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Study: Why women do not listen to the good guys- Being sensitive/considerate the best strategy?

Young_Chitlin
Young_Chitlin YCN Chief/FCC Member/#RedVelvetSquad Member/IC Task Force GeneralASUville, PhoenixMembers Posts: 23,852 ✭✭✭✭✭
Why women do not listen to the good guys?
To be very sensitive and considerate the best strategy to woo a woman ? Study yielded revealing results.

Chile, El Mercurio / GDA

If, in the early romantic encounters for men, a sensitive woman is more attractive and feminine, for them the perception that generates a very sensitive or overly attentive suitor is different: it has a negative and associated with a strategy to please and achieve greater privacy than a genuine sentiment. Interested in the dynamics of love relationships, American researchers from the universities of Rochester (Illinois) and the Interdisciplinary Center Herzliya (Israel) conducted a study that proves to be very kind and considerate is not always the best strategy.

"Our findings show that it is not necessarily true that a higher sensitivity and empathy are relevant in an initial encounter, because the attitude of a potential partner has different meanings according to the people," says the Israeli psychologist Gurit Birnbaum, one of the authors.

For example, a first study found that the sensitivity is perceived by men as a feminine trait and therefore attractive, to them than a man showing sensitive and attentive is not relevant, even tend to distrust their true purpose.

To Graciela Rojas, Specialist Psychiatric Clinic of the University of Chile, the results are interesting about the behaviors of conquest. "Women always claim more sensitive behaviors of men, but what this study shows is that once produced, do not believe them. Apparently, in the game of seduction misunderstandings occur."

"We do not know why, but women may perceive more masculine sensibility as a form of manipulation or attempted sexual favors, for example, or as a more anxious and desperate attitude that is less sexually attractive to them" ??, says Birnbaum, who adds that this does not mean that men should give up the sensitivity.

However, Rojas adds that we must not forget that there are cultural differences and generational changes are also crucial. "The present generations have a different approach. Valuations are different behaviors of approach. Man is now more sensitive, whereas before they were more hidden emotions," says the psychiatrist.
Chile, El Mercurio / GDA

Si en los primeros encuentros románticos para los hombres una mujer sensible resulta más atractiva y femenina, para ellas la percepción que genera un pretendiente muy sensible o demasiado atento es diferente: tiene un carácter más negativo y lo asocian a una estrategia para agradar y lograr mayor intimidad, que a un sentimiento genuino.

Interesados en indagar un poco en la dinámica de las relaciones amorosas, investigadores estadounidenses de las universidades de Rochester (Illinois) y del Centro Interdisciplinario Herzliya (Israel) realizaron un estudio que demuestra que ser muy amable y considerado no es siempre la mejor estrategia.

”Nuestros hallazgos muestran que no es necesariamente cierto que una mayor sensibilidad y empatía sean relevantes en un encuentro inicial, porque la actitud de una potencial pareja tiene diferentes significados según la gente", explica el psicólogo israelí Gurit Birnbaum, uno de los autores.

Así, por ejemplo, en un primer estudio observaron que mientras que la sensibilidad es percibida por los hombres como un rasgo femenino y por tanto atractivo, para ellas que un hombre se muestre sensible y atento no es relevante, incluso tienden a desconfiar de su verdadero propósito.

Para Graciela Rojas, especialista de la Clínica Psiquiátrica de la Universidad de Chile, los resultados son interesantes en torno a las conductas de conquista. "Las mujeres siempre reclaman por conductas más sensibles de los hombres, pero lo que muestra este estudio es que una vez que se producen, no las creen. Al parecer, en el juego de la seducción se dan malas interpretaciones".

"Aún no sabemos bien por qué, pero las mujeres quizá perciben la sensibilidad masculina más como una forma de manipulación o de intento de obtener favores sexuales, por ejemplo, o como una actitud más ansiosa y desesperada, que resulta menos atractiva sexualmente para ellas", precisa Birnbaum, quien agrega que esto no significa que el hombre debe dejar de lado la sensibilidad.

