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Some men mistake sexual interest for consent,

2stepz_ahead
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edited November 2017 in For The Grown & Sexy

When it comes to having sex, consent is crucial. While that may seem obvious, a new study in the Journal of Interpersonal Violence reveals that some men perceive a woman’s interest in them as consent for sex, misinterpreting a woman’s sexual intentions.

It may sound like splitting hairs, but there’s a difference between being interested in having sex with someone (sexual interest) and actually deciding to act on that desire (consent to sex). The problem, according to the new research, is that some men have difficulty differentiating between the two.

For the study, researchers shared a series of hypothetical sexual scenarios with 145 heterosexual male college students and asked how they would respond. The researchers found that most men tended to confuse perceived sexual interest with being given the green light to have sex.

“Sexual interest — also referred to as sexual wantedness or desire — is a subjective experience of desiring or wanting sexual interaction with another person, whereas consent is the freely given communication of willingness to actually engage in a sexual interaction,” study author Richard E. Mattson, director of graduate studies in psychology and an associate professor at Binghamton University, tells Yahoo Lifestyle.

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  • 2stepz_ahead
    2stepz_ahead Who I am is Complex, What i am, simply put. I'm a Threat walking out the lions denGuests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 32,324 ✭✭✭✭✭
    welp......here are more cases
  • Valentinez A. Kaiser
    Valentinez A. Kaiser Members Posts: 9,028 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November 2017
    When it comes to having sex, consent is crucial. While that may seem obvious, a new study in the Journal of Interpersonal Violence reveals that some men perceive a woman’s interest in them as consent for sex, misinterpreting a woman’s sexual intentions.

    It may sound like splitting hairs, but there’s a difference between being interested in having sex with someone (sexual interest) and actually deciding to act on that desire (consent to sex). The problem, according to the new research, is that some men have difficulty differentiating between the two.

    For the study, researchers shared a series of hypothetical sexual scenarios with 145 heterosexual male college students and asked how they would respond. The researchers found that most men tended to confuse perceived sexual interest with being given the green light to have sex.

    “Sexual interest — also referred to as sexual wantedness or desire — is a subjective experience of desiring or wanting sexual interaction with another person, whereas consent is the freely given communication of willingness to actually engage in a sexual interaction,” study author Richard E. Mattson, director of graduate studies in psychology and an associate professor at Binghamton University, tells Yahoo Lifestyle.

    the rest at
    https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/men-mistake-sexual-interest-consent-new-study-shows-165332234.html

    I wanna see these DTF scenarios!
  • jono
    jono Right fist = power, left fist = unity Members Posts: 30,280 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Waste of taxpayer money
  • 5 Grand
    5 Grand Members Posts: 12,869 ✭✭✭✭✭
    My $0.02

    Scenario 1. You're on a date with a chick and you go back to her apartment, or she comes back to your apartment and you start fooling around and then you 🤬 her. Its possible that there was a misunderstanding about consent. Maybe he thought she wanted it when she didn't or whatever.

    Scenario 2. You're wearing a ski mask and you sneak in through the window. You hold the girl at gunpoint and tie her up and 🤬 her.


    In my opinion, scenario 1 shouldn't be considered 🤬 because the guy might have genuinely thought that she consented. There should be an alternate term for scenario 1. Or maybe a guy should get a pass the first time it happens (I just thought of that but it actually makes sense).

    The second scenario is clear 🤬 and he should go directly to prison.
  • MsSouthern
    MsSouthern Bunny Members, Moderators Posts: 21,791 Regulator
    Sexual Misconduct is very vague and theres no answer to it.
    Any woman can proclaim misconduct no matter how overtly consenting she was prior.

    So can any man ....
  • jetlifebih
    jetlifebih Sion Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 4,655 ✭✭✭✭✭
    When i worked corrections ....they had a very important part of the training called “the games inmates play”

    Basically they would put you up on game about the 🤬 inmates do to manipulate officers.....

