart people, explain to me why white women voted for trump?

    texas409 wrote: »
    deadeye wrote: »
    @desertrain10



    I thought white women were also victims of.............."white male patriarchy."




    So, why didn't your feminist "sisters-in arms" take a stand against their "oppressor?"




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    @desertrain10 answer this man


    where do you get this "sisters in arm" shit from? lol

    when forced to choose between race and gender lines, they will overwhelmingly pick race, every time

    same with poor whites as when forced to choose between race and class, they will overwhelmingly pick race, every time

    doesn't mean they don't suffer under the weight of male patriarchal authority same us all....just not to the extent of blk ppl....who have always been my main concern

    there is actually a lot of in fighting, many women are rightfully worried about what happens if trump's running mate pence and others in his circle who oppose roe v wade, IUDs, the plan b pills, etc get their way

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