Sin embargo, Rojas agrega que no hay que olvidar que existen diferencias culturales y que los cambios generacionales también son determinantes. "Las generaciones actuales tienen una aproximación diferente. Hay valoraciones distintas de las conductas de acercamiento. El hombre es hoy más sensible, mientras que antes sus emociones estaban más escondidas", dice la psiquiatra.

Comments

  • LUClEN
    LUClEN Absence makes the heart grow fonder of someone else Members Posts: 20,559 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited August 2014
    Good drop but where is their methodology and the results?
  •   Colin$mackabi$h
    Colin$mackabi$h Smartass Snatch Money ave.Members Posts: 16,586 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited August 2014
    I adore women. I have to share this world with them so I like to try to understand them better. The hardship comes when women try not to be understood by a man.
  • Lustchyld
    Lustchyld Members Posts: 987 ✭✭✭✭
    Copper wrote: »
    We all know hoes don't value traits that they claim to value

    /thread
  • [Deleted User]
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  • Ajackson17
    Ajackson17 On the shoulders of Giants and Elders in history UniverseMembers Posts: 22,501 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Lets be honest...

    NOBODY listens to the nice anybody.

    Thats why Life Coaching is a gotdamn thing.

    Yeah there will be some that say they dony respond well to negative reinforcement, but the majority of man kind needs a proverbial boot in its ass.
    Everybody think they know better.

    Humanity is doomed from the beginning.
  • GorillaWitAttitude
    GorillaWitAttitude Members Posts: 3,566
    Those the type of women you don't want to deal with. One time I asked a chick to go to the Jubilee with me. Da 🤬 thought I was asking here out. Me being Mr. Nice Guy was shut down. Deal with the nerdy and the business chicks they the best.
  • Melqart
    Melqart Epistemophilic Pronounced Malk-artGuests, Members Posts: 3,679 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Those the type of women you don't want to deal with. One time I asked a chick to go to the Jubilee with me. Da 🤬 thought I was asking here out. Me being Mr. Nice Guy was shut down. Deal with the nerdy and the business chicks they the best.

    you stay giving advice about 🤬 you know nothing about... and you know damn well you dont talk the way you type. 🤬 is weak. talk about 🤬 you've actually good at rather than front all the time, hope you're not suprised why nobody really likes you on here
  • GorillaWitAttitude
    GorillaWitAttitude Members Posts: 3,566
    Meroe wrote: »
    Those the type of women you don't want to deal with. One time I asked a chick to go to the Jubilee with me. Da 🤬 thought I was asking here out. Me being Mr. Nice Guy was shut down. Deal with the nerdy and the business chicks they the best.

    you stay giving advice about 🤬 you know nothing about... and you know damn well you dont talk the way you type. 🤬 is weak. talk about 🤬 you've actually good at rather than front all the time, hope you're not suprised why nobody really likes you on here

    I talk kinda proper Black in real life, but I try to have a little alter ego on the net.
  • infamous114
    infamous114 Down in Miami where it's warm in the winter. Members, Moderators Posts: 52,202 Regulator
    Meroe wrote: »
    Those the type of women you don't want to deal with. One time I asked a chick to go to the Jubilee with me. Da 🤬 thought I was asking here out. Me being Mr. Nice Guy was shut down. Deal with the nerdy and the business chicks they the best.

    you stay giving advice about 🤬 you know nothing about... and you know damn well you dont talk the way you type. 🤬 is weak. talk about 🤬 you've actually good at rather than front all the time, hope you're not suprised why nobody really likes you on here

    I talk kinda proper Black in real life, but I try to have a little alter ego on the net.

    Lol. This kid...
  • goldenja
    goldenja Members Posts: 6,351 ✭✭✭✭✭
    different strokes for different folks, its not that big of a deal.. If the feelings between the 2 aren't mutual then move on.
  • BelovedAfeni
    BelovedAfeni The Pimp Slap App 5150 NationMembers Posts: 8,647 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Do you

    statitistics will have you 🤬 up in the game
  • Wu-Tang
    Wu-Tang Members Posts: 69 ✭✭
    Does this apply for all women or just those in Chile?
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