    There needs to be a class called “the games women play”

    🤬 you mean your interested in 🤬 but you don’t want to 🤬 ....is you 🤬 or not?? Your girlfriend requested me on fb was eyeing me the whole 🤬 night anyway ...stop playing games....

    This really sounds like some 🤬 chicks used to do right around that age where you stopped listening to your parents when they WASNT there...this issue seems adolescent in nature
  • Mister B.
    Mister B. Still the Devil's #1 Advocate. Come on out that box! Members, Writer Posts: 16,172 ✭✭✭✭✭
    The double standard.....
  • Trollio
    Trollio Trollololololololololol Members Posts: 25,817 ✭✭✭✭✭
    You admitted you're a 🤬 before 🤬



    We get it
  • Chi Snow
    Chi Snow Night's Watch Castle BlackGuests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 28,111 ✭✭✭✭✭
    Yijaaaa!
  • LPast
    LPast Members Posts: 4,546 ✭✭✭✭✭
    I wouldn't have this problem...
  • Shuffington
    Shuffington Members Posts: 3,775 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November 2017
    MsSouthern wrote: »
    Sexual Misconduct is very vague and theres no answer to it.
    Any woman can proclaim misconduct no matter how overtly consenting she was prior.

    So can any man ....

    Well, The study is pointing to the many instances where MEN are misinterpreting sexual interest with eventual consent resulting in this very vague area we now call "misconduct."

    At the end of the day misconduct is misconduct.... Its a very blurry space where you have to set boundaries and clear definitions.... both men and women need to take part in.

    its not 🤬 or sexual assault tho.

    Lets not turn this vague area into another attack term to ostracize some dude who made the first move at the wrong moment.



  • MsSouthern
    MsSouthern Bunny Members, Moderators Posts: 21,791 Regulator
    MsSouthern wrote: »
    Sexual Misconduct is very vague and theres no answer to it.
    Any woman can proclaim misconduct no matter how overtly consenting she was prior.

    So can any man ....

    Well, The study is pointing to the many instances where MEN are misinterpreting sexual interest with eventual consent resulting in this very vague area we now call "misconduct."

    At the end of the day misconduct is misconduct.... Its a very blurry space where you have to set boundaries and clear definitions.

    its not 🤬 or sexual assault tho.

    Lets not turn "misconduct" into another attack term to ostracize some dude who made the first move at the wrong moment.



    I'm just pointing out it's not only women who can do that

    Not disagreeing with you on misconduct not being the same as 🤬 or sexual assault
  • jetlifebih
    jetlifebih Sion Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 4,655 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited December 2017
    gorilla wrote: »
    🤬 getting way outta hand. Hell soon we gonna need notarized consent to 🤬 forms.

    "Look here, before I drop this 🤬 off in you, Ima need you to initial here, here and here. Sign and date."
    Word...that dave Chapelle skit was foresight
  • 5 Grand
    5 Grand Members Posts: 12,869 ✭✭✭✭✭
    How does this sound,

    First offense you get charged with "attempted sexual misconduct" and the charges automatically get dismissed, but it stays on your record for, say, 5 years.

    If it happens again within that 5 years you're probably guilty.

    If you stay out of trouble for the 5 years it gets expunged from your record.

    Basically you get a mulligan.
  • konceptjones
    konceptjones Old School Playa Guests, Members, Writer, Content Producer Posts: 13,139 ✭✭✭✭✭
    5 Grand wrote: »
    How does this sound,

    First offense you get charged with "attempted sexual misconduct" and the charges automatically get dismissed, but it stays on your record for, say, 5 years.

    If it happens again within that 5 years you're probably guilty.

    If you stay out of trouble for the 5 years it gets expunged from your record.

    Basically you get a mulligan.

    how about we recognize that a dude misreading the vibe the chick was giving off and attempting to smash is just that and leave it alone?

