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How Many of Y'all Have Actually Stayed in a Relationship After Cheating Has Happened?

Blue Virgo
Blue Virgo Members Posts: 7,092 ✭✭✭
edited September 2010 in For The Grown & Sexy
Whether it's posters on the IC telling tales of cheating or how they would cheat no matter the girl or it's gossip sites telling us of the latest celebrity affair--cheating maintains its position as a highly talked about issue/concern.

With that being said, I'd like to know exactly how you feel about cheating--whether it's you doing the cheating or someone cheating on you.
Is it a deal breaker for you?
Would you be willing to stay with someone that's cheated on you?

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  • Coby Vibes
    Coby Vibes Members Posts: 2,892
    edited August 2010
    blue virgo wrote: »
    Whether it's posters on the IC telling tales of cheating or how they would cheat no matter the girl or it's gossip sites telling us of the latest celebrity affair--cheating maintains its position as a highly talked about issue/concern.

    With that being said, I'd like to know exactly how you feel about cheating--whether it's you doing the cheating or someone cheating on you.
    Is it a deal breaker for you?
    Would you be willing to stay with someone that's cheated on you?


    monogamy is not natural. so no it aint deal breaker. some men dont know how to multitask. they dont know how to keep a side piece and maintain home.


    and oh yeah.. dont try to regulate my punash neither. I got options too
  • 100%Sag
    100%Sag Members Posts: 294
    edited August 2010
    6-9 months ago: Dealbreaker. No if's, and's, or but's about it.

    Recently: I think monogomy is too rare to hold these standards much longer. Seems like everyone cheats. Its too easy.
  • McGeeAKey
    McGeeAKey Members Posts: 1,928 ✭✭
    edited August 2010
    most did,but if the sex is good and the money is right,why leave?

    alot of people stay for the wrong reasons all the time
  • blakfyahking
    blakfyahking The IC's Resident Father Figure Members Posts: 15,785 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    females 🤬 me how they don't want to accept reality on this subject

    anyways, I had a chick cheat once and I tried to forgive her by following the pressured advice of both of our parents

    after about 5 mins of attempting to forgive I had to cut slingload on shorty tho :(
  • Blue Virgo
    Blue Virgo Members Posts: 7,092 ✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    females 🤬 me how they don't want to accept reality on this subject

    What are you talking about?

    What's the reality?
  • Coby Vibes
    Coby Vibes Members Posts: 2,892
    edited August 2010
    females 🤬 me how they don't want to accept reality on this subject

    :(

    what is the reality... do tell
  • Blue Virgo
    Blue Virgo Members Posts: 7,092 ✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    McGeeAKey wrote: »
    most did,but if the sex is good and the money is right,why leave?

    alot of people stay for the wrong reasons all the time

    So...good sex and money are GOOD reasons to stay?

    What are wrong reasons?
  • Blue Virgo
    Blue Virgo Members Posts: 7,092 ✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    100%Sag wrote: »
    6-9 months ago: Dealbreaker. No if's, and's, or but's about it.

    Recently: I think monogomy is too rare to hold these standards much longer. Seems like everyone cheats. Its too easy.

    So...you're going to be accepting of it?
  • _Soulljah
    _Soulljah Members Posts: 249
    edited August 2010
    Coby Vibes wrote: »
    monogamy is not natural. so no it aint deal breaker. some men dont know how to multitask. they dont know how to keep a side piece and maintain home.


    and oh yeah.. dont try to regulate my punash neither. I got options too

    Whether or not monogamy is unnatural or not has nothing to do with the fact that the 🤬 went into a committed, exclusive relationship knowingly. He/she told the other that they were exclusive, OR it was just understood between each other that they were together and no one else. they knowingly and consciously get into a relationship, lie by telling them they are exclusive, lie by telling them OH BABY HONEY DUMPLINGS I WOULD NEVER CHEAT ON YOU when the woman finds a size bigger thong in his drawer, lie again by denying the cheating after he's caught and continue the cycle again pretending he's in a relationship when really he just wants to 🤬 other 🤬 . LOOK, if you don't wanna be monogamous, DON'T GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP. That 🤬 simple. You know good and damn well what's wrong with cheating. Lying, sneaking around, knowing what you're doing and deceiving the person you supposedly love is wrong and all that "but I'm human, it's only natural" 🤬 means nothing because YOU CHOSE THE RELATIONSHIP. You told him or her you wouldn't cheat and that you too are together. And you betrayed that trust. And that is wrong. End of discussion.

    Now shut up.
  • hood president
    hood president Members Posts: 242 ✭✭
    edited August 2010
    Never have and never will stay with a chick who cheats. Thats the ultimate form of disrespect and any REAL man who stays with a chick who cheated has no respect fort himself.

    there was a guy on here and month or so ago he was dating a women with kids and she lost her job(or quit) and cheated on him and he stayed. a example of a man who don't respect himself.

