What's up everyone. We are doing a contest with T.I. and we are giving away $1200 a day for the next 10 days. Just wanted to give you all a heads up.
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4 years of marriage and now getting a divorce.

AK.aPHillYisILL
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So me and my wife of 4 years (yeah not a long time of marriage) but been together for 6 are getting a divorce. We have a Daughter who just turned 3 on the 19th. I feel bad for my baby girl cause she looks confused and doesn't really know what's going on. Me and my ex haven't been on good terms for about the last 6 months or so. We are always fighting... And I mean fighting about everything. Saying nasty 🤬 🤬 to each other. We use to click like it was nothing and agree on 🤬 pretty easily... We loved each other very much... But it's not like that anymore. The last 6 months we have grown a part. We stopped being close to each other.... No kissing, no holding hands... no hugging and 🤬 like that... And all the I love you's stopped between me and her. It has been so bad that I almost thought about cheating on her numerous of times because we haven't had sex with each other since November of 2016. And we use to have a lot of sex but it suddenly stopped. A lot of nights I would just take off and go hang out with my homies and just want to leave the house because of all my frustrations towards her. Or other nights I would go kick it with some of my old home girls from back in the day and see if I could really cheat on my wife because it's been so bad... But I didn't because I was still trying to save our marriage... But over the last month or so I decided that I can't do this with my wife anymore... It's not healthy for either of us so a few weeks back I decided to file for divorce. I don't look at her the same like before... My love for her drifted away and it's not coming back.

The only person I feel bad for is our Daughter because she doesn't deserve this. I don't want her tormented by this and think that this is how a relationship is suppose to be so I did what was right. She doesn't need to keep seeing me and her Mom fighting all the 🤬 time and saying bad 🤬 to each other. She doesn't need to see that 🤬 . That was one of the main reasons why I pulled the plug on our marriage. I'm sad by this whole situation because I really thought we was going to be together til the very end. She really was the love of my life... But with how things have been for the last half a year, for me it's over. We tried talking about saving our marriage for months but nothing has changed. When my wife finally got served with those papers she was irate. She called me up right away after she got served and started crying and cursing at me and called me a failure and all that other 🤬 ... I felt bad but I had to keep my composure.

I know this isn't going to end well between me and her... See my wife is the kind of person to hold a grudge she will never forget about this. She will never forgive me for this. But i'm at that point where I really don't give a 🤬 no more.

Anyone been through a divorce???
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  • huey
    huey Members Posts: 11,743 ✭✭✭✭✭
    i feel u but maybe this shouldnt be in donkey
  • banginscrew901
    banginscrew901 Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 7,148 ✭✭✭✭✭
    What caused the disconnect with y'all 2?
  • manofmorehouse
    manofmorehouse Members Posts: 2,716 ✭✭✭✭✭
    🤬 is rough man. If say try to see if it can be salvaged. If not, start trting to be as cordial ad possible because y'all have a child together.
  • banginscrew901
    banginscrew901 Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 7,148 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Yall should have gone to counseling is not to late to go cause if she hold grudges like that you bout to be mad/ angry with her. If y'all don't get counseling then she may need it herself cause her anger is going to bleed over into your daughter and that won't be good.

  • SolemnSauce
    SolemnSauce Don't wanna go tew hard, Don't wanna upset em, tryta infiltrate I won't let em, naaah I vet em In my skin Members Posts: 15,860 ✭✭✭✭✭
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  • Beta
    Beta #FastFamily Members Posts: 65,596 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I understand man. Me being me I would say it can be worked out in the future.
  • Mr Popo
    Mr Popo Just Call Me Mister Members Posts: 3,289 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Try some marriage therapy
  • aneed123
    aneed123 Members Posts: 23,763 ✭✭✭✭✭
    its crazy how things can go from good to bad that quick... I hope things work out for u homie....
  • aneed123
    aneed123 Members Posts: 23,763 ✭✭✭✭✭
    charles2 wrote: »
    I've considered divorce a few times, but it's because my wife is a low key alcoholic. Our three kids the only reason we still together.

    Sounds like in your situation you the one 🤬 🤬 up though. Always leaving to hang with the homies and hoes. Take accountability and stop 🤬 up. Or if you plain don't like her then end it and don't fight her on custody or anything cause again, you the one 🤬 up.

    I didnt get that from his post... It seems like his wife stoped loving him and stopped having sex... He goes out to keep from going off at home.
  • TheNightKing
    TheNightKing Antisocial Extrovert Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 2,484 ✭✭✭✭✭
    aneed123 wrote: »
    charles2 wrote: »
    I've considered divorce a few times, but it's because my wife is a low key alcoholic. Our three kids the only reason we still together.

    Sounds like in your situation you the one 🤬 🤬 up though. Always leaving to hang with the homies and hoes. Take accountability and stop 🤬 up. Or if you plain don't like her then end it and don't fight her on custody or anything cause again, you the one 🤬 up.

    I didnt get that from his post... It seems like his wife stoped loving him and stopped having sex... He goes out to keep from going off at home.

    If she irate about the divorce papers she still love him. If she stopped having sex with him it was probably because he was 🤬 up. People got to take accountability. Be 🤬 up then blame their spouse for their reaction to them 🤬 up. You expect that person to get 🤬 on then act like it never happened?
  • fortyacres
    fortyacres Members, Moderators Posts: 4,480 Regulator
    have you communicated all this time her ?
  • Fosheezy
    Fosheezy AKA Flying Wonders the Diamond Mind Members Posts: 3,204 ✭✭✭✭✭
    We only got one side of the story.

    But sound like somewhere along the lines a few rules got broken (lack of attention, time, intimacy, sex) and instead of talk it out and correct the problem y'all both add more salt in them game and break more rules repaying bad for bad.

    Honestly filing for divorce is wack 🤬 it's not like she bust it open for the lunch 🤬 or something.

    I'm not saying it's all you but as head of household you assume a lot of responsibility for how the marriage turn out by default. If you really love the mother of your child patience would have saw you through this little rough patch.

    I think divorcing her is foul move and just running away from your problems instead of facing them to say the least.
  • Max.
    Max. Members Posts: 33,009 ✭✭✭✭✭
    She prolly getn fuckn by ray ray at work

    Sad....blood u better get 50 custody b4 this 🤬 get u for $$$$
  • Trillfate
    Trillfate "i used to like the Ride more now i like the Race...i used like the Prize more now i like the Chase" Members Posts: 24,008 ✭✭✭✭✭
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    But u told @King_sorrow marriage is a waste of time and life..
  • b'mer...
    b'mer... Members Posts: 1,119 ✭✭✭✭✭
    It seems like there are some very key details being left out. Mainly concerning things about u and or why the relationship just died. Either what your ambitions as a man were or your work ethic no longer matched what it was in the beginning. And this could be vice versa. But something is not being disclosed.
  • blacktux
    blacktux Members Posts: 4,559 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Most married people i know have their biggest hardships year 3-4 of marriage, happened for me too.

    Good advice already been dropped. You probably just sticking around for your child; the biggest "sin" in this whole 🤬 is to neglect a woman.

    Be cordial and make co-parenting as easy as possible. Once you start dating around youll feel better.

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