    No good comes from microcriminalizing everything a dude does especially when the 🤬 the other party has a hand in leading him in that direction.
  • Trollio
    Trollio Trollololololololololol Members Posts: 25,817 ✭✭✭✭✭
    5 grand castrates men who 🤬 him
  • twenty2
    twenty2 My Ideals May Not Be Ideal But I Deal...Members Posts: 255 ✭✭
    5 Grand wrote: »
    How does this sound,

    First offense you get charged with "attempted sexual misconduct" and the charges automatically get dismissed, but it stays on your record for, say, 5 years.

    If it happens again within that 5 years you're probably guilty.

    If you stay out of trouble for the 5 years it gets expunged from your record.

    Basically you get a mulligan.

    How does this sound...

    No.

    And that goes for your proposal AND what a chick should say if she ain't ready to take it there yet.
  • jono
    jono Right fist = power, left fist = unity Members Posts: 30,280 ✭✭✭✭✭
    edited November 2017
    5 Grand wrote: »
    How does this sound,

    First offense you get charged with "attempted sexual misconduct" and the charges automatically get dismissed, but it stays on your record for, say, 5 years.

    If it happens again within that 5 years you're probably guilty.

    If you stay out of trouble for the 5 years it gets expunged from your record.

    Basically you get a mulligan.

    how about we recognize that a dude misreading the vibe the chick was giving off and attempting to smash is just that and leave it alone?

    No good comes from microcriminalizing everything a dude does especially when the 🤬 the other party has a hand in leading him in that direction.

    That's exactly what's happening. Feminists are trying to turn everything men do into a crime.
    People don't need or want all these rules in their relationships, if a chick wants to D she knows how to get it and if he knows she thinks she wants it he will shoot his shot.

    All this 🤬 , like the OP, is folks trying to prove they actually do work in the office. Nobody needs all these complications
  • 5 Grand
    5 Grand Members Posts: 12,869 ✭✭✭✭✭
    twenty2 wrote: »
    5 Grand wrote: »
    How does this sound,

    First offense you get charged with "attempted sexual misconduct" and the charges automatically get dismissed, but it stays on your record for, say, 5 years.

    If it happens again within that 5 years you're probably guilty.

    If you stay out of trouble for the 5 years it gets expunged from your record.

    Basically you get a mulligan.

    How does this sound...

    No.

    And that goes for your proposal AND what a chick should say if she ain't ready to take it there yet.

    Here's the problem with your response:

    The guy and the girl were the only two people in the room. She says that she said "no", he says she said, "yes".

    It's a he said/she said situation. The girl can't prove that she said, "no" and the guy can't prove she said, "yes".


    It goes to court and whoever can afford the better lawyer wins on a he said/she said situation.

    Getting convicted of 🤬 and having to register as a sex offender can ruin a guy's life, especially if he honestly thought she consented. I'm not saying that rapists should go free, but in certain circumstances the guy and the girl can't agree on what happened.

    I'd hate to get convicted for smashing a chick that I brought home to my apartment after a date.
  • Shuffington
    Shuffington Members Posts: 3,775 ✭✭✭✭✭
    MsSouthern wrote: »
    MsSouthern wrote: »
    Sexual Misconduct is very vague and theres no answer to it.
    Any woman can proclaim misconduct no matter how overtly consenting she was prior.

    So can any man ....

    Well, The study is pointing to the many instances where MEN are misinterpreting sexual interest with eventual consent resulting in this very vague area we now call "misconduct."

    At the end of the day misconduct is misconduct.... Its a very blurry space where you have to set boundaries and clear definitions.

    its not 🤬 or sexual assault tho.

    Lets not turn "misconduct" into another attack term to ostracize some dude who made the first move at the wrong moment.



    I'm just pointing out it's not only women who can do that

    Not disagreeing with you on misconduct not being the same as 🤬 or sexual assault

    I see your point.
    As men we need to call out all these sleeze ball women as well.

    ITS A WAR!
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