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I need some help ladies

bignorm
bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
edited June 2012 in The Powder Room
Long story short.

I grew up with a girl who was like my sister, even tho i was always actually loved with her on some
Kevin Arnold/Winnie Cooper Dawson/Joey Rudy/Bud type 🤬 .
We talkin adolescent, young 🤬 🤬 . I aint seen her since i was 15. I am turning 32 on sunday.

Anyway, I am going back to the old hood in a little over a week. I told her in an email.
(We have kept in touch, talk 5-6 times a year). No more, no less.
We have acknowledged that there were real feelings there, but that we were too young/naive to
act on it. REally the time we wouldve, i moved away.


Anywho...............
our emails always end "Love, or Love always, or just "talk to you later".


This one ended (from her)
"Love Even if it hurts"
_____________

I need help/interpretation from the ladies on this.
What exactly does that mean? i dont wanna read too much/too little into that.
I dont want it to be weird and I dont want it to be on some "Somethin about Mary" 🤬 either.

Comments

  • bignorm
    bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
    @atribecalledgabi too. I hate that you cant edit 🤬 no more.
  • Bookworm
    Bookworm Members Posts: 1,080 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I think she's trying to convey something here. Not really sure on what. Maybe you need to make a move.
  • dallas' 4 eva
    dallas' 4 eva Dallas Cowboys 2016 NFC EAST CHAMPS Members Posts: 11,216 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Bruh I don't even have to be a women to tell you that you need to make a move.
  • Westie
    Westie Whore Savant the vagina nebulaMembers Posts: 12,479 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Aren't you married? Maybe i have the wrong poster, but If so her meaning = attempting to be a home wrecker.
  • DNB1
    DNB1 Still nigga... Members Posts: 19,704 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Damn I thought Mrs West retired......One of the finest women to bless us with her presence.

    On topic....."Love Even if it hurts"

    ^this means she love yo ass, but it's a love that causes pain cause it isn't meant to be....prolly cause y'all both got s/o's now.
  • bignorm
    bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Damn I thought Mrs West retired......One of the finest women to bless us with her presence.

    On topic....."Love Even if it hurts"

    ^this means she love yo ass, but it's a love that causes pain cause it isn't meant to be....prolly cause y'all both got s/o's now.


    This could be it man. Damn.
    Anyway, still trying to find out, is this a saying?
    A 🤬 song title or some 🤬 , i aint know about?
    Or is it clear?
  • MissK
    MissK #Lurkerlivesmatter FuckyouIcontribute Behind a DeskMembers Posts: 4,103 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Or maybe she has feelings for you but thinks that you don't feel the same..

  • MsSouthern
    MsSouthern Bunny Members, Moderators Posts: 21,791 Regulator
    but your married .....


    you shouldn't be communicating with another woman like this
  • atribecalledgabi
    atribecalledgabi DragonstoneMembers, Moderators Posts: 14,063 Regulator
    you bout to have a 794043506420.jpg

    on your hands



    ol double or nothin ass
  • bignorm
    bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Stopped reading at "anywho"....da 🤬 ?

    Also prolly talkin bout a white girl.

    Nah 🤬 , she black.
  • bignorm
    bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Well, i hear ya. But this thread aint about marriage. i am asking specifically about that
    salutation she ended with.

    Cuz a 🤬 just booked that flight.
    Anyway, this 🤬 is blowing my mind.
  • bignorm
    bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I aint say i was gonna cheat. But, i am gonna "hang out".
    Whatever happens happens.
  • bignorm
    bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
    smh..are you 🤬 kidding me right now though?

    How would you feel if she went to go 'hang out' with a man that obviously had some type of feelings for her?

    Turn her loose already.


    The only thing that tells me she "obviously" has feelings is this thread.
    Its why i created it. I cant read it right now.
  • bignorm
    bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
    From the female's perspective..........

    Do i just ask her straight up in response what that means?
  • Bussy_Getta
    Bussy_Getta STFUMembers Posts: 37,679 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Oh 🤬 I would attack your ass with hot ass frying grease if you were my man hanging out with 🤬 !!!!
  • bignorm
    bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Oh 🤬 I would attack your ass with hot ass frying grease if you were my man hanging out with 🤬 !!!!

    lmao
  • bignorm
    bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
    So i asked her what that meant, so i know before i get there.
    No answer. I know she checked her email too.
    smh. I 🤬 hate when people leave 🤬 ambiguous.
  • bignorm
    bignorm Members Posts: 5,410 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Ok, i got my answer. Here is part of the text of her email, in response to my question.

