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  • Re: Ayesha Curry Vs. Thots Pt. 2

    deadeye wrote: »
    Like Water wrote: »
    Question: Is there such a thing as a feminist that's attractive, heterosexual, physically fit and in a stable and happy relationship? Every time I see one, they on some mud duck, fat ass, single/gay, unhappy shit.

    Lol

    I know when I think of intelligent, strong, blk feminist I think of: assata shakur, angela davis, bell hooks, etc


    It's an insult to compare them to the crazies that dominate today's feminist movement.

    Shud up ol man

    They were once labeled as outsiders or in some cases crazy when they were pointing out the sexism in the civil rights movement and in the blk panther party


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  • Re: Ayesha Curry Vs. Thots Pt. 2

    jono wrote: »
    Ita a fair assessment. If someone tells you or acts like there is only one way to behave and act to be worthy of respect then you would be offended too.

    The problem is here is she isn't doing the judging. She is being pointed out as a standard and folks reject that standard. Ain't shit wrong with that. Yall complain if you think a nigga should only dress and behave a certain way to be worthy of respect.

    Yep

    It’s intertwined with the politics of respectability

    Her persona is being used as another opportunity for the basement dwellers to attack any woman who isn’t buttoned up, any woman who has an overtly sexy image, and any woman who doesn’t meet the measurement for “wifeability" or better yet respect gets the “we need more women like Ayesha”

    Which is obviously problematic

    And it is dangerous for the women who are being attacked for not “living up” to an ideal I'm sure they never declared any allegiance to in the first place

    Now she is catching some of the blow back

    Her initial tweets that started this whole thing about being covered up were a lil problematic as well, so she isn't exactly innocent. In a roundabout way she insinuated that women who dress a certain way are doing it for the wrong reasons, as if women don't have other reasons besides the male gaze to prefer a certain style of clothing

    It's unfortunate, but she'll survive

    honest question why do women wear things like thong bikinis... short shorts... and high cut skirts... for other than male attention.

    Lol

    Women, like men, often dress according to fashion. So maybe she may just want to be trendy and stylish

    We love our bodies. And like the way it makes our bodies look

    Or maybe because it's hot

    For the sake of knowing most other women you know wouldn't be able to pull the same outfit off

    Not as if there is anything wrong with a heterosexual woman seeking male attention- feeling desirable and attractive feels good

    There are other ways to gain a man's attention. What we choose to wear is just one way

    Same as when a man dresses a certain way, or puts on cologne, or buys a particular car to attract women

    If me simply wearing a thong bikini provokes a man into groping me or calling me out my name that is out of my control and should reflect poorly upon him

    All this talk of what should be considered respectable is just another way to police and govern over anyone who doesn't adhere to the traditional values of white, Christian, hetero men

    but you can be trendy and stylish without wearing short shorts or a thong bikini...

    btw the last part has nothing to do with white... Christian hetero men... in pretty much all cultures the less the woman wears the less respect she gets from men.. not saying its right but its the truth..


    also outside of the "its hot" argument every point you said for reasons women wear clothes like that.. point to getting attention... but you cant dress like that and want attention but get mad at the attention you get...

    Attention is one thing, but disrespect is another

    And in many cultures around the world the women walk around basically nude

    Go to some remote villages in Africa, the women are basically nude


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  • Re: Ayesha Curry Vs. Thots Pt. 2

    blackrain wrote: »
    jono wrote: »
    Ita a fair assessment. If someone tells you or acts like there is only one way to behave and act to be worthy of respect then you would be offended too.

    The problem is here is she isn't doing the judging. She is being pointed out as a standard and folks reject that standard. Ain't shit wrong with that. Yall complain if you think a nigga should only dress and behave a certain way to be worthy of respect.

    Yep

    It’s intertwined with the politics of respectability

    Her persona is being used as another opportunity for the basement dwellers to attack any woman who isn’t buttoned up, any woman who has an overtly sexy image, and any woman who doesn’t meet the measurement for “wifeability" or better yet respect gets the “we need more women like Ayesha”

    Which is obviously problematic

    And it is dangerous for the women who are being attacked for not “living up” to an ideal I'm sure they never declared any allegiance to in the first place

    Now she is catching some of the blow back

    Her initial tweets that started this whole thing about being covered up were a lil problematic as well, so she isn't exactly innocent. In a roundabout way she insinuated that women who dress a certain way are doing it for the wrong reasons, as if women don't have other reasons besides the male gaze to prefer a certain style of clothing

    It's unfortunate, but she'll survive

    That's not her fault though. She didn't say that, other people put that image of being the standard onto her. People coming at her personally for some shit she didn't do, say, or ask for. That's why people say those who got negative things to say are projecting their own insecurities onto a person who don't got shit to do with how they feel. If somebody simply living their life can make you not like them, you're the problem.

    Her initial tweets weren't even that bad, people just made more of them than what they were on some hit dog will holler shit. People want her to be the stereotype of an athlete's wife so bad and the fact that she's not pisses some people off.

    Yes, she doesn't deserve a lot of the personal attacks

    But if we are being honest, while her comments were not atypical of many Christian women, they were really unnecessary

    They were also self congratulating and judgemental

    The type that usually invoke a strong reaction, one way or another
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  • Re: Ayesha Curry Vs. Thots Pt. 2

    jono wrote: »
    Ita a fair assessment. If someone tells you or acts like there is only one way to behave and act to be worthy of respect then you would be offended too.

    The problem is here is she isn't doing the judging. She is being pointed out as a standard and folks reject that standard. Ain't shit wrong with that. Yall complain if you think a nigga should only dress and behave a certain way to be worthy of respect.

    Yep

    It’s intertwined with the politics of respectability

    Her persona is being used as another opportunity for the basement dwellers to attack any woman who isn’t buttoned up, any woman who has an overtly sexy image, and any woman who doesn’t meet the measurement for “wifeability" or better yet respect gets the “we need more women like Ayesha”

    Which is obviously problematic

    And it is dangerous for the women who are being attacked for not “living up” to an ideal I'm sure they never declared any allegiance to in the first place

    Now she is catching some of the blow back

    Her initial tweets that started this whole thing about being covered up were a lil problematic as well, so she isn't exactly innocent. In a roundabout way she insinuated that women who dress a certain way are doing it for the wrong reasons, as if women don't have other reasons besides the male gaze to prefer a certain style of clothing

    It's unfortunate, but she'll survive
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  • Re: Russell Wilson And Ciara Are Engaged

    AggyAF wrote: »
    AggyAF wrote: »
    i don't know about you niggas, but as long as i have no kids, i would never ever marry a single mother

    you niggas gone pass up on some good ass women only to wife a chick and it dont work out and be in the same situation anyway..

    Give me reasons why I should pick a single mother over an equivalent woman without kids


    in reality no two people are the same though

    we are a collection of our experiences, environment, genes, etc

    I understand not wanting someone with a lot of baggage because of the risks involved

    but some ppl you just click with, there's chemistry


    but never mind ....some of you don't even look at women as people

    we are just cars, just different models

    and marriage is a business transaction


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