    Same for women who stay with a dude who cheats.
  • isayas
    isayas Confirm Email Posts: 2,972 ✭✭
    edited August 2010
    I find it amusing when they go back, but hey that's them.
  • blakfyahking
    blakfyahking The IC's Resident Father Figure Members Posts: 15,785 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    men really are only as faithful as their options

    it is truly impossible to fulfill every need of a single person all of the time

    especially a younger 🤬



    the only way a dude is going to be faithful is if he just doesn't have access to that temptation, or he has plowed so many chicks already he is practically tired of shallow 🤬 , or you are Ms. Perfect everything at all times (which isn't possible)

    sex just isn't a need as much for women as it is for men :shrugs
  • Blue Virgo
    Blue Virgo Members Posts: 7,092 ✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    Coby Vibes wrote: »
    monogamy is not natural. so no it aint deal breaker. some men dont know how to multitask. they dont know how to keep a side piece and maintain home.


    and oh yeah.. dont try to regulate my punash neither. I got options too

    So if your boyfriend/husband cheated on you, you'd definitely stay because it's not a big deal to you?
  • hood president
    hood president Members Posts: 242 ✭✭
    edited August 2010
    _soulljah wrote: »
    whether or not monogamy is unnatural or not has nothing to do with the fact that the 🤬 went into a committed, exclusive relationship knowingly. He/she told the other that they were exclusive, or it was just understood between each other that they were together and no one else. They knowingly and consciously get into a relationship, lie by telling them they are exclusive, lie by telling them oh baby honey dumplings i would never cheat on you when the woman finds a size bigger thong in his drawer, lie again by denying the cheating after he's caught and continue the cycle again pretending he's in a relationship when really he just wants to 🤬 other 🤬 . Look, if you don't wanna be monogamous, don't get into a relationship. That 🤬 simple. You know good and damn well what's wrong with cheating. Lying, sneaking around, knowing what you're doing and deceiving the person you supposedly love is wrong and all that "but i'm human, it's only natural" 🤬 means nothing because you chose the relationship. You told him or her you wouldn't cheat and that you too are together. And you betrayed that trust. And that is wrong. End of discussion.

    Now shut up.

    100% agreed
  • Blue Virgo
    Blue Virgo Members Posts: 7,092 ✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    men really are only as faithful as their options

    it is truly impossible to fulfill every need of a single person all of the time

    especially a younger 🤬



    the only way a dude is going to be faithful is if he just doesn't have access to that temptation, or he has plowed so many chicks already he is practically tired of shallow 🤬 , or you are Ms. Perfect everything at all times (which isn't possible)

    sex just isn't a need as much for women as it is for men :shrugs

    Oh, but I don't wanna get into why people cheat.
    Thanks for explaining that though.
  • Coby Vibes
    Coby Vibes Members Posts: 2,892
    edited August 2010
    _Soulljah wrote: »
    Whether or not monogamy is unnatural or not has nothing to do with the fact that the 🤬 went into a committed, exclusive relationship knowingly. He/she told the other that they were exclusive, OR it was just understood between each other that they were together and no one else. they knowingly and consciously get into a relationship, lie by telling them they are exclusive, lie by telling them OH BABY HONEY DUMPLINGS I WOULD NEVER CHEAT ON YOU when the woman finds a size bigger thong in his drawer, lie again by denying the cheating after he's caught and continue the cycle again pretending he's in a relationship when really he just wants to 🤬 other 🤬 . LOOK, if you don't wanna be monogamous, DON'T GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP. That 🤬 simple. You know good and damn well what's wrong with cheating. Lying, sneaking around, knowing what you're doing and deceiving the person you supposedly love is wrong and all that "but I'm human, it's only natural" 🤬 means nothing because YOU CHOSE THE RELATIONSHIP. You told him or her you wouldn't cheat and that you too are together. And you betrayed that trust. And that is wrong. End of discussion.

    Now shut up.
    my arent we angry... but yes that is fukked up. folks just need to be upfront and admit they dont believe in monogamy...UPFRONT.

    how many people can say that they have said that upfront? I dont know why it's so hard for some to say that
  • CMac
    CMac Members Posts: 5,748 ✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    Never been cheated on but if I did it's over, cheating is an absolute no. Women who stay I don't blame them if they are getting everything they want whether it's financially or physically or both.
  • _Soulljah
    _Soulljah Members Posts: 249
    edited August 2010
    men really are only as faithful as their options

    it is truly impossible to fulfill every need of a single person all of the time

    especially a younger 🤬



    the only way a dude is going to be faithful is if he just doesn't have access to that temptation, or he has plowed so many chicks already he is practically tired of shallow 🤬 , or you are Ms. Perfect everything at all times (which isn't possible)

    sex just isn't a need as much for women as it is for men :shrugs

    You are so freaking IGNANT,

    there are men out there who not only respect their women in their relationships enough to refrain from sexing other 🤬 , but have no temptation to do it in the first place, EITHER. Not only do I have a man who has no interest in 🤬 nasty 🤬 (hence the reason he's a 🤬 ), he would never even CHEAT because that is a sign of disrespect, BETRAYAL OF TRUST, the ultimate kick in the 🤬 . There are men who understand this and abide by these common sense, respectful rules of any relationship. When you love someone you don't go behind their back and 🤬 up knowing you two came to a mutual agreement or understanding about your EXCLUSIVENESS. Hood boy a few posts back even agrees. There are men who too feel the way I, and most intelligent ppl like me do. If you wanna use sexing multiple ppl is normal excuses then why the 🤬 are you telling your gf you're exclusive in the first place? Why the 🤬 you get married and exchanged those vows of respect and exclusiveness in the second place, why the 🤬 did you do it on the low and then lie about when she asked in the 3rd place? BECAUSE YOU KNOW IT'S 🤬 WRONG, YOU JUST WANT YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO IN THE 4TH PLACE.

    Now shut up.
  • TX5GIN
    TX5GIN Members Posts: 883 ✭✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    blue virgo wrote: »
    Whether it's posters on the IC telling tales of cheating or how they would cheat no matter the girl or it's gossip sites telling us of the latest celebrity affair--cheating maintains its position as a highly talked about issue/concern.

    With that being said, I'd like to know exactly how you feel about cheating--whether it's you doing the cheating or someone cheating on you.
    Is it a deal breaker for you?
    Would you be willing to stay with someone that's cheated on you?


    Blue you trying to get to the nitty gritty huh?
  • blakfyahking
    blakfyahking The IC's Resident Father Figure Members Posts: 15,785 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    _Soulljah wrote: »
    You are so freaking IGNANT,

    there are men out there who not only respect their women in their relationships enough to refrain from sexing other 🤬 , but have no temptation to do it in the first place, EITHER. Not only do I have a man who has no interest in 🤬 nasty 🤬 (hence the reason he's a 🤬 ), he would never even CHEAT because that is a sign of disrespect, BETRAYAL OF TRUST, the ultimate kick in the 🤬 . There are men who understand this and abide by these common sense, respectful rules of any relationship. When you love someone you don't go behind their back and 🤬 up knowing you two came to a mutual agreement or understanding about your EXCLUSIVENESS. Hood boy a few posts back even agrees. There are men who too feel the way I, and most intelligent ppl like me do. If you wanna use sexing multiple ppl is normal excuses then why the 🤬 are you telling your gf you're exclusive in the first place? Why the 🤬 you get married and exchanged those vows of respect and exclusiveness in the second place, why the 🤬 did you do it on the low and then lie about when she asked in the 3rd place? BECAUSE YOU KNOW IT'S 🤬 WRONG, YOU JUST WANT YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO IN THE 4TH PLACE.

    Now shut up.

    ..............................

    *escorts Souljah outside to go play*
  • DEE-LICIOUS
    DEE-LICIOUS Members Posts: 6,088 ✭✭✭
    edited August 2010
    i did. wont do it again tho.
  • D-Marco
    D-Marco Members Posts: 4,308 ✭✭
    edited August 2010
    Yeah I cheated, we tried to work it out..but I was young what u expect?

    Would I except it hell no.
  • Coby Vibes
    Coby Vibes Members Posts: 2,892
    edited August 2010
    blue virgo wrote: »
    So if your boyfriend/husband cheated on you, you'd definitely stay because it's not a big deal to you?

    yeah. I dont expect to meet all his needs. some things I just aint capable of giving (not meaning sexually) so if he needs a oanother woman to meet a particular need, it may develop into sex. what am I say... do without that 🤬 .

    nah it aint fair to force people to do without...makes em miserable
  • _Soulljah
    _Soulljah Members Posts: 249
    edited August 2010
    Coby Vibes wrote: »
    my arent we angry... but yes that is fukked up. folks just need to be upfront and admit they dont believe in monogamy...UPFRONT.

    how many people can say that they have said that upfront? I dont know why it's so hard for some to say that

    The fact that the 🤬 said OKAY BABY DARLING when she asked his hand in exclusiveness was her being open about hr belief in monogamy, so right then and there that 🤬 should have said, BUT BABY, WHAT'S MONOGAMY? But noooo, he took her hand and skipped into he sunset with her. THAT'S why cheating is wrong and biological urges is no excuse.
  • _Soulljah
    _Soulljah Members Posts: 249
    edited August 2010
    ..............................

    *escorts Souljah outside to go play*

    Yeah your 🤬 got nothing intelligent or relevant to say in rebuttal because I'm right and you're just a sex-crazed scumbag. Take your pulsing 🤬 elsewhere, 🤬 .