    The saying Love even if it hurts has nothing to do with you. Sorry. It's just about my life in general. Why would you think that it was about you?

    Ok, take at face value?
    Truth?
    Lie?
    Embarrassed that i asked about it?

    I'll find out in person in a few days, lol, but what yall think?
  • blakfyahking
    blakfyahking The IC's Resident Father Figure Members Posts: 15,785 ✭✭✭✭✭
    t/s

    I feel you tho bruh

    it ain't easy to cut slingload on the wife when kids are in the picture

    naive mofos think it's easy to just up and change your kids' lifestyle just cause wifey ain't cutting the mustard no more



    but at some point you gon have to keep it real with the spouse

    5 or 6 times a year fam? I'm surprised you haven't already cheated SMH
  • UPTOWN
    UPTOWN Members, Moderators, Writer Posts: 13,009 Regulator
    MRDRO wrote: »
    SHE BASICALLY TELLIN YOU THAT

    1. SHE GOT SOMEBODY RIGHT NOW AND SHE WOULD LOVE TO "BE" WITH YOU, BUT....

    2. SHE JUST BEING "EXTRA"
    i hate the 🤬 outta this 🤬
    ol "youre the one i let get away" ass women "but im happy with who im with" ass women "he's a great guy" ass women "but man i really have these feelings i want to act on" ass women

    and its ALWAYS thru email .... just block her ol confused ass. she just using you on some feminine 🤬 that you'll never understand anyway
  • UPTOWN
    UPTOWN Members, Moderators, Writer Posts: 13,009 Regulator
    kai_valya wrote: »
    bignorm wrote: »
    I aint say i was gonna cheat. But, i am gonna "hang out".
    Whatever happens happens.

    that's still wrong, what are you gonna do after you hang out? keep "hanging out" forever?

    you have to really ask your self, is your marriage worth this? i get the impression that you're not really in love with your wife like that. now as commendable as it is that you are doing this for your kids, tbh, you're not doing any good for anyone

    you are showing your kids the WRONG example of what a loving relationship is. and seriously, that's too much weight on children's shoulders to make them the reason that you stay in your marriage. that's not fair to them. you can love them and be a great father without being with their mother


    either way it's your choice, if you choose to stay married, than you have to do it whole-heartedly, if you're not gonna do that then don't stay married
    dont listen to any of this lol

    especially the bolded. this logic is from the same vein as the mind set of girly emailing you
    basically she's saying
    "get took for child support" "work double shifts to get out of the arrears" "let your kids mom 🤬 you over during visitation etc.... but dont ever cheat on her!!!"

    i swear married women are the most selfish ppl i have ever met

    btw kai i love you, youre a beautiful black queen


    lol

  • Iheart~Cali
    Iheart~Cali Members Posts: 5,991 ✭✭✭✭✭
    This is all bad. You're married.
  • deadeye
    deadeye Walmart Warrior Kat's buttMembers Posts: 22,884 ✭✭✭✭✭
    kai_valya wrote: »
    bignorm wrote: »
    I aint say i was gonna cheat. But, i am gonna "hang out".
    Whatever happens happens.

    that's still wrong, what are you gonna do after you hang out? keep "hanging out" forever?

    you have to really ask your self, is your marriage worth this? i get the impression that you're not really in love with your wife like that. now as commendable as it is that you are doing this for your kids, tbh, you're not doing any good for anyone

    you are showing your kids the WRONG example of what a loving relationship is. and seriously, that's too much weight on children's shoulders to make them the reason that you stay in your marriage. that's not fair to them. you can love them and be a great father without being with their mother


    either way it's your choice, if you choose to stay married, than you have to do it whole-heartedly, if you're not gonna do that then don't stay married
    dont listen to any of this lol

    especially the bolded. this logic is from the same vein as the mind set of girly emailing you
    basically she's saying
    "get took for child support" "work double shifts to get out of the arrears" "let your kids mom 🤬 you over during visitation etc.... but dont ever cheat on her!!!"

    i swear married women are the most selfish ppl i have ever met

    btw kai i love you, youre a beautiful black queen


    lol

    Cheaper